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Would a real feminist care?

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fluffyduckie · 27/12/2013 18:33

I work with a few women at work and one is quite a bit older than me and has recently become a feminist. She has never really liked me (not sure why!) but has now decided that I represent everything that a feminist should hate. I don't know if it is just that she has some major issue with me and saying she is a feminist means that she feels free to express this.

Basically her issues with me are that I am a "walking 1950s stereotype" pretty much because I am kind of old fashioned, like girly things, am quite domestic and crafty (interests rather than actual skill) and I like to read old books and magazines. I know that I am old fashioned in some ways but I look reasonable normal (she objects to hair accessories) and I don't dress or act like I am from another decade.

So I think that it is just that she has an issue with me but she has said a fair few times that any feminist would have an issue with my interests. I like domestic stuff but I don't go around proclaiming that everyone should think exactly as I do. There have been issues before between us with sarcastic comments and digs but she has never really been open about it until now.

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SunshineOnACrappyDay · 27/12/2013 18:38

She sounds like a cow. Hang around this section for long enough and you'll see how feminists, like any other group, don't agree on everything.
I'm a feminist and there are things that I care about that other feminists don't, and vice versa.

I'd suggest telling her to (politely) fuck off, and if that doesn't work then talking to your boss.