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Just got on a train...

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Vivacia · 15/09/2014 14:44

...sat actions from a table of four men discussing paying for sex. I couldn't believe my ears at first, wasn't really listening and then it became clear.
Finished with, "the only time I paid for It is the day I got married".

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BuffyBotRebooted · 15/09/2014 22:33

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SevenZarkSeven · 15/09/2014 22:33

CnP mania isn't it!

refusal to engage
refusal to engage in anything other than topics on the CnP instruction booklet

Total bungle upfront with the whole talking about fucking on public transport though.

MRA FAIL.
Nul points.

buwegevove · 15/09/2014 22:33

"Sadly buw, you messed up there, as you haven't called anyone an utter cockwomble. "

I didn't say I did. I'm not a feminist.

buwegevove · 15/09/2014 22:32

"The example punters come up with was killed as a result of DV. The fact that they see DV as the same as being prostituted is quite telling."

Petite Jasmine actually reported her abusive ex to the police. All they did to "help" her was take her children off her when they found out she was a sexworker.

SevenZarkSeven · 15/09/2014 22:31

I'm sure buw will, tinkly.

SevenZarkSeven · 15/09/2014 22:31

lol buffy

nice turn of phrase

TinklyLittleLaugh · 15/09/2014 22:30

Let me tell you about my daughter's mate.
Studying her A levels to do law at Uni. Working part time in an old peoples' home.
Doesn't get on with Mum. Befriended by nice photographer, does some modelling (she's a good looking girl).
Beaten up and thrown out by Mum who has mental health issues.
She's 18 so gets her own place, a few more hours work.
Does some pole dancing, it's a bit of fun. (Mum used to do it).
Does some dodgy photos. A boy she knows finds out. She gets a lot of stick.
Doesn't do so well in her A levels. Decides to resit.
Struggling to find her rent. Gets a job in a lap dancing club, in the next town, where she won't see anyone she knows. More money than wiping arses.
Still really struggling for her rent. Finds out a lot of the girls at the club do extras......

True story. Nobody can tell me this poor girl has not been exploited.

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CaptChaos · 15/09/2014 22:30

Sadly buw, you messed up there, as you haven't called anyone an utter cockwomble.

There is no debate. Punters are sleazy. The ones on this train were super sleazy.

SevenZarkSeven · 15/09/2014 22:29

We're not debating love. This isn't a debating society. It's a chat board for people with an interest in feminism. It says so at the top and everything.

And if we were a debating society, you lost as soon as you said it was AOK for groups of men to talk about their use of prostitutes in an explicit and offensive manner on public transport.

buwegevove · 15/09/2014 22:29

*Advocating

buwegevove · 15/09/2014 22:28

"all the problems women who sell sex face are the fault of feminists."

Advocateing raids on brothels IMO does in fact cause problems and complications for those the raids are supposedly trying to protect/rescue.

BuffyBotRebooted · 15/09/2014 22:28

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CaptChaos · 15/09/2014 22:28

Fuck! Sorry Buffy!

Also, the Nordic model kills women.

Except it doesn't. Not a single woman has died in Sweden due to being killed while working as a prostitute. The example punters come up with was killed as a result of DV. The fact that they see DV as the same as being prostituted is quite telling.

buwegevove · 15/09/2014 22:27

From The Feminist Guide To Online Debating:

"If losing an argument, call them utter cockwombles."

theendoftheendoftheend · 15/09/2014 22:26

Yes like I said it is a problem that they are too fearful, I do not know the answer unfortunately. How do you reach someone who has been brainwashed, traumatised and abused especially when they can so easily 'disappear'?
I guess a good starting point would be to try and curtail new victims? For example, if people would stop using them for sex. You know, supply and demand...
However, I am aware how difficult people find it to accept when a behaviour they are indulging in is so despicable, so they will blindsight themselves or muddle their morals to suit. So I guess asking men to refrain from using other human beings as chattel really is a fruitless endeavour. Gosh, what a pickle.

BuffyBotRebooted · 15/09/2014 22:25

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Thistledew · 15/09/2014 22:23

Here are some more question - why do you not care that you come across as a sleazy idiot on a public forum? What are you getting out of positing these comments? What are you hoping to achieve? Do you have nothing more productive to do with your time than tell women they are wrong?

PetulaGordino · 15/09/2014 22:23

this thread is a classic example of if you are losing the argument, widen it. because basically no one's going to agree that boasting about prostitution on public transport is normal

SevenZarkSeven · 15/09/2014 22:23

It's dull isn't it.

"Oh look here are headlines for the last X years about organised gangs sexually exploiting girls in the UK for years and years".

"Nope don't care look at my cut n paste here I am THE MAN and I am right if I say it never happens then it never does BEHOLD more CnP".

So WTF are all these men going to prison for, hmm?

Thistledew · 15/09/2014 22:20

Why do you think that men talk about sleazy sex in public, buw?

Stop asking us silly questions and put your mind to the issue at hand!

CaptChaos · 15/09/2014 22:20

Grimbletart, it's because they are utter cockwombles.

Calling someone a cunt is (to them) much worse than paying to have sex on a woman who doesn't want them to.

buwegevove · 15/09/2014 22:20

"Not being interrogated by police would be a good start, don't you think?"

Feminsts who made claims of rampant trafficking were the ones who wanted those raids and interrogations. Not the sexworkers, not the pimps, not the punters, not everyday Jimmy. Feminists.

Thistledew · 15/09/2014 22:18

So if they really are trafficked what do you propose will help them?

Not being interrogated by police would be a good start, don't you think?

Dear god, these men. We have to do all their thinking for them.

buwegevove · 15/09/2014 22:18

Maybe you might understand better if I add more swear words?

So if they really are fucking trafficked what do you fucking propose will fucking help them?