"It's different for girls" :-(

I actually asked for wonky stitches on one of the cuts I got on my face from a teenage stupidity incident. Looks ace. For YEARS I had my kids believing I got it swordfighting with pirates. I'm going to go with velociraptors for the grandchildren.

I just want to know how it's possible to accidentally immac a baby?

My friend has a scar on her top lip. She looks cool, it suits her.
feeling old that your immaced baby is 4!

We had a similar incident when ds was a toddler. He was running around wildly when he tripped on dd (I was changing her nappy on the floor) and went head first into the TV shelf. He gashed himself just by his eye, blood everywhere, much drama. When the bleeding stopped I thought it wasn't so bad and could be dressed in the morning at the GPs.

When dh took him in the morning they said he had to go to A&E anyway (no practice nurse that day) and then there was some tutting about how it should have been stitched and that there would be a (avoidable) scar.

I felt dreadful about it for a while, my beautiful boy scarred for life. Fast forward a decade or so and it's a tiny little dimple by his eye.

Also stitched don't necessarily avoid scarring - I broke my jaw a few years back and you can see that the skin is distorted where they stitched me back together. No big deal really though.

Ouch.

But yes, the guilt-tripping never gets old. Happy days.

Pity he has things to guilt-trip me for too, eh ...

Oh, sorry, I just saw this but eek! That sounds scary. The 'different for girls' would annoy me too.

FWIW, I have a delightful scar on my cheekbone, where my darling baby brother shoved me and I fell on something sharp. It took a little tiny chunk out, and now it looks as if I have a dimple there when I smile. My mum never stopped guilt-tripping herself that apparently, it should've been stitched.

Hope she's better soon.

Ah well there's 2 things here.

One is (I'm guessing as I had the same) the first time your child falls over and actually has a proper deep scarry cut. DD1 did teh bridge of her nose when she was 2.5. It was gaping. My family who had some medical background said don't worry about it then later said hmm maybe she should have had a stitch. It did have a scar, which was noticable. That made me feel sad and like I should have done x, but I did y, and it was fine, BUT.

Anyway she is 7 now and you can't see it at all! Little one's skin is very plastic.

On the second point, I have had huge scars up my legs since I was a child, maybe 60 stitches each side? I was unapologetic and wore skirts and stuff. Can't say it ever had a negative impact on anything if you, um, get my drift

Scars are definitely character whether on a boy or girl :)

Polehdra - I'm the opposite - I tell them they can draw on their skin or paper, just as long as they don't draw on the (rented) walls.

Buffy - I threaten my DCs with a wire brush and dettol when they do mad stuff like draw robots all over their legs in marker pen...

I think we've all got a little scar or two from our childhood.

It all adds to our character. :-)

"a colouring in incident."

My DC turned themselves into little oompa-lompas during their mix-all-the-colours-together phase. I only turned my head for a second.

Just to add my story, I split my chin open twice within 18 months in my mid teens. Mine was steri stripped back together both times. I have a scar but it's really not obvious and hasn't been since the spectacular bruising went away and I healed.
Because of its location no one notices it, the only annoying thing is I grow a thick black hair out of the scar area but that's not necessarily the scars fault
Sounds like the nurse wasn't really thinking

Scars are evidence of an exciting childhood IMO. I have a scar right in the middle of my forehead after going through a window, scars on my chin from a car accident and a chicken pox hole on my eyebrow (and various others too numerous to count). I don't care in the least about them, I'm just grateful a. that mum didn't wrap me in cotton wool and b. that no-one cared more or less because I was a girl. They are just war wounds!

Hope your dd isn't too sore now. Ignore the nurse and her ignorant comment.

Yup, agree that the nurse was wrong in what she said.

I'm covered in scars. I had a wonderfully misspent childhood, climbing trees, riding horses, getting into all sorts of scrapes and doing all sorts of stupid things. Apart from the ones my mother gave me, I can look at every one of them and tell a story about something daft and smile.

What's this about dying the child blue? >

I have a scar on my right eyebrow. Nobody has ever noticed. (Or said they noticed.) There was a lot of blood when it happened, I remember.

DS2 chipped his tooth when playing outdoors. Dentist and I agreed that we should just plonk them in front of the telly rather than letting them do dangerous things like playing outside.

And I agree with Buffy - the nurse should not say what she did. Harrumph on your behalf.

Right, so we've established you're not being sensible . You're having a visceral reaction to the idea placed into your head that you didn't do the best thing for your child. But you did. She didn't have a stitch, she'd probably have a scar either way and nobody will notice it anyway. FWIW, DD2 has a scar at the side of her mouth from when she decided that polishing the tarmac with her face was a better idea than staying on her scooter. I can see it, other people might notice it when the light's right. Am I a bad parent for letting her scoot over bumpy ground? Nope - and I don't think it would be different if she were a boy. Did I feel like shit when she did it, as I was unable to stop it happening? Oh yes indeedy I did. So have a , some and a [grip]

After all, this is the child you dyed blue, isn't it? You won't be able to see anything under the Smurfskin...

We loved comparing scars at school, boys and girls. I was mightly pissed off that mine were so crappily insignificant.

In fact when ds1 had surgery on his arm recently, dh & I spent ages rooting around for scars from various childhood injuries to show him (and compare with each other). When I told a female friend about this, we spent another 10 minutes comparing our childhood scars.

It's different for girls if people make a big deal about it being different. You sound like you're spot on in realising it's not a big deal.

And the wait in A&E.
DS still remembers waiting over 4 hours to have his knee stitched, and that was over a decade ago, they gave me a pad and told me to keep pressure on the extensive wound that needed three stitches. For four hours.