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Put off biking.

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wizzzadora · 25/03/2014 11:46

Hello all, long time reader first time poster.

I've recently been toying with the idea of fulfilling a lifes ambition of mine and that is to learn to ride a motorcycle. I have looked into all the laws and requirements and have even put a deposit down on a little 125.

While searching for more information on riding I came across a bikers website that was both busy and had loads of information I could use.

Now the problem is I am absolutely appalled by the level of misogyny that appears to run through the biking community. One post really brought that home to me....

www.bikechatforums.com/viewtopic.php?p=3853062&highlight=#3853062
(I hope it's ok to link it here).

This quickly led to what can only be described as a vile torrent of abuse aimed at a woman that did nothing more than make a sensible comment. Suffice to say she was driven off the site quite quickly....

www.bikechatforums.com/viewtopic.php?t=287211
I know it sounds weak but I'm now very much put off going to bike meets or runs because of the obvious hatred so many seem to harbour be it overtly or secretly.

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AnnekaNI · 26/03/2014 18:12

You clearly where new to BCF. Having been a member there for about 10 years you got to actually have thick skin and a sense of humor to last.Sensitive wont last. There are many woman there, some great friends for life and well respected too. They can take a bit of banter. Are you seriously going to let bike banter turn you off actually owning a bike? because thats a cop out. And dont talk to any bikes of you cant take a bit of craic.

Bifauxnen · 26/03/2014 18:12

mistook it for a mouse?

BuffytheReasonableFeminist · 26/03/2014 18:05

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TheTerribleBaroness · 26/03/2014 18:03

If it was his cat and his penis, he's got a bloody tiny penis. My cat's face is what, about 3 inches across? Grin

BuffytheReasonableFeminist · 26/03/2014 18:00

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Bifauxnen · 26/03/2014 17:50

TheGirlFromIpanema - One thing I've learnt from my years lurking on mumsnet is how to focus in an argument and spot derailments. I won a RL argument once because of it having been fobbed off a couple of times before.

so thanks mumsnet Thanks

AnyFucker · 26/03/2014 17:41

PG Tips ? Yup, I'll have a Brew cheers. All that receiving of White Knights has fair worn me out...

vesuvia · 26/03/2014 17:30

unlinkedstudent wrote - "To be blunt, if it's such a "life long ambition", why the hell haven't you done it by now?"

What is your evidence that the OP is much older than the minimum legal age to ride a motorbike? How do you know that she is not 17 years old, trying to fulfil her life long ambition at the earliest opportunity?

TheGirlFromIpanema · 26/03/2014 17:09

Its either funny or scary given that unlinked has a PG Dip. in Womens Studies yeah right

There goes that sly shifting of goalposts bif Wink

Bifauxnen · 26/03/2014 16:58

The whole of unlinkeds post sounds like something straight off the mra subreddit. Plus the slippery redefining of words and sly shifting of goalposts is their speciality. Not sure the tactic will work on mumsnet though Grin

BuffytheReasonableFeminist · 26/03/2014 16:55

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SaskiaRembrandtWasFramed · 26/03/2014 16:52

Isn't the term 'white knighting' something MRAs say?

TheGirlFromIpanema · 26/03/2014 16:51

^^ to unlinked obv's.

TheGirlFromIpanema · 26/03/2014 16:50

Perhaps the OP wanted a conversation with like minded individuals about something that she saw and didn't like.

Why are you posting?

BuffytheReasonableFeminist · 26/03/2014 16:44

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DoctorTwo · 26/03/2014 16:42

Well done Wizzzadora, there'll be no stopping you. :o

unlinkedstudent · 26/03/2014 16:40

an attention slut, awaiting a white knight to come in, pat her on the head

Well that's misogynistic, right there. You might say it's "just" an insult, but insults only have power to hurt people (which is their purpose) if they call attention to something that people generally regard as low status, embarrassing, shameful, etc.

Ah, now clock that I said I moderate on an ADULT forum. If the OP identifies an attention slut and that's her kink, I'm more than happy for her to be one which isn't, incidentally, immediately regarded as being insulting.

But put it like this: to what other purpose did the OP hope to achieve by posting? When you post within the public domain, you SEEK attention. Or does everyone post in the hope that nobody will read their threads/posts?

What's wrong with being a 'slut'? Are you saying that women aren't entitled to have a sex life? I used the term "attention slut". And to be frank, there's a fair amount of white-knighting going on in this thread.

BuffytheReasonableFeminist · 26/03/2014 16:38

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Paddie · 26/03/2014 16:36

I haven't read all the posts so apologies if I repeat or talk nonsense but IMO you should go for it....get your license and pay no heed to any nonsense.
I did my DAS last summer (and passed) and have a 500cc Enfield. I don't belong to any forums or go to meet ups but anytime I'm out on my bike all the bikers come up to see it and are so friendly and lovely.
I can't wait for the longer evenings so I can go out and about in daylight and warmth

BuffytheReasonableFeminist · 26/03/2014 16:34

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TheGirlFromIpanema · 26/03/2014 16:34

I don't think unlinked cares to be enlightened OP.

I think unlinked is a special kind of snowflake Smile

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wizzzadora · 26/03/2014 16:31

If you read the dating thread posted you will see that the man who posted those 'insults' shows many many times throughout it that he's a misogynist. Taking that into account his tirade can sadly be taken no other way.

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SaskiaRembrandtWasFramed · 26/03/2014 16:31

Needs to grow a set of balls? Seriously?!

unlinkedstudent · 26/03/2014 16:26

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TheGirlFromIpanema · 26/03/2014 16:25

He removed that on his next post Hmm

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