What surname do your children have?

scottishmummy I may not know much but I can tell this bothers you!

If it's only a name,how comes the men don't change names
and vast majority name changing is from women to the male name
Mn perennial is the female name clunky/funny/didn't sound good. Not so the male name....

We did get married after eight years and before having the DCs. We amalgamated our names but not with a hyphen as historically that is associated with 'bastard' children of the nobility (not a happy association we felt!) The internet seems to have adjusted to a 'gap no hyphen' too...
Not an issue and has worked well. My MIL has had folk assume she shares 'our' surname though!

I have kept my own surname, DH has his, our children all have my surname as a third given name just before their surname which is DH's.

Our daughters have DP's surname. We are married, I haven't changed my name to his but do use it at school and for family related things.

My dd has my surname.
We're not married so why would I give her dp's name?
Everyone is happy about this except for dp's family! when they write to dd they either give her their surname or create a hyphenated surname for dd with both of ours!!!! I let this wash over me.

My dds have their fathers name because...

Mine is the Germanic spelling of a more commonly English name so it has to be spelt out every single time

Once people recognise its German they start asking me about Germany -my dad's family tree goes back 12 generations and they were all Nottinghamshire and Lincolnshire so I have no idea where the German came from other than Germany obviously

It's a very clipped surname so doesn't sit well with short first names which I prefer

Exdp's name was just nicer!

Mine, if they didn't have my name then our family surname would die out since I'm the only one who has had children. All my cousins are a female and I only have sisters.

It does make me giggle a little when people say that double barreled names are pretentious. How my family laughs at people thinking that the name that has been passed down through several generations is pretentious. I'll have to let my cousins know again.

Anyone would think that double barreling was a new thing. It isn't.

When DP and I married, I said I would either keep my surname (or rather resort to my maiden name, as I had double-barrelled with my first marriage), or we could both double barrel. He agreed to the latter. We had a bit of backlash from (his) family, which is a bit odd (IMO) given that (a) his surname is an anglicization only adopted 2 generations ago and (b) the strongest objections came from his mother's family, whose surname is going to phase out in this generation, as the girls of his only uncle have taken their husbands' names. DD (who is adopted) has the same surname as both of usmy surname-his surname as it sounds bestbut I don't mind what she chooses to do when/if she marries.

Hakluyt would it make you feel better if I told you that dp's name sounded clunky with the boys name I wanted? It does, it sounds awful, any future boys will definitely be having my surname. It's not that my name sounds clunky all the time, I really like my name, it sounds good with my first name, and with my sister's first name, and with dd1's first name. It's just with the particular first name I wanted for dd2 my surname sounded jarring, so I suppose if my name had been the only choice I would have chosen a different first name, but I had the choice of using the first name I really wanted with dp's surname and having it flow together really nicely so I took that option. I quite like having options.

DD has my name. We're not married, and I won't change my name if we get married.
It was important to me because I have my mum's maiden name- she didn't change it when my parents got married and I'd like to carry on the tradition. Plus, it annoyed me that everyone just assumed DD would have DP's name. And mine's nicer.

Not married, no plans to. They have his surname. It's just a name at the end of the day. Don't feel they are any less mine because we have different surnames. We chose their given names together and that always felt more important to me.

Ds has dh name. Dh regularly suggests that if we have a dd we use mine. And even if we have another ds, we use mine. I like the idea of boys having dad's name and girls having mums. But truthfully, while my feminist principals agree with dh, I can't face the hassle of siblings with different names and the constant explanations. It's hard enough with the school struggling to understand that yes, we Are married but no, I am not mrs dh name. Bless them, they call me by my name but always add miss.

I do want our next child to have something of me but the problem is that I don't have strong family names. My surname sounds ridiculous as a middle name. So does dh's. I would like to name a child with a first name from my side but there aren't a lot of choices - there are no good grandparent names, ds already has my dad's first name and my mothers name is horrible!

We are thinking of a derivative of my mothers name for a girl. But who knows what we will do for a boy.

"Mine sounded clunky "

Yep, that ol' woman's name problem!

Mine have dh's surname. Dh already had a dd with his name and I wanted the sibling group to be linked together by their surname.

Dd1 has my surname because I was a lone parent and I certainly wasn't going to give her the name of a man who wanted nothing to do with her.

Dd2 has dp's surname. We aren't married. We considered double-barreling but our names sound horrendous together. So basically I chose the first name I wanted and then decided which surname sounded better with that first name. Mine sounded clunky with that first name, his sounded much better, so I went with that, completely my decision, dp was happy either way. If she'd been a boy she'd have had my surname because my name goes better with the boys name I wanted.

Mine. My child has my name last. I kept my name. Good job I did this as my husband left. My child has first name, middle name (father's middle name), father's last name, my last name. No hyphen, although some people insist on putting one in. Neither of us has trouble at airports.

No clue what any grandchildren would be called, should the other parent be equally highly monikered.

The school insists on calling me Mrs even though I have always gone by Ms Maiden Name.

I try not to think about the maiden name being my father's name; I am the beginning!

My children have my surname.

We didn't get married until they were in their late teens and we sort of decided they'd have my name because everyone assumed they'd have their dad's and that annoyed us.

They have his surname as a middle name.

When we did get married, nobody changed their names!

If it the desire to have same name,why isn't female surname preferred option
It's usually op for male,to denote family,and territorially they're his.not different dads

If it the desire to have same name,why isn't female surname preferred option
It's usually make bane,to denote family,and territorially they're his

Married and I took DH's name, so we (me, DH and four DC) all have same name.

DS1 isn't DH's biological son, and he had my maiden name at birth, and my final decision as to whether I'd change my surname was based on how DS1 felt. DS1 made it clear he wanted his name to be legally changed to DH's, who has been dad to him since he was two-years old, and thus the decision was made.

I admit I'm glad he wanted to change it, as I knew I wanted to take DH's surname (as I prefer it to my maiden name).

However, DS1 didn't want to part with my maiden name completely, so he adopted it as a third middle name. I also adopted it as my second middle name.

The four of us have the same name, my husbands.

Suits me and I'm happy with that.

Not married and got dp's name
I did think about giving them my name but was a bit loved up at the time and it was sort of a gift to him, also so I didn't have to explain about not being married so much if they had his name and also because I knew at some level they were more attached to me, he doesn't even have parental responsibility. And I don't like hyphenated.

Spain? Feminist? I just farted while laughing so hard and blew off the duvet!

In the UK you have a lot of choice about selecting a surname. Sure, people might think A, B or C about your choices, but they are a choice, I'm sure the registrars don't give a fig.