Why don't women objectify men the same way?

'Cos we are much less shallow?

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Im definitely not like that standinline. I think I must be a man!

I think younger women in media are cheaper and easier to manipulate/handle, so more useable

I dont see the point of looking to men for money. I can easily make money myself so its more important I have someone attractive to shag. I cant do that myself

This is just me ,don't know about other women ,but I just don't find myself sexually attracted to just a image. For instance ,my past sexually encounters have been with men that I've been very sexually attracted to BUT because of their personality. If I saw any of them in a magazine I probably wouldn't have looked twice. I do every now and again spot a guy that I think is very good looking but I never feel sexually attracted to them until I talk to them ,get to know them etc...
Sounds very cliche I know ,but that's how it is with me. I have a very high sex drive as well ,very straight ,BUT would probably get more of a thrill looking at pictures of naked women than men. When I first met my partner I remember thinking he's very good looking bit wasn't until I got to know him that I really wanted to jump his bones !!

I think women do objectify men (some women, some men) as sources of money and material security.

Firstly, you say When Scar Jo and Jessica Alba get to 50 barely any guy would pity fuck them - I don't think that is true. That's a gross assumption. Off the top of my head, I know plenty of men who would "fuck" Julia Louis-Dreyfus, as an example. She's 53, and most men I know would readily admit she looks better than most women younger than her.

The point that the media is predominantly run by men is a fair one, and probably true in regards to why you tend to get younger women and older men.

But part of me thinks that it really is as simple as women not objectifying men in the same way as men objectify women - but that doesn't mean women don't objectify men. They are just looking for something different. Perhaps women overall don't find looking at a picture of a naked male as attractive as men find looking at a picture of a naked woman. Perhaps women overall prefer to look at a man in a damn fine suit.

You OP implies that you think it is a bad thing. Is it?

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Why you're welcome Jenny

Thank you, SameBoat!

I've been searching for the words to describe how I feel about the whole 'women objectifying men but it's different' stance for ages, and you've done it

It's 'natural' for men to lust after younger women, but women at younger men is seen as dirty and wrong.

Only it's nothing like either of those scenarios, really.

There are loads of men I am attracted to and I know my friends are the same. Dh likes older women and always has done from when we were very young, but I much prefer younger men. Dh always jokes the older I get the more attractive I get as he is into older women whereas I will probably trade him in! Everyone is attracted to different things though arent they?

I think women go for good looking men just the same, but we're taught it's kind of desperate, man eating and wholly unfeminine to express those feelings too much. And cougarish if you're older.

I think women do but the media is ran by men. I think all women are attracted to lots of different men as its human nature