Is fancying a particular sex and not a particular gender bigoted?

interesting one.

Recently I was on a thread where the op had found out that her partner of nine months was bisexual. Plenty of posters including me said that we would have an issue with this, not with the issue of him being bisexual but with the issue of his not having divulged this information from the outset because we wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who was bisexual - sexual preference being for straight men.... Plenty of people on that thread were using the words bigot and homophobe etc etc. Yet when I asked the question as to whether a woman (or man) should be accepting of a transsexual, even a post-op one, nobody responded.

In terms of a transsexual who has not had reassignment surgery, why on earth should I want to go there - I am not a lesbian. And before I am shouted down for that, while psychologically he may be a man, physically he is still a woman. It is unreasonable for anyone to expect that a perspective straight partner should just accept this.

On a more serious note, I think Stavvers is quite extreme, isn't she?

Worra load of shit

I speak for the WORLD!

Well, the penis-liking world.

If I happen not to fancy men with beards, am I a bigot?
If I happen not to fancy men of Chinese ethnic origin, am I a bigot?
If I happen not to fancy men who are shorter than me, am I a bigot?

No, no, and again no.

And if I happen not to fancy men who have female genitals, that doesn't make me a bigot either.

Note in the comments she says it's okay for transwomen to not want penis because of dysphoria but when it's women, they're bigots.

It's the twisted thinking of gender ideology. So woman-hating.

"Doesn't matter, even if it were bigoted"

Well, this.

I fancy Spike more than I fancy James Marsters. Does that make me bigoted against non-vampires?

And do you know who I definitely find unattractive? People who call those who don't fancy them names. Plenty of men in bars do this if you politely decline their advances. I don't fancy them because they tell me I should either.

Utter, utter bollocks. I hate that so many people go along with this in order to appear right on.

Haha, this is a wind up, right? Yes please, do dictate to me and everyone else who I should fancy and have sex with, or call me bigoted. This "Logic" is ...moronic.

I can't get my head around this idea at all. Lesbians who don't fancy transwomen with penises are bigots? WTF?! Surely these transwomen with penises should be happy having sex with each other if the presence of a penis is no big deal. Oh what's that? They want a choice in who they have sex with? So does every-fucking-body else, including lesbians!

Doesn't matter, even if it were bigoted:

IMHO, sex is one of the few areas in life where I fully support people choosing based upon their prejudices, regardless of whether or not these are reasonable or not; it's a question of bodily autonomy, really: any other approach risks coering people (men and women) into sex with people they do not want to be having sex with. There's a name for that and it's illegal for a reason.

Personally, I'm attracted to tall, slim, blond men (and, yes, men with penises, thankyouverymuch). It's just like that. Is that fair on dark haired, chubby short men? Not really, I suppose, I wouldn't really consider sleeping with them usually. However, arguing that I must not discriminate in accordance my personal preferences would be akin to arging that all men (or women, for that matter - why stop at sexual orientation here?) deserve an equal shot at having sex with me, and that therefore it is not me but some abstract sense of 'fairness' who should get to determine who I do and do not grant access to my body. And at this point we're moving firmly onto Elliot Rodgers territory ... don't think I need to point out why that is problematic.