Grandparent (male kissing female grandchildren on lips)

I can't imagine not kissing my little ones on the lips - seems a shame not to, especially the 18 month old who is constantly leaning in for a dribbly kiss. I can't believe anyone could turn their head away from a kiss like that!
My dad kisses me on the lips, only for a second - it's not gross or sexual. I'm also not grossed out by grandparents kissing them wherever or sharing cutlery - get a grip!

Why is it not a problem with a son? Does the grandfather not kiss the boy, or does he and you have no problem with it? If the former, I would not want him to kiss female grandchild because in that case it would obviously be a sexual thing for him.

I come from a family where no one kissed any relative on the lips. Just not done, and I would be extremely suspicious about anyone wanting to do that to my children.

I hope you teach your son that it is for him to decide who touches him, and would teach that to a daughter, too. If your child does not want to be kissed by grandpa, the problem sort of solves itself.

I kiss my grandfather on the lips, what is your issue?

In Scotland also and agree that everyone I know kisses on the lips.

I remember my French boss being horrified one hogmanay with all the kisses on lips being thrown about, he said its not the done thing in France.

I kiss my DC on the lips and kiss my dad goodbye with a peck on the lips, did the same with my grandparents (not my mum though, she's about as warm as an igloo and doesn't really DO hugs and kisses)

I would kiss my nan on the lips, same as I would kiss my mum and my ds.

My grandad wouldn't allow us to kiss him on the lips, as he said little children should not kiss old men. I used to kiss him on the cheek instead.

My brother and sister and I don't kiss, or even hug each other. We still do this "eww gross" thing that we did as a children whenever anyone said "give your sister a kiss goodbye" or something like that (as we didn't always all get on as children). It's like our own little secret joke now.

From reading many threads on here though, it seems that my family norm of kissing close family members on the lips or cheek is not everyone elses norm.

I don't think anyone should kiss kids on the lip except their parents however, I don't think its creepy more that it's unhygienic.

It's the type of thing that I would politely ask GPs not to do especially those with cold sores or those who regularly kiss their dogs on the lips [confused--

I'm in Scotland and in our family, everyone kisses each other on the lips. Apart from one aunt as she smokes so doesn't like to kiss anyone on the lips. I agree that kids make up their own minds. Both my sister and I went though a phase of not kissing anyone on the lips but don't worry about it now.
Some people on here are quite over the top, imo.

Is it seen as sexual? I don't think anyone has said that.

OP one of my parents comes from continental Europe (a northern country) where children are commonly kissed on the lips even by non relatives such as aunts uncles by marriage. Nothing sexual and applies to girls and boys.

It really upsets me that every sort of physical contact with children is now seen as sexual by some people. DH offered to take a little girls hand getting off a bus recently as the mum had bags and the girl was struggling with the step. He basically got a shriek of no and a look as if he was a paedophile from the mum.

Could it be a cultural thing? i believe kissing babies in some countries is not very common. I live in Scotland, none of my friends kiss their baby's lips either. Could it depend where you live as to how common or accepted a practice it is?

Both my DDs grandads kiss her on the mouth....I have absolutely no issues with it at all. I think you're being a bit weird tbh, and she's old enough now to say no if she doesn't want to anyway.

World gone stupid if you ask me when an innocent and loving sign of affection is made out to be something sinister!

I don't think it's sad breakingdad- we are a family of non lip kissers also. I don't kiss my children on the lips- neither does my OH. I was never kissed on the lips by my parents and neither was my OH.

I have no problems with those that do, it's just never been part of our behaviour. We give our children lots of affection -kisses and cuddles otherwise.
I am quite glad that my FIL didn't kiss my kids on the lips as he had terribly rotten teeth, and know that dental caries and gum disease can be transmitted by lip kissing. I didn't want my baby's perfect little white teeth to be subjected to all those nasties.

I remember really struggling with this with my dc when they were babies, I felt really strongly that they had no choice or control and it felt wrong to me.

Parents are different, a much much closer bond. IMO not appropriate with other relatives.

That's good, there's no such thing as too much affection for a baby.

And in no time at all he'll probably be running away from any form of affection going "urgh, no, gross!", so enjoy it while you can

That's really sad BreakingDad. That's your baby boy, you helped make him, he's part of you. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you kissing him on the lips.

Some lip kissing is inappropriate and/or abusive. Most is not. The difference is context.

Grandparents themselves shpuld be wise enough to know better than to kiss their grandchildren (opposite sex or not) on the lips. It's not appropriate and u hygenic.

Oh for goodness sake! It's the child's grandfather. Things have come to a pretty pass when we start monitoring how granparents kiss children.