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A bit of help with this please...

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nomorequotes · 21/05/2014 14:31

I have a friend who was born a man and is transitioning to female. I understand this is something that this person wants to do and if she wants to live life as a female that is fine.

My issue is that the clothes that she wears are highly-sexual, she wears french maid outfits on stage and while out in the street busking and things and I find it as uncomfortable as I would anyone wearing such overly sexual outfits I suppose but what really gets to me is that this is a person who is keen to point out how female they are and yet this is how they chose to do it?

My thoughts are a bit confused about the whole thing and I hope someone understands what I mean. It almost feels like she is saying 'this is how a woman should be' and I find that a bit tough to take.

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FiveExclamations · 21/05/2014 14:43

How about twisting it around a bit to "this is how I (your friend) wants to be a woman."

I've known a few transgender people, though none have been close friends and their taste in clothes has varied widely from fairly androgynous to mini skirts and pink frills for every occasion, the same way that my friendship group of cis women varies in the same way.

In the end it's just clothes.