Lapdancing and telling off dh's mate.

Do explain, yougotbale

Buffy - that's not true

that's the ticket my girl. Know your place

Oh.

you again.

Zippy Buffy likes to makes assumptions about how everybody thinks, to fit her agenda. she also ignores the numerous dancers who have spoke out in support of their jobs too.

And yes, before you say it, I know that there are male strippers. There are significantly fewer and the circumstances under which they perform are very different.

how exactly exactly are their circumstances different? Most male strippers go mobile and there certainly aren't any things like no touching rules or cctv.

and OP I think you are out of order for challenging your husbands friends like that, regardless of what the issue was. You should have spoke to your husband about it later, and told him you didn't approve of his friends comments/ views, rather than embarrass him like that. How would you feel if your husband spoke to your friends like that? Ever heard of being tactful?

Isn't this amazing, btw? It should be the standard of every country.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strip_club_ban_in_Iceland

I don't think lapdancing clubs are going anywhere, and a lot of women say they like doing it, they're using men for money etc. My personal feeling is it's degrading but that's me.

My issue is that if you have a partner, you're degrading them aswel. As if they're not enough. It's all just a bit of fun and their feelings aren't important because you want to see some boobs

Women do get lapdances too, but not too many

It's sexist because the 'business' is based on half-dressed women gyrating for men's titillation.

I hope that made sense. I think one is sexist, the other isn't. My opinion only of course. Anyway the debate has moved on and I'm out for just now.

@fleacircus
I don't see how a person going to a lap dancing club is sexist. The recent debate on here about women sitting at the back of classrooms in an Islamic school is sexist because they are treating women differently to men. I don't see how women are being discriminated against. Maybe you can enlighten me.

To me its just business, albeit a less than savory one. If a woman chooses to do it and a man chooses to pay, or vice versa, who am I to decide who is right or wrong.

I would have told them I considered them vile and disgusting too. Good on you OP.

Good for you OP. I would be pissed off if my DP was visiting these places and I'd tell his mates they were twats too. Don't care if that's controlling.

Private dances don't cost that much, and who'd be happy with their partner having a fully naked girl gyrating around them?

Review - lol. It was a joke. I think it's right for the OP to speak up and give an opinion. As it is for the husbands mate.

The OP sounds threatening and controlling. I would do a runner

I would say that discussing lapdancing clubs is absolutely a female/male thing.

Your post basically said 'you just have to put up with it, as your opinion wasn't asked.' Why should she have to be quiet until her opinion is asked?? Do the men wait to be asked for their opinion?

No one tells me what to say - in my house I'd have done the same

If out and couldn't be arsed I'd have left

well zippey
AHEM I'll tell you who is right!

You make a good point too about the way the views are expressed - yet when you are passionate it's easy to go on a bit. Still, OP could argue that their actions are causing harm at a level greater than being strongly disagreed with by a friends' wife, so they should be able to take it.

I still maintain she was right to say what she thinks without sugarcoating it - the conversation was going on there around her, it's a bit 'be a good little lady' to expect her to just sit in silence.
You wouldn't expect a black person to sit all decorous and mannerly if they were joking about perpetuating racism.

Yougotbale wow what an insight. of course you are right that's it exactly.