What surname do your children have?

Mine. I had a different name to my mum and I hated it. I was never married to ds's dad, but even if I had been, would have been my name, because divorce happens, but my child will always be with me.
Every unmarried couple I know with dc has given them the man's name, even if it's not as nice as the woman's, which I find weird.

Mine.

The mans name being the default is misogynistic.

Given the that half of kids don't live with bio dad at 16 it is ridiculous that most of them have the dad's name.

Yes, that restoring the balance a bit (me having carried them, taking maternity leave to care for them and planning to be the main carer longer term) meant that it seemed a good way of including DH a bit more. Also of linking them more closely with his family, mine are local and a lot more involved than DH's, who live far away.

When I married I took dh's name for everyday and kept my maiden name for work (I wanted us to have the same name and his is English and easier to spell. He did say he'd take mine if I wanted. Maybe he would've done, but I think he'd got a bit tired of explaining his lack of Italian blood).

So when dc came along they took dh's (now my) name too. I think even if I'd kept my name I'd have given them his - they seemed so much mine as babies - I carried them, gave birth to them, fed them, they even looked like me. I felt quite sorry for him and wanted to share (mad hormonal brain).

Mine have DP's surname...hyphens just weren't an option - the names wouldn't work at all, his surname went slightly better with more first names than mine (not that mine is awful) and it gave me more leverage vetoing first names, lol.

I suppose there might have been a bit of it gave DP a connection with them that I just didn't think I needed behind my thinking as well, as in I carried them I gave birth to them, I stayed at home with them...I think I thought it might be nice if he had the same surname as them.

To be honest though, I didn't put that much thought into it really, the conversation wasn't very long and neither of us felt particularly strongly about it, mostly it consisted of us repeating various hyphenated versions and laughing clearly we were dead responsible parents.

They're 14 and 18, I don't regret it and it's never caused any problems.

ooh houndsbitch what on earth was your name?
Pigg?
Bastard?
Death?
do tell!!

We gave DS DH's name as mine was awful (we weren't married when DS was born) and I didn't want to inflict it on him. I changed my name to DH's when we married. It was a convenient way to get rid of my name without upsetting my dad.
If I had a normal name, that hadn't got me bullied mercilessly at school, I would have given it to DS and kept it myself when I married.

We weren't married when I had DD and DS1 and I gave them DH's surname.
My surname was an unusual one it caused me a bit of grief at school and no one could ever spell it despite the fact it was two common English words together
I also had much persuasion, head shaking and tutting about teenage mothers when I registered them with DH's name.
I like us all being the Notso's and I like being Mrs Notso.

Not married, DC has DP's surname.

Hyphenating or double-barrelling wouldn't work, the names sound very silly together.

But at the end of the day he had a stronger opinion than me. He would prefer to share a name with DC, I'm not remotely bothered by it at all. I don't find it an issue and it doesn't bother me. To me it's just a name, it makes little difference whether I share any part of my name with DC. Doesn't make me any less their mother or us any less of a family.

We're not married, don't plan to be, and would keep our own names if we were, so there was never the option of us all having the same name. DD is FirstName HisSurname MySurname. I had all sorts of reasons for giving her my name, like not wanting to have a different name to DD if DP doesn't stick around, not wanting my surname to vanish (which turned out not to be an issue as my brother has since bred), feminist principles, and a hefty dollop of sheer obstinacy. And if she had to have the surname of one of her grandfathers, it was no contest - my dad's a decent bloke, DP's dad ran off with his secretary when DP was seven.

I gave my dc the surname of dp. We are not married (will be early next year).

My reason is I feel they are quite obviously mine, what with the whole pregnancy and their being given my surname on post natal records but I wanted them to have a connection to their father, too. Spelled out in their name. Paternity is more tenuous, so the name cemented that.

Or maybe it's because I love dp but not my father . I am nc with the man whose surname I carry and I wanted to break that connection with that man and continue with my dp who is a million times the man and father that my father ever was . When dp and I marry, I may change my surname. I'm genuinely torn. I did not change my name with my first marriage, as it's not the culture to do that, but I hate my birth name and want to cut further from it.

My parents are married, but my mum kept her surname which us children have as well.
I kept my name when we got married, but our DS has my husband's surname. It's much nicer than mine, that's why

I thought hyphenating would make their name too long, so I kept my name but the kids have dh's. I get occasionally get called Mrs DH's name by school etc, despite telling them my name, but apart from that it works ok. Only issue would be if I wanted to take the kids abroad on my own, I think.

I have to say, it wasn't a biggie for me. I'm just not that attached to my surname.

Both, no hyphen. Like Spanish apellidos, except that mine is first.

When we chose this for birth certificates, we did so thinking that it might get tricky and they'd have the option to hyphenate or drop one name in future. Actually, it's been fine.

They have DH's surname, for the same reason as the OP. I have my own surname (we were married pre DCs). I dislike hyphenated names and ours really wouldn't have sounded good together. We could have added mine as a middle name, but it would still have been a real mouthful and I didn't feel all that strongly about it.

No, it doesn't really matter what people think, but I didn't feel strongly about them having mine and DH did want them having his. Not a feminist decision perhaps, but one that suits us.

We're married and our ds has my dh's surname simply because it sounds way better. We couldn't double barrel our surnames because it would be ludicrous. I was happy with this decision before he was born, but don't know if I am now. I still don't want to change my name though. It's a tough decision.

Mine have DH's name. We couldn't really hyphenate as our surnames are quite similar so would just sound odd.

My thinking at the time was that everyone had seen me the size of a whale, so they knew they were my children. Obviously I wasn't thinking past the baby stage.
I am fine with this though , and though DH has never questioned me not changing my name (he knew since we met that that would be the case), I think he likes the DC having his surname. We haven't had any problems with having a different name yet.

I did get a lecture from the registrar that I didn't have to give DC my husband's name though. I told her I was aware of that but it was a mutual decision. I don't think she was impressed.

Their surname is DH's, but they have my name as a second middle name. His name is easier to spell whereas mine is constantly mispronounced and mis-spelled.

We're about to have our first. The name will be his name- my name. It comes out as a bit of a mouthful but it's important to me that the child has both.

A name is just a name. My baby will have dp's surname, we are not married but very much a family and will probably get married at some point.
I get referred to as mrs dp's name most of the time anyway, which is fine by me.

I am married. I decided to take DH's name because I preferred his to mine. The children have DH's name.

I like that all five of us share the same surname as a family unit. I never even considered giving them my name or both names.

our dd has DPs surname - if we marry we would all have the same name then - cant be doing with this hyphenated nonsense

Divorced, remarried. My name.

I knew that a lot of people got married and everybody including the mother had the father's name. I did not realise that among couples who were not married or ones where they are but keep their own names, that the children were named after the father.

I was pretty young when I had children, and I did not put much thought into it. They just had my name because I am their mother. It seemed the obvious thing to do.

Not married, children have my name.