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we went to a gay pride carnival

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ThirdTimesABrokenFanjo · 30/06/2013 20:10

100,000 people where no one was dressing for straight men.

most of the women had comfy clothes and the ones who were dressing in a "sexy" way had gone whole hog and were practically naked.... but not in the "im actually feeling quite uncomfortable and it's really apparent to anyone who looks at me" way you often see. Maybe it was the fact that they wernt being molested or catcalled as they walked.

and i realized while looking at the young men how rare it is for men to be undressed in our society. I probably saw more banana hammocks in any square ft there than i have ever seen in my 30 years of tv viewing. Grin

Straight men want boobs and fussy hair and make up so they get it.

straight men do not want to see bananna hammocks so we just dont see them

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NiceTabard · 30/06/2013 21:32

And as an added super-bonus for all females, they also shout obscenities if the female does meet them. Hooray!!!

BasilBabyEater · 30/06/2013 21:30

Arf at the idea that men don't police women's looks.

Of course they do.

They quite often shout insults in the streets at them when they see one who isn't measuring up to the beauty standards they feel are acceptable

NiceTabard · 30/06/2013 21:21

Of course straight men notice Confused

I was treated the other day at work to two of my colleagues discussing at length the appearance of a more senior female, and how they couldn't understand how anyone would ever want to have sex with her.

Of course men notice what women look like - and judge and judge hard. Not all of them, obviously, but enough.

TBH most females find this out at about 13 when they first get something obscene shouted at them by some bloke in a van.

Startail · 30/06/2013 21:20

Be gob smacked if a woman spoke to them.

Seriously, in a mixed school the boys may join in the teasing, but it's the girls who start the petty appearance based shit.

Startail · 30/06/2013 21:15

Most straight men don't notice if you have make up on or fussy hair.

Men don't give a shit what women wear.

Other women do! Lets stop this sisterhood rubbish. It doesn't exist.

The boys at school don't tell the girls their skirts are too long, their trousers are too short or their waist bands are too high. 99% of boys and 90% of men would be go snaked if a girl/woman looked at them never mind spoke to them.

Lets stop blaming men for all the ills in the world. They are only responsible for 50%

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ThirdTimesABrokenFanjo · 30/06/2013 20:29

i know that, i was there with my (hopefully) straight husband.

But my point was that of 100,000 people the straight men there were not the target audience, not the "consumers". like in most of society.

and it was interesting to see how different things look when straight men arent the focus of everything.

ive been to pride events before but not since learning more about feminism and just saw it from a different perspective this time

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NiceTabard · 30/06/2013 20:21

Yup that's about the size of it OP!

AKissIsNotAContract · 30/06/2013 20:15

Straight men go to pride too.

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