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What kind of woman do you want to be?

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Elfina · 30/05/2014 18:53

I was thinking the other day, I'm not sure what I'm aiming for. I want to be successful, in lots of ways. I've been feeling down about not having lost baby weight, and I'm trying to work out why. I think I've got an idea in the back if my mind who the "perfect Elfina" is, but I'm not sure whether it's compatible...I want to be "perfect" at everything. I want to look a certain way. I want to be the best at my career, mother, I want people to think I'm lovely, I want to be kind etc. what kind of a woman do you want to be?

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CaptChaos · 30/05/2014 20:02

I want to be regarded as educated, and to have proof that I am.
I want to break free from the scripts I have had written for me by others.
I know who I am, I know what I believe, I now want to allow that 'me' to flourish without the constraints of my abusers.

I think that can start to happen now.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 30/05/2014 19:53

I don't think I have an answer, but I'm marking my place. I really want to know this too. Will have a think.

TheBookofRuth · 30/05/2014 19:42

I am the woman I want to be, really. A bit more patience wouldn't go amiss but on the whole I like me as I am.

MrsD0nnaLyman · 30/05/2014 19:36

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callamia · 30/05/2014 19:30

This is such an interesting question, and my initial answe is so narrow and self-centred.

I want to be capable. I seem to want to 'have it all' with respect to my baby, partner and career. I don't know how realistic I'm being. I want to be able to be independent and an integral and important part of my small family.

Leviticus · 30/05/2014 19:21

Delphinium I want to feel like that.

Lesuffolkandnorfolk · 30/05/2014 19:12

One that stands up for other people.

Delphiniumsblue · 30/05/2014 19:10

I think it is a bit late- I am what I am. Good enough is fine.

Beachcomber · 30/05/2014 19:10

A free one.

Leviticus · 30/05/2014 19:05

The same. I think about this a lot. I want to:
be toned and thin
Be groomed - my nails and hair look terrible most of the time and my clothes are rubbish
be a better wife and have sex with DH more
be a better mother to my DC by playing with them more and shouting less
Have a cleaner and tidier house, I'm sick of tripping over all the shit
be a nicer person, gossip less and be kinder
Drink less
Pray and read the bible a lot more
Work harder and be more ambitious at work

It's exhausting. I don't know why I set myself up to feel like such a failure.