"too much of a bimbo to be a feminist"

Do not lower yourself to her level.

She actually sounds a little deranged, was she always this vicious? I agree with PP, if she has only started being this much of a dick since she married, maybe everything in her garden is not as rosy as she would like you to think.

What a fucking bitch! bloody hell. She is outrageous. The roses thing is criminal damage and it's disappointing the police won't do anything. I think you need to just try avoid her at all costs now. She is not worth it.

I'm with kickassangel. My first instinct to her change in personality is that her husband has turned out to be an abuser and she's struggling. It wouldn't be the first time a woman in an abusive relationship lashes out against women she deems 'safe' because of trauma. However, you do not have to remain in a friendship with someone who treats you like this - regardless of cause.

If it does turn out to be the husband, I'd leave the door open for her to come back so you can discuss her behaviour.

lol @ lottie, nice one

the only appropriate response to the diet book is to laugh OP. that is so pantomime nasty it deserves complete derision. I'd send a very smiley message...

"hi, thanks for the book it was quite interesting, can I have my book back now? Another friend wants to borrow it "

She has tried so hard to upset you it will drive her crazy to think that she hasn't succeeded.

How long have you known her (just skimmed back but can't see!).

I think bin the diet book, write yours off to experience (maybe she will read it one day!) and simply cease communication.

I have done this with a couple of people who did fairly unkind things, which were kind of the last straw, and i've never looked back

Either this is who she really is and she just adopted a nice persona until she got her insurance man.
Or she is suddenly discovering her husband is abusive and controlling and acting very strangely as a result.

Steer clear as she sounds like a bomb about to go off. If her marriage suddenly ends then it may be worth giving her another chance but she sounds quite emotional unstable and out to get people.

Wtf! Reply saying 'well you're too much of a wanker to be my mate.'

Some friendships turn out to be merely good aquaintances. The difference is that true friendship can last through any number of life changes, while the lesser cousins have a limiting factor.

Perhaps your new job has ended a chapter in your life and some reason they are unable to go to the next part with you. You may not fit into the box they needed to have you in.

With this friend I suspect your job and 'feminism' is challenging her and making her uncomfortable. If she's changed since marrying then she might be losing herself in her new role, and doesn't like you finding yourself in yours. Being a total cow about it (the diet book ) is her choice of course, but she's possibly retaliating against an attack to her inner self.

Pity her and move on.

Send your DH to collect your book, then block and delete. Also block her number. She's an awful cunt.

Wow. She's a seriously nasty woman isn't she.

The advantage of her doing this, is that she's confirmed what a horrible person she is and she's also confirmed that she has no interest in being your friend so you can ditch her without a backward glance. Any remaining doubts you might have had, have been well and truly dispelled.

I might be tempted to ask for my book back though.

Jesus, what a fucking bitch!

That was just unbelievably nasty - she sounds horrendous & tbh, she won't have many friends left before long if she treats them like this.

You sound lovely Op - you deserve better than that vile skank...

From this comment Since being married she's stopped working, has become obsessed with little trivial things like her coat being the EXACT shade of beige, the coffee being from the same place in Arabia, and if we eat out then God help the people serving us! I assume her husband shares a lot of these traits and she's basically just reflecting his own personality back to him? (And everyone else).

There's a woman who's going to learn the value of feminism the hard way. And if she really wrote your too much of a bimbo to be a feminist! she's going to need to learn to spell, too.

Sounds like your friend has gone into some kind of Stepford Twilight Zone. Ah well. Her loss.

She clearly enjoys putting you and other people down. That will be because she sees herself lacking in some way (but would never admit it).

She is not a friend, she is an ignorant bully.

If you never see or speak to her again, it will be too soon.

What a horror!

Ignore from now on, who the fuck needs a person like that in their lives?

This may not be the MN way..but Id be tempted to put dog shit through her letter box for that.
Seriously ditch this nasty woman.

Disengage! Disengage! She is a nasty nincompoop!