What surname do your children have?

I changed my name when I married my husband so our son has that surname.

My maiden name was really common (as in popular think top 5 in the country) and I hated it growing up so was quite happy to be rid of it. It also would have sounded stupid if double-barrelled. My final reason was that my mum didn't change her name when she married my dad and I really didn't like the fact that we had different names and people would ask if she was my mum or just my dads partner. I wouldn't want my children to experience the same (either not sharing a name with me or my husband).

Each to their own but that was my logic anyway.

We weren't married when the DC were born. It was important to me to give them my surname. I'm glad I did.

DP's. I changed mine on marriage specifically because I wanted to have the same name as dcs and I wanted them to have his. I thought it would give them a better sense of belonging with their ethnic community as their dad is BME. I think it has, particularly for 1 dc who is very 'white' looking but doesn't identify as white.

I don't particularly like my old name and probably would've taken the opportunity to change it anyway but my new name is no great shakes either.

DC have DP's name, but my nationality.

DCs are hyphenated. First half of DHs double barrel and then my name. Sounds nicest that way. And thrilled my 90 year old granny that she had great grandchildren with her name.

DH has since decided to change his name to match the DCs so will be including my name in his, which is lovely.

They have dh's it wasn't something I felt particularly strongly about at the time and both ds's got their first names chosen by me which was important to me.

I wasn't married either time and they have their fathers names. I didn't feel strongly about it at the time- and still don't really. On marriage I kept my name so we have three surnames in the house, it's no problem.

My son has mine. His father was a tosser during (and after) my pregnancy so I didn't see why I should give ds his surname.

As I have said before both on here and in real life, it's fascinating how there is the special category of "women's last names" that are difficult to spell, awkward,ugly........but only whe women have them. They are fine for their brothers- somehow the maleness cancels out the unfortunate nature of the name...........

We aren't married.
DC will be firstname myname-hisname.

We're married, I kept my name. We couldn't double barrell as it was a stupid STUPID name to give kids, and we may as well have tattooed bully me across their heads.

We live in Denmark, DH is Danish, I'm British (although now the Danish law has changed I'm going to apply for dual citizenship ) and I thought that as the DC would be more Danish than British, their name should reflect that. I think that the surname carries more weight in that respect.

Also Danish society is sadly incredible xenophobic and racist, so DCs would have a better chance in life with an English first name, and Danish surname. And I don't like any Danish first names so thought it would be a good comprimise!

We are married. I have kept my name and the kids are hyphenated. Works well for us.

I changed my name on marriage so that both DH and I could share a name with future children. Plus I was young and pre-mn the more feminist ways of achieving this didn't occur to me. If I was doing it all now I would consider keeping my name and double barrelled names for the kids.

DS1 has mine and his father's double barrelled, his ExP also had a double barrelled name, and my DGD therefore has a double barrelled name, they took one name from each surname and made a new one. It wasn't political, and it wasn't difficult. Was very neat and easy. But then, they didn't want to make a drama out of it so...

DS2 has his father's name only, by the time he was born, I was just glad to get through a day without being abused, so went along with almost anything for an easier life.

A little limiting on potential partners, though

More so for some than others. Worked for Eleanor Roosevelt though...

Actually, the only really good solution I have seen to this problem is to marry someone who already has the same surname to you - I know at least 3 couples where this was the case. A little limiting on potential partners, though

We're married but both kept our own surnames. DD is Firstname HisSurname Mysurname with no hyphen. We lived in Spain at the time, and it is the conventional answer there & having only one surname causes all sorts of computer problems. Effectively when we were in Spain she tended to get called by DH's surname (as they use the first surname habitually), now people tend to use my surname or both. Neither is easy to spell otherwise there would have been an easy answer.

I do know quite a few couples who both changed their surname on marriage and chose something for them all to use, which does seem quite a good answer if you can come up with an obvious name. I'm not enough of a hippy to go down the 'Takver Treehugger' type route, though, and choosing something normal randomly seems a bit odd, IYKWIM.

Our son has DP's name and our daughter has my name.

We've never met anyone who thought this was a good idea. My HV in particular warned me that 'people would think they had different fathers'. Also, 'they won't feel like a proper family' because apparently living day to day as a family is totally obscured by the fact they have different surnames.

I don't think it's a perfect solution, I live in patriarchy and if I had a perfect solution I'd have you know, done the revolution by now.

None of those Nigella, I'm not going to put my maiden name on here because it's quite rare in england and most of the who are in england are my relatives.
If my surname was De'ath I would have been soooo happy as a teenager

I actively hate my pre-marriage surname, as it is my father's name and he was an abusive git. Also it is a proper word, iyswim, and I got the piss ripped out of me through school because of it.

Prior to meeting DH I seriously thought about changing my surname to my mother's name or that of my grandmother, but neither of them were particularly wonderful names that I felt any connection to. As it happens, I really like DH's surname, and am happy to be called by it, so I did take it on marriage and from that DD took it too. DH admitted to me years later that he was really pleased I'd taken his name but also felt confused and slightly guilty that it had made him feel so pleased...

I think if I'd liked my surname/had a better relationship with my father, I would have kept it and double-barreled it/given it to DD.

His. Not married.
The logic was he has sisters, I have a brother so mine would carry on anyway, his wouldn't.

Travelling without him was tricky early on, fine now dc old enough to know their own names.
I still dislike when I'm called Mrs Hisname by orgs that should know better (schools etc) but is a quick way to get rid of telesales people - 'Mrs Hisname? No-one of that name here. Goodbye.'

They have my exH's name. I have also kept it.

My husband's. It's tradition but I've also got another reason for it.