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Are you a threat to the Patriarchy?

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CrotchMaven · 07/07/2014 22:24

I've been pondering this for a few days.

Probably not as much as I should be, in my case. What about you?

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elfycat · 07/07/2014 23:04

I challenged my FIL's misogynistic view of the world. We had a major battle on my wedding day (his choice). He sulked when pulled up on it later.

I won. I always win... or stalemate against the extremely stupid against whom no argument works

Now I have daughters. I do not want them judged by their genitalia. Now I'm getting feisty with my 'equalityism'.

AnyFucker · 07/07/2014 22:59

Some individual men seem to see me as a threat, going off the massively defensive reaction they have to some of the things I say to them, or perhaps they don't like me because I don't STFU and smile sweetly

but in general ? Nah, I don't think so

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CrotchMaven · 07/07/2014 22:56

I don't know, Quangle, it was something I was pondering after a frustrating couple of weeks feeling like I am not going to see the majority of women, even in our priviledged nation, being treated as human beings rather than as servants to men.

Interesting about the 10% of your wrath. What would happen if all women showed 100% of their wrath?

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PetulaGordino · 07/07/2014 22:52

Not much at all I fear. I challenge sexist behaviours when I can, but I lack the confidence in some situations. I am much more likely to stand up for another woman than for myself, which while it sounds like a sort of stealth boast isn't actually helping womankind all that much

elportodelgato · 07/07/2014 22:47

Crotch, I think we were separated at birth! I do some tweeting, I try to challenge behaviours and opinions at work / social situations. I am a school governor and push my views there as well.
Like you, I also have a past which would not stand up to public scrutiny should I run for office in any way!

Quangle · 07/07/2014 22:46

Not sure. What would that entail?

I am quite successful in a man's world and I do try to tell the truth when issues arise. But I only let them have 10% of my wrath. That probably makes me a collaborator but I like to think I'm more of a double agent.

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CrotchMaven · 07/07/2014 22:40

I do post on here, in various stages of rant. I think that's important, because I think consciousness-raising is the key. I do a lot of Hmm instead of laughing stuff off, and that is remarkably powerful in a small group and I am vociferous in my condemnation of poor gender-stereotypical behaviour. Despite my miniscule efforts, I am seen a scary feminist. Little do they know what I really think!

I do fund raise and give to women's charities, but I don't see that as a threat, more of a mitigation.

I confess to not wanting to raise my head above any parapet. I don't have a squeaky clean life behind me and have a number of people who would love to make a quick buck out of my story. And I just don't have the resilience, nor the lack of curiosity, that would allow me to survive a social media onslaught.

Ugh, that's not pretty feminism-wise.

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almondcakes · 07/07/2014 22:28

Not yet...

elportodelgato · 07/07/2014 22:26

CrotchMaven, I'll join you! I wish I was doing more than just impotently shouting at the telly in the evening...