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Changing from a Miss to Ms. How?

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crikeyitshot · 21/07/2013 08:48

I'm getting a bit confused. I want to change my title to Ms but I'm not entirely sure how to go about it. I had thought it would be quite a straight-forward process but I was reading on the f-word Ms: is it really so difficult?! and realised I may be about to walk into a world of annoyance. My passport is due for renewal, can I just change my title when I send off my new one then use it as 'proof' for banks etc?

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perplexedpirate · 21/07/2013 12:30

I flit between Mrs and Ms, and my original name and my married, double-barrelled name all the time. I just forget, and I've been married four years so CBA changing now.
Never had any problems, call yourself what you want. Smile

LRDYaDumayuIThink · 21/07/2013 12:03

You shouldn't need to glare at all. You don't need any proof to change to Ms.

KRITIQ · 21/07/2013 11:11

I don't like titles at all, but when pushed, I've used "Ms" since I was probably 16 or 17, whether married or not. So, fortunately bank accounts, credit cards and stuff I think are all Ms or nothing. It's a pain when people "assume" and just assign Miss or Mrs based on their assessment of your "status," and they may tut and click when you correct them, but it's your right to do so, so ignore their irritation. Maybe if enough people do it, "officials," will start to recognise it's not doing them any favours to assume.

kim147 · 21/07/2013 09:57

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HotCrossPun · 21/07/2013 09:43

Lloyds are the same with me Bunny . I do my business banking with them and it annoys me no end that any correspondence they send me is headed with 'Dear Sirs.'

When I phone them up as well, they always refer to me as Miss - despite the fact that it says Ms on all my cards. Angry

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crikeyitshot · 21/07/2013 09:37

Thank you. I have been gradually changing the easy ones but thought banks would be a problem. Will just go in and personally glare across the counter at Nationwide until they change it. It is such a small thing but I just don't feel like a Miss. Smile

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Bunnylion · 21/07/2013 09:11

I have a new UK passport and it doesn't state miss/ms/mrs.

On all other documents I just fill in forms with Ms and that works fine for the most part. But I still get Mrs and occasionally Miss on post.

Lloyds TSB have had an issue with changing me to Ms. I even went in to talk to a bank manager to get it changed and he said "oh, have you recently got divorced?"... Sigh. He said it would be changed but they still have me as miss on their system.

Claudiecat · 21/07/2013 09:03

When you fill in any forms just use Ms. I've never needed to prove anything but then I'm not bothered if I'm addressed as Miss/Mrs/Ms as long as they use the right surname, which is the one I was given at birth!

ITCouldBeWorse · 21/07/2013 08:53

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