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Why are feminists so threatened by the MRA movement?

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LaVoixDeLaRaison · 09/09/2014 18:47

When I was at university, the Gender Equality society (of which I was a member) chose to rename itself the Feminist society, arguing that the only way equality could be achieved was by focusing on women's issues. This led some other students to set up an MRA group, which was met with some resistance from the feminists. On this very board I see commenters angrily referring to MRAs as if they are all members of an evil homogeneous group.

Isn't it possible that men and women both suffer oppression from society in different ways? That the levels of this oppression are not necessarily equal, but are still important if we are to achieve equality? I often see feminists agreeing with certain 'male issues' (e.g. media stereotypes, elevated male suicide rate), but suggesting that feminism has other priorities, and if they want to do something about these issues then they should make their own groups. Why do they get criticized when they do exactly that? Better still, wouldn't feminism be better off if it didn't alienate so many men (and women, focused on a wider range of issues, and stopped pitting the sexes against one another?

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gincamparidryvermouth · 09/09/2014 20:53

This dude is boring.

SevenZarkSeven · 09/09/2014 20:52

"Two good examples in prostitution and femicide"

Gosh thanks!

" but I'd still argue (pointlessly) that conscription and death in service outstrips other sexists constructs significantly."

No surprise there then. You're wrong, obviously. It doesn't.

Even if you want to focus on men you'd find far higher casualty rates due to sexist notions of hypermasculinity brought to an extreme in certain areas with high poverty levels. For example. That's gang violence, by the way.

TessOfTheFurbyvilles · 09/09/2014 20:52

OP - while I agree that female-on-male violence isn't taken as seriously as male-on-female violence, it's hardly female privilege is it?

As I said on another thread earlier, my brother was a victim of F-on-M domestic abuse (including very severe violence), and is now an advocate for men in such situations. He believes strongly that support services for male victims are not adequate.

However he is the first person who will correct anyone who tries to use this disparity, as somehow meaning women who are experiencing domestic abuse and who often have widespread support available, are in some way privileged.

As he would say to you, 'how is being more likely to experience domestic abuse a position of privilege?'

NB: The issue of F-on-M violence not being taken as seriously, or indeed inadequate support for men in that situation, is the fault of authorities. It is not the doing of female victims.

gertiegusset · 09/09/2014 20:51

Do we still have conscription in his country?
British women are sent to front line battle zones too now you know, they asked for this right.
Do you think more conscripted men die in battle than women are murdered by men every year?

gincamparidryvermouth · 09/09/2014 20:51

If that's what you choose to define the MRA movement as, then you are quite right to feel threatened by them. That bears very little resemblance to what they actually are, however

No true Scotsman garbage.

Beachcomber · 09/09/2014 20:51

OP, the thing that is being patiently explained to you is that men as a class already have more rights and are considered as fuller citizens than women. The world over. Globally. Everywhere.

That is not to say that things are always fair for all men, everywhere. But it is to say that we live in a system that treats men better than women. And within that system men's status as higher is dependent on women's status as lower. If men want to question that system and make it better and fair for all, that is a good thing - but in achieving that aim men will have to relinquish unearned male privilege if they want true fairness for all. Basically men have things to gain but in order to gain them, they will have to accept/embrace certain losses. If men (MRAs) want all of the gains and none of the losses then they are a threat to the Women's Rights Movement.

The act of calling a movement of sexually privileged people a "(sex) rights movement" is a threat in and of itself.

If what MRAs really want is sexual equality and an end to patriarchy, they need a moniker that communicates that. The current one does not.

HTH.

gincamparidryvermouth · 09/09/2014 20:49

children growing up without their fathers, and can cause estranged fathers to commit suicide

Can you link to a news article relating to a real-life incident to illustrate this?

SevenZarkSeven · 09/09/2014 20:49

"I daresay that MRAs aren't typically concerned about the global epidemic of sexual violence "

Right.
You see plenty of non-MRA men are concerned about the global epidemic of sexual violence. So. Right.
Additionally the idea that MRAs might get on board with being a bit worried about sexual violence if I can only bring myself to be concerned about the terrible situation with insurance premiums (addressed for many products via the Gender Directive a couple of years back) is revolting quite frankly.

incidentally the only comments I have seen around sexual violence from MRAs is about women sexually assaulting men. And attempts to say that this is as prevalent as male sexual violence against women and children. They are usually strangely silent on the fact of male sexual violence against men.

gincamparidryvermouth · 09/09/2014 20:48

Actually, it is very easy to deconstruct ignorance

I don't think you know what deconstruct means.

gincamparidryvermouth · 09/09/2014 20:47

Instead of saying 'you're woefully lacking in the knowledge (and the skills) for this argument', you should attempt to deconstruct my argument

Very keen on telling women what to do, I see.

Thereyouarepeter · 09/09/2014 20:46

I do think conscription is an issue that requires attention from both genders. As war is a feminist issue with violence against women it creates.

Two good examples in prostitution and femicide but I'd still argue (pointlessly) that conscription and death in service outstrips other sexists constructs significantly.

LaVoixDeLaRaison · 09/09/2014 20:46

LineRunner

Actually, it is very easy to deconstruct ignorance. One does so through the use of logic and evidence. A more cynical OP than me would suggest that you are not capable of deconstructing my argument (perhaps because you recognize the validity in what I have said), but don't want to back down now.

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GruffalosGirl · 09/09/2014 20:45

the eu outlawed gender discrimination in insurance costs in 2012

AnnieLobeseder · 09/09/2014 20:44

Female-on-male violence is typically seen as less serious than male-on-female violence

Because women are universally seen to be weaker, and men, under the patriarchy, are supposed to be big and tough and able to take it. Feminism fights to dismantle artificial gender constructs, which would eliminate this problem. So, this is an issue we are already tackling. No need to thank us.

-Women are typically seen as better caregivers than men, which seems to be reflected in custody disputes
Custody is given to the primary caregiver, not the woman because she is assumed to be so. Men are getting better at caring for their own children and this is reflected in the fact that more and more parents share residency 50/50. But in cases where a man was quite happy to abdicate childrearing to his partner as "women's work" while he happily continued his career can't then start crying that he suddenly want to step up and be a full-time day when the marriage breaks down. If you want to make sure you get fair access to your children, make sure you as much your child's primary carer as the mother for the child's entire life.

-Men may have to pay higher insurance than women
If you're talking about car insurance, not any more. This law has been changed. And if men weren't so keen on injuring and killing themselves and each other, this would not be true. Male aggression (resulting in higher injury rates) is also a results of artificial gender constructs which don't allow men to express emotions in a positive and healthy way. See point A for how feminists are already fighting this battle. Again, no need to thank us.

LaVoixDeLaRaison · 09/09/2014 20:43

SevenZarkSeven

Why do they have to be the main issues? They (or at least the first two) can lead to physical abuse going unnoticed, children growing up without their fathers, and can cause estranged fathers to commit suicide. I'd say that's pretty serious, and I think it's offensive to trivialize it. That's not to say that the issues that feminists typically campaign for aren't equally important, or even more important. Why can't we be concerned with both?

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SevenZarkSeven · 09/09/2014 20:43

a blog about it there is plenty more on google

LineRunner · 09/09/2014 20:42

Ah but my dear OP, one can't deconstruct ignorance.

SevenZarkSeven · 09/09/2014 20:41

Peter

What about femicide? Especially in Asia. 100s of millions missing / killed.

scallopsrgreat · 09/09/2014 20:40

It's true isn't it? Men fear women laughing at them. Women fear men killing them.

And somehow this gets twisted into into some bizarre comparable oppression.

LaVoixDeLaRaison · 09/09/2014 20:40

LineRunner

So because I'm not up-to-date with one particular section of current affairs, it automatically invalidates my entire argument? Come on, that's a childish argument. Instead of saying 'you're woefully lacking in the knowledge (and the skills) for this argument', you should attempt to deconstruct my argument. If I am what you say, then this should be very easy for you.

thereyouarepeter

A good example, one I missed. Petulia, the prostitution of women has little to do with the global conscription of men, so I fail to see how that's relevant? Surely both issues are important?

SevenZarkSeven

I daresay that MRAs aren't typically concerned about the global epidemic of sexual violence (though you'd have to ask them), just as feminists aren't typically concerned with men's issues. My position from the start has been that this division between men and women only hurts both groups, and is a step in the wrong direction.

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SevenZarkSeven · 09/09/2014 20:37

OMFG.

I can't believe anyone would look at the world and think that those were the main problems when it came to equality of any type.

Incidentally, all of those things have been discussed at length and multiple times on this board.

AnnieLobeseder · 09/09/2014 20:37

Thereyouarepeter - so do you expect women to campaign for men to stop sending other men to kill even more men? Yes, conscription is fucking stupid. So how about you men stop doing it?

LineRunner · 09/09/2014 20:36

Typically 'seen' by whom? Your mates?

LaVoixDeLaRaison · 09/09/2014 20:34

SevenZarkSeven

A few examples off the top of my head.

-Female-on-male violence is typically seen as less serious than male-on-female violence
-Women are typically seen as better caregivers than men, which seems to be reflected in custody disputes
-Men may have to pay higher insurance than women

I'm not necessarily suggesting that all these examples are valid (i.e. even if statistics support them, there may be underlining reasons as to why that might be), but I think these are important topics for feminist debate, and shouldn't be dismissed just because they suggest that there are some areas where women hold the privilege.

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PetulaGordino · 09/09/2014 20:33

Peter - perhaps the prostitution of women?

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