Lapdancing and telling off dh's mate.

I'm leaving as I fear i might get pelted by burning bras or something!! seriously guys life is too short!!! Try enjoying it a bit more and chill out!

A man has been embarrassed in front of his mates because his wife has an opinion?
If my DP had been embarrassed every time I had an opinion he'd be a shrivelled wreck by now.

If my pals were bragging about going to a male strip club I would be embarrassed.
And if DP had an opinion (which he often does) I would expect him to voice it, why shouldn't he?

I suppose. 'Ladyboy' clubs are more popular than men's strip clubs. Do you think a change from patriarchy would see a boom in male dancer clubs?

How would you feel if your husband had a go at your friends if they were talking about a male strip show??

I wouldn't give a toss - he's free to voice an opinion to my friends

Whats wrong with them going, if their partners are fine about it?
I'm glad my dh doesn't want to go to these places, of course I am. However, I think if you have to threaten them not to go you've lost really. If a man is going to go he will threat or not, you just might never find out

I can detect something even worse than shrill, buffy.....we're talking about a man who has been embarrassed by his wife here! This is SERIOUS.

Good on you for calling him on it OP. However I wish you would have told your DH that you would be gone rather than implying he would be murdered. I know that partner-murder is usually committed by men, but making it unacceptable to joke about men killing women really requires women to stop joking about killing men.

Buffy - I suppose you can make selective observations to support an outcome.
Sorry, I thought you were analysing as a whole

How would you feel if your husband had a go at your friends if they were talking about a male strip show?? I would be bloody livid! So I wouldn't do it to him in return!! I bet your DH was really embarrassed!

You're a woman buffy aren't you? You can only have an opinion on the kittens, then. Just the kittens.

He might but would it be the last thing you did? Why not express your view and let him decide. If he cares about you he won't go. Do you use this technique in other areas of life. He must be a nervous wreck.

who cares whether women do it too?

that's classic derailing and it betrays the limited stupidly wrong view of feminism that anti feminists always have. It's not that we hate men so whatever they do it's wrong. That's arse about tit (pardon the pun)

The issue is some practises cause harm to women and if you indulge in them you are wrong and should expect to be told so when you boast about it.

it is simple

Your last post

Oh, sorry everyone. Did I want women to be treated as equals for a second there? Silly me!

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Lapdancers are normally women. That display that dance for both men and women. I know women that go to these places e.g. My gay friend went for her hen party, rihanna goes.

People don't think the OP shouldn't speak up. She shouldn't try and control her husband by threatening to kill him if he does something she doesn't like.

Do you know how clubs in the uk are owned by women?

OP I think you are out of order for challenging your husbands friends like that, regardless of what the issue was. You should have spoke to your husband about it later, and told him you didn't approve of his friends comments/ views, rather than embarrass him like that. How would you feel if your husband spoke to your friends like that? Ever heard of being tactful?

Doesn't that just say it all?

Women! Don't you dare speak out of place whilst in the presence of your husband and his friends. If you must say something, wait till later when you won't embarrass him or yourself. FFS.

Lib. She is an equal to her husband and can say what she fucking likes to who she fucking likes. She's not a subordinate to him.

Or you know what.... I've lost interest