Lapdancing and telling off dh's mate.

Scallop - so the confidence bit was telling the mate, the boundary setting was telling the husband??

No it wasn't yougotbale. It was about the OP having found the confidence to stand up for herself and set boundaries, because of FWR. Not to insult and gaslight her.

Buffy - that's fine. I get your opinion. Post about whatever you want to.

Scallop - it is what it's about. The long and short of was I told the mate, then I told my husband.

But you aren't talking about the what the thread was supposed to be about. You are continually calling the OP abusive and manipulative.

If you don't think your opinion is god for the OP to hear, why are you giving it

I agree that bale has personally attacked the op, beach.

Buffy - I have all the respect for everyone on here. I am not arguing with your opinions or trying to pick at them. I'm very pleased to hear other views.

I understand that my opinion may not be good for the OP to hear and I admit maybe some of my language may have not been spot on. But if you post on a public forum then expect many different views.
If you openly talk about going to strip bars, being racist, talking about a relationship on a forum then expect views. And other posters expect different views too.

You'd laugh if it wasn't so sad.

Pore old YoGurtBale.

Sorry scallop. I was asked to explain by Buffy. I won't say it again

And he still won't put a sock in it.

Disclaimer - the above is a figure of speech. I am not threatening any posters with actually tracking them down and attempting to silence them with socks.

"I don't know her and it sound manipulative to me and possibly abusive." The fact that you keep saying this, repeatedly, in so many posts is unnecessary. Not sure why you keep saying it. Everyone knows how you feel. They just don't agree with you.

Beach - you don't have to report me to me.

Totally agree with you scallops.

Yougotbale's posts attempt to gaslight the OP and the rest of us really obviously and badly.

Hence why I reported.

Buffy - I think it's the way in this threads OP to control someone's actions. It sounds like a threat rather than a reasonable setting of boundaries. It doesn't really describe how the OP feels as such. Apart from it would make her angry enough to kill. It describes what will happen to him.

I don't know her and it sound manipulative to me and possibly abusive.

OK. I just reported your posts personally attacking the OP and accusing her of abusing her partner and threatening murder. There were quite a lot of them, about a dozen.

This sort of crap is soooo typical. Woman opens mouth and speaks out against misogyny. Woman seeks a little sisterhood and exchange about speaking out against misogyny.

Woman is personally attacked and has wildly fanciful and offensive slurs thrown at her. Repeatedly.

It is so transparent.

Woman shuts the fuck up as is her place is hopefully spurred on to continue speaking out against misogyny.

Manchesterhistorygirl - you go girl. See how they really don't like it when we speak up. The vitriol is quite something. Hope you are OK after all this personal and offensive attack.

I would have to say your posts on here seem abusive yougotbale. Gaslighting, turning the argument round on to the OP rather than discussing the bad behaviour of the man exploiting women. Goading and provoking, continually even after several posters have complained about it. Those are pretty abusive traits.

There is no abuse yougotbale. Stop trying to insinuate the OP is abusive. It is really offensive.

Buffy - figure of speeches beginning with 'I.....' are different in my mind.
Maybe abusive is wrong because it could be a one off and not a long running thing.
I'm not comparing it to rape. But on that subject I don't like sayings like my Facebook got raped, my email got raped, or if it was a more expensive taxi, I've heard people say the taxi driver raped me. I don't like and won't use these.

The reason behind my opinion is the use of the language. Deeper than that, the meanings of the words. That is my reasoning

Way to go Manchester ! Coming on MN and FWR in particular has helped me to become much more confident in expressing my beliefs as well. Calling your DH and his twatty fiends out was exactly the right thing to do.

Don't listen to the rent-a-goady-fucker mob. Any thread like this gets crayoned all over, because, how very bloody dare women have opinions, state those opinions or make it clear that whatever we're calling twats out on is misogynistic/woman-hating behaviour.

I have enjoyed the kittens though.