Lapdancing and telling off dh's mate.

YGB, have you nothing to say to registary about his abusive threats of violence ?

Register for rehab

Are you drunk Registary?

Yep. Ten a penny.

See ? Ten a penny.

God! What a hairy handed trucker.

No, you don't get to apologise to OP and claim you were right. You can live and learn though.

nincompoops...ten a-fuckin' penny

sab it was the way I read the words. The fact that OP only cleared it up now made me think I was right. I can only live and learn. Again, sorry

Oh. What caused you to misread the situation, do you think, bale?

I'm sure op is much obliged by your apology.

Manchester, I'm sorry for misreading the situation. I'm sorry that because of that I called you names you definitely are not. I'm sorry

I would consider it a result if someone who deliberately tried to make me feel less than in my own house never darkened the doorstep again.

One less wanker polluting my personal air space < dusts off hands >

A good days work, OP.

Do one, bale.

for Basil and OP

Thanks for clearing that up manchester, i bet you are glad your husbands mate doesn't come round anymore. God must be evil to allow you to chose him as a godparent.

Remember to always speak up.

Men: if you don't want women to think you are utter fucking nobbers and actively attacking us, remember not to talk about other women as if they - and by extension we - are bits of meat, in front of us.

We know what you're doing when you do that, even when you pretend that you don't know what we're talking about when we call you on it.

HTH.

And BTW that's gone largely undiscussed on here - how fucking aggressive, rude and hostile the OP's guest was and how actually, him talking about lapdancing clubs, was a calculated insult to her.

The men arguing that she was rude, have completely glossed over how fucking insulting he was. He deserved to be horsewhipped, not just told off.

[NB: I'm not actually abusively advocating horse-whipping nobbers. I'm using that term in the "horse-whip the cad" colloquial sense of the word, which is generally not understood to be a literal exhortation.]

"I'm honestly trying to envisage a situation where my wife has a mate over & they're chatting & I wade in calling them a bunch of twats etc. and I can't, honestly, think of a time it'd be acceptable."

Well, if someone came into your house and deliberately chose a topic of conversation designed to put you down, then it would be acceptable, no? Someone coming into your home and sneering at you in a passive-aggressive, covert way, designed to let you know that you shouldn't get above yourself and you should just remember that you're not quite as human as they are?

Has this ever happened to you? Because it happens to women all the time. And it happened to Manchesterhistorygirl. When men talk about fucking women or going to lapdancing clubs, or visiting Thai prostitutes, or pore over pornography shouting "phwoar, look at the tits on that!" when women are present, they are doing it in order to deliberately insult, embarrass, control and silence women, to put us in our place and to remind us that we're the sex caste. That we're one of those Untermenschen who are there to be fucked by them. In a workplace context it's known as sexual harassment, it's acknowledged that it creates a hostile environment for women and it's illegal. In our own homes, it's fucking abusive behaviour from a guest and the OP was absolutely right to slap the bastard down.

Venceremos.

I'm pleased that that's how you feel op. Some pretty nasty stuff has been written on this thread.

But what Beach wrote is right. Solidarity. Strength in numbers.

I think it's exactly that AF. They are few but prolific namechangers/new registers. And they all want our attention. Bless.

The dumbasses are interchangeable. Matters not which actual one it is. Unless they are all the same grubby little weed getting a semi from having grown up women pay them a bit of attention.

^ Just my opinion of course.

I think he's Treen44444 btw. Plus many others probably. Visiting from reddit.