It's just a calendar.......

Take it down. It's grim. And doesn't say a lot about your husbands attitude to women. Do you have a daughter. Ask him if he'd like a picture if her in a similar calendar in years to come.

I think I'd be looking at this from the POV of what does his choice to put a calendar like that up say about his relationships with women. He was happy enough to start a business with you, but he actually thinks that women's place in the workforce is half naked and present for the titilation of the actual workers? What's that all about? Take it down off the wall first thing, but also discuss why you're doing it and how his ability to objectify the women in the calendar also sends messages about his views of you and all other women.

It's your joint business, go ahead and take it down.

Okay, ignoring the posters who seem to be under the misapprehension that you've posted in the Stepford wives branch of AIBU rather than FWR several things spring to mind.

1. If it's a business you have started jointly then you have as much say in how it's run as he has.

2. Just because it's a male-dominated sector of business doesn't mean that all concern for women being free from sexual harrassment in the work place goes out the window. In fact I'd argue that it becomes even more important to try to counteract the environment by making sure things like girlie calendars aren't plastered up in the coffee room. And (given that you own the business together) there is at least one woman in that workplace being made uncomfortable - you.

3. Relationships tend to thrive when the two parties share fundamental values. So for instance a relationship can take a disagreement over what the appropriate date is to put the Christmas tree up, but it usually can't take a really fundamental difference over moral or political issues, not without a lot of work. And him thinking it's perfectly okay to objectify women while you think it's not is a pretty fundamental difference in values. You can either sweep it under the carpet (not a good idea - the smell will linger and infuse everything else you try to do) or try to discuss (which might take you into some dangerous territory, or might enable the two of you to develop a position you're both happy with - I can't predict which).

But do ignore the cool Stepford wives types telling you to relax - you don't have to. You are allowed to say that this is a major issue of principle for you.

Presumably the one he brought home for the children's room wasn't of naked ladies, or I think I would be more concerned about that one!

LTB.