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Is there any subtle way of challenging this?

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Thistledew · 01/09/2014 21:12

Female friend just posted on FB of her 3 year old daughter how heartwarming she found it to hear "I love my daddy because he tells me I am beautiful".

I would love to say something about the early socialisation of girls without causing too many ruffled feathers.

Suggestions?

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BuffytheReasonableFeminist · 01/09/2014 21:38

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Thistledew · 01/09/2014 21:38

I do try to give non-appearance praise when we meet, but this is only a few times a year as we are in different countries at the moment.

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Thistledew · 01/09/2014 21:34

It's not that her daddy tells her she is beautiful that I think is the issue (although it is a bit sad if it is already the highest praise he can give her) but the fact that the reciprocation for a praise of her appearance is to give out love.

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BuffytheReasonableFeminist · 01/09/2014 21:33

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SolidGoldBrass · 01/09/2014 21:33

Do you see her and her DD often? Maybe when you do, praise the DD for cleverness/confidence/kindness or something? Given that you mentioned you don't want to fall out with your friend at the moment, I'd suggest not doing anything about one single facebook status.

VegasIsBest · 01/09/2014 21:31

I tell my sons that they are beautiful. Can't it just be a nice thing to say to your kids if you love them?

AskBasil · 01/09/2014 21:29

There is no subtle way of challenging this.

Sorry.

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Thistledew · 01/09/2014 21:29

I know EBear, but she has been going through a tough time recently so I don't want to piss on her chips too much, just get her to think a bit.

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EBearhug · 01/09/2014 21:27

You're better than me; I wouldn't worry about the ruffled feathers.
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