A Concerned Mother’s Letter to Teenage Girls"

One of the most fucking depressing blog posts ever.

I think it's so so awful and aimed completely in the wrong direction :(

The reality is you only have to go to your corner shop to see some some walking around barely dressed, as well as being a bit mean making your son delete people is rather pointless, sadly its the culture we live in.

Like another poster said, there is a relevant point deep in that mess of a post, had she pointed out that, its there forever once you upload, think of longterm,.etc ,may have been recived better.

HowlingTrap I'm a mother of a son and I hope I handle stuff like sexy selfies and that sort of thing better then a bout of public slut shaming. My son is only 2 so hoping I can come up with a better way of dealing with it.

I wonder if the blogger instead of deleting the girl (who she was friends with) and talked about the images with her. What they might mean and what impact that might have, who might see them and how the girl would feel about that.

I think the whole tone of the post is very patronising and condesending, My parents didn't look through 'pictures of the summer' on my SN sites, they seem like one of those families that are a little over involved.

However, as a mother of sons I don't think I'd be a fountain of tolerance If I came across similar pictures, I think to myself oh dear god woman! But I'm not naiive enough to think that my sons maybe have added this person because they post those kinds of images. So I wouldn't be all
" 'don' currup' ma' boy now!'

For fucks sake what does she think her DSs see every time they go swimming or walk down the street on a summers day.

Yes sexual selfies make young girls look stupid, and they should be proud of more than their looks, but looking good and being approved of does make girls happy.

Everyone male or female feels more confident if they feel they look good.

Even my DH, who is the least fashion conscious person on the planet (he just wears what I buy) still won't go out without shaving.

I hate stuff like this. Why does being sexual as a young woman mean that women is not worthy of love.

I think it's a shame that the quite legitimate point she makes ie that girls (and boys) are more than just physical objects and should be valuing those aspects of themselves rather than promoting the sexual/superficial aspects of their personality - is pretty much lost by her making the point so badly.

Be interesting to see what life has in store for her when her DD gets a bit older!

The predictable response was that gels nowadays are terribly immodest and we need to go back to the days when they knew their place

This is a bit old now and when I first saw it it was accompanied by pics of her 'decent' sons topless having fun in the great outdoors.

There was a fairly predictable response from people with some very insightful responses saying we don't like sexy selfies of teenage girls but don't humiliate girls. Blame the media for making those girls feel they have to sell themselves in that way

It's so much easier to tell every female your son may come in contact with to not "act slutty" then it is to tell your son that women are humans with complex emotions and are capable of intelligence and kindness... Even if you've seen them naked.

What will happen when they get girlfriends will they be able to see them as people after they have had sex?

What a patronising twat she is. Does she really think her sons don't look at and objectify girls, whatever they are wearing? Now everyone knows her sons are totally under mummy's thumb. They must be mortified.

She posted an apology for her woman blaming later on her blog.

i think it's a fabulous, very sensible post. I've saved it and am going to show it to my dd when she's ready.

My little boy is still actually little..so may I can't see what she is seeing. But fuck me, blocking the girls in his class because they have "sexy" pics up? Am I wrong to think I am actually much more concerned about my boy being exposed to porn rather than a young girl trying to be sexy?

And writing an open letter to make them feel ashamed and humiliate her sons

Fuck off you sanctimonious twat. (and this id from someone who hates "sexy" selfies in anyway especially when staged by 14 year olds.

Wow.

I DO sympathise with her. My DS' girlfriend/her friends post similar selfies. But that is society. Tbh. If my DS didn't like them, he wouldn't have them on his Twitter. And that is society too.

Accusing girls and making them responsible for the sons though...? And being a friend with my DS doesn't make them a friend with the family. Some of his friends I don't like. Unless the friendship results in something harmful or damaging, or is likely to, then that doesn't matter. I don't have to like them, as long as my DS is safe and isn't being negatively affected, then meh.

I am so torn about this. Yes, it is woman-blaming shite from a mother who clearly thinks evil females are out to lure her precious boys into sin.
The potential mother in law from hell indeed rearing the next generation of mummy's boys.

But I do wonder what is up with girls barely out of nappies who pose in not very much clothing on Facebook. Sexy? Give me a break. How the hell they square that with complaining about girls being turned into sex objects I don't know. I wonder where their so-called parents are doing to allow it.

Thank God there was no such tripe as Facebook when my DDs were growing up.

Women's liberation - going backwards.

I haven't seen the comments - but I sympathise with the letter. I'd no more like my DC to post sexy FB snaps than I'd like them to share questionable right-wing politics. I think both have the potential to define them in the future in ways which they maybe don't anticipate. Likewise, I'd counsel my sons to tread warily - because a sex scandal does stick to a boy as well as a girl.

Sorry I saw the comments on her blog I think where she initially posted this.

Oh I saw this a couple of months ago. The comments are horrendous. Woman-blaming shite.

Basil. You're not wrong!

she is so going to be the mother in law from hell

Yes I agree, many young people are striving the keep themselves together in this digital age, I suppose the woman is fearing for her sons, which I get. Of course she is going to be high attuned to what they are being exposed to.

Anyway, we need not worry, I expect she is praying for all of us