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Girls dumb down to please boys and fit in

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edamsavestheday · 05/08/2014 17:10

Fascinating stuff - I think we did know it but interesting research to test the idea. Depressing though... I got this info at work, btw.

A researcher from the University of Warwick joined a Year Eight class for three months - she attended classes, did PE lessons, took exams, had lunch in the cafeteria, played in the playground and joined them in trips to shopping centres after school. Dr Maria do Mar Pereira found girls feel the need to play down their intelligence to not intimidate boys. By the age of 14 boys had decided that girls their age should be less clever.

She said there are very strong pressures that dictate what is a 'proper man' and a 'proper woman'. Teenagers feel boys should be cleverer, stronger, taller, funnier and boys 'that being in a relationship with a woman who is more intelligent will undermine their masculinity'.

Based on these experiences, she says: “Our ideas of what constitutes a real man or woman are not natural; they are restrictive norms that are harmful to children of both genders. The belief that men have to be dominant over women makes boys feel constantly anxious and under pressure to prove their power – namely by fighting, drinking, sexually harassing, refusing to ask for help, and repressing their emotions.

“Girls feel they must downplay their own abilities, pretending to be less intelligent than they actually are, not speaking out against harassment, and withdrawing from hobbies, sports and activities that might seem ‘unfeminine’.”

She's written a book called Doing Gender in the Playground which has won an award for qualitative research.

NB She did have permission from everyone concerned. And I'm not a PR for her or anything, just got the information at work and thought it was fascinating.

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PetulaGordino · 05/08/2014 17:30

this does back up both my experiences and suspicions

it looks as though the book might only be available in portuguese.

edam do you know if she has published in english?

punygod · 05/08/2014 17:30

And weirdly, it tends to be the well-educated student types that do it.

Not that weird, I suppose. Disappointing, though.

punygod · 05/08/2014 17:28

Anybody who's been around some young women and seen the pigeon-toed, head-on-one-side, simpering that goes on around men knows there's an an element of truth in this.

It makes me want to slap them with a copy of The Handmaid's Tale and forcibly yank their shoulders back while hissing "You're letting the side down, fuckwit."

CaptChaos · 05/08/2014 17:23

I could have told her this!

A depressing number of men that I've met feel very threatened by intelligent women. The women around them either dumb down, or these men feel the need to put the women down.

I'll get the book though, one of my DNieces is just mind buggeringly bright, DBro would benefit from being shown what could happen.