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Lapdancing and telling off dh's mate.

365 replies

Manchesterhistorygirl · 02/10/2013 17:41

I blame you lot. Thanks.

Last night dh's friend was telling him all about his recent visit to a lap dancing bar. I told him he and his mates were a bunch of twats and I was disgusted at them all, especially since they all have partners.

I also told dh if I ever found out he'd done the same it'd be the absolute last thing he ever did.

So my nest of vipers, thank you for giving me the confidence to handle a situation I've always found disgusting, but wouldn't have ever spoken out about until I joined here.

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reelingintheyears · 03/10/2013 16:46

She wasn't asking if she was being U, just chatting and saying how this forum has given her the confidence to speak up when she doesn't like something.

Good on her.

Rowlers · 03/10/2013 16:45

Thread's a bit ruined now.

EarthMither · 03/10/2013 16:42

I think it was a piss-poor attempt at humour, reeling

reelingintheyears · 03/10/2013 16:41

I was on about the difficulty of identifying dawn French on an Internet forum with usernames lol

Why do you need to identify her?

The difficulty implies you would like to be able to identify her.

EarthMither · 03/10/2013 16:39

Why is what the husband's friend said important Yougotmale? The OP posted to report what SHE had said. Or don't a woman's words count if they're not contextualised by a male response?

Yougotbale · 03/10/2013 16:38

Reeling - I don't need to identify anyone.

Yougotbale · 03/10/2013 16:36

Earth - it's not derailing. I think the thread would maybe have a more definite path if we heard what this dickhead husband's friend had said in response.

reelingintheyears · 03/10/2013 16:34

Why the would you want/need to identify anyone on a forum.
You interact with the person they are on the forum.

Yougotbale · 03/10/2013 16:34

I'm allergic to cats. Kittens do malt less (I think).

Remember a cup of coffee is for a break, a cat is for life.

EarthMither · 03/10/2013 16:33

Way to go Yougotmale - highly effective derailing, you clever boy

scallopsrgreat · 03/10/2013 16:31

kittens are kittens Yougotbale. Simple as that.

They are cute and fluffy and do silly things which make us smile when all around is going slightly mad

Yougotbale · 03/10/2013 16:29

Sab - I was on about the difficulty of identifying dawn French on an Internet forum with usernames lol

What is the fluffy kitten thing about? I'm oblivious to its meaning. Please explain

If it's about women being under pressure to pluck. I'm against waxing. Nothing wrong with a bit of fluff

AnyFucker · 03/10/2013 16:26

Are there some posters who literally lie in wait for these threads so they can deliberately derail them with pedantic wanky shit ? It would seem so, and what a shame that is. Their superior grasp of the English language could have been used much more productively than that.

SabrinaMulhollandJjones · 03/10/2013 16:24

A calming Brew for yougotbale. I don't know what you're on about.

Yougotbale · 03/10/2013 16:19

Of course on that thread? That's the problem with usernames

reelingintheyears · 03/10/2013 16:18

I wouldn't tell anyone off apart from my kids. maybe OPs choice of descriptive words of the situation where unwise.

However, I would still voice my opinion of their behaviour in front of them and DP.

The ''last thing you do'' comment is neither here nor there, it's between them if OP sees it as a deal breaker.

SabrinaMulhollandJjones · 03/10/2013 16:16

Was Dawn French the OP on the choc orange AIBU thread? Could have been, I suppose. But unlikely I would think.

Yougotbale · 03/10/2013 16:15

Sab - no it was a question. So was it her?

SabrinaMulhollandJjones · 03/10/2013 16:13

Is that your attempt at a joke, yougotbale? Don't give up the day job, will you.

Yougotbale · 03/10/2013 16:09

Sab - was that dawn French? No wonder Lenny left for a hotel

ArmyDad · 03/10/2013 16:08
  1. I don't think that the OP was controlling - what people find a deal breaker is between them. My issue was with "telling off" of the friend. I wouldn't tell off my wives friends based on my beliefs
  1. "last thing he'll ever do" I don't think anyone will die somehow
SabrinaMulhollandJjones · 03/10/2013 16:06

It's a figure of speech - to try and make out that in this context it's threatening or abusive is ridiculous.

It's like the "AIBU to kill dh for eating my Terry's chocolate orange" debacle all over again. Hmm

Yougotbale · 03/10/2013 15:58

I'd disagree but that's just my opinion. I would say its abusive, again my opinion.

reelingintheyears · 03/10/2013 15:56

maybe the OP would like to tell us if she really means to kill her DP if he ever goes to a lap dancing club.

Bloody nonsense.

reelingintheyears · 03/10/2013 15:54

Well exactly, Scallops and TheCat.

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