Where do you fall on "forgetting" contraception?

Yep - the Assange case is rape, what a fucking prick. I wouldn't be sleeping with him again unless he has the snip. or, i'd probably be considering weather I still wanted to be in a relationship with someone who had so little respect for my health and feelings - all so he could get off on it.

you are being very calm about this OP

Assange is being accused of rape for this very thing. It is a crime in this country too. You might want to point that out to him.

MAP has a failure rate too.

He has played fast and loose with your health for his orgasm. I would be incandescent with rage. Who the fuck does he think he is? Why did he feel entitled to do that? What else does he feel entitled to do?

I think you are underreacting tbh.

The very same thing happened to me OP. He went off to put one on, came back, all was dandy and then afterwards was like "oops I forgot. You shoulda checked". I mean WTF?! It puts you in this position of not trusting what they say/do in bed which is awful because the whole thing of having sex is mutual trust.

I was so mad I refused to speak to him until he had gone to the doctors and got a full range of tests! I was so sick of being the one to suffer the embarrassment after the man's so-called slip-ups. Why should I?

And that's without the medical aspect of your situation. I'd be livid. Seriously, if you can't trust your DH in bed where can you trust him?

The MAP is so hard on your body though. I took it once and it made me so bloody ill. You need to get across how the MAP is not a 'simple' answer - This would make me utterly doolall!

Awful. How can you ever trust him again?

Really, really awful. I feel this way when both men and women lie about contraception. I would be absolutely furious, I think it would be just about one of the worst things, worse than him sleeping with someone else. And after your dr told you it was inadvisable for you to conceive - unbelievable.

Christ on a bike. If my fella tried this shit with me after 8 years of marriage, he'd be buried six feet under the patio.

I'd be quite put off having sex with him ever again.

What on earth did he think was going to happen when he decided, oh i'll just go ahead?

Where do I stand? To me, it is pretty much THE unforgivable sin. I would be pressing the restart button on the relationship (not the end button). He needs to explain what on earth was going through his head.

Why was it him who had the information about your health, and not you?

No, you're not over-reacting. Utterly shitty thing to do. Emergency contraception has side effects, unless I'm very much misled, whereas wearing a rubber isn't a big deal at all.

You could go a LOT further with being angry about it, too. Prosecutions can and have been brought.