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Fucking hell, Nigella picture, WTF? [includes links to upsetting images]

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BoffinMum · 15/06/2013 22:51

twitter.com/suttonnick/status/346017840106704898/photo/1

Tomorrow's Sunday People cover. Where do we even start with this?

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scallopsrgreat · 18/06/2013 17:53

Ha very appropriate nauticant!

MadBusLady · 18/06/2013 17:46

Baha, good spot nauticant!

scallopsrgreat · 18/06/2013 17:43

Boffin I wouldn't (although I can understand why you want to). We believe you.

I have a theory in progress that there is a correlation between men in high positions and DV. The sense of entitlement acquired and the selfishness required to get to the top of your profession are the same qualities found in abusive partners.

nauticant · 18/06/2013 17:42

Hmmm, I'll try this:

www.saatchionline.com/art/Unknown-The-wife-beater/70423/543742/view

nauticant · 18/06/2013 17:41

If they do divorce, I wonder who'll get this painting as part of the settlement:

www.saatchionline.com/art/Unknown-The-wife-beater/70423/543742/view

TheRealMBJ · 18/06/2013 17:06

You can help other victims/survivors of DV in other ways perhaps?

BoffinMum · 18/06/2013 17:05

Probably shouldn't then. Wise advice.

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EmmelineGoulden · 18/06/2013 17:04

Very sad to hear the Met buckled and cautioned him. Leaves Nigella in a very vulnerable position.

Guidelines for the justice system on domestic violence said that cautions are rarely appropriate for good reason.

TheRealMBJ · 18/06/2013 17:02

Boffin you should do what ever protects you and helps protect others. That may or may not be going public. But first and foremost, look after yourself

BoffinMum · 18/06/2013 16:47

I was battered about by a (then) fairly high profile media figure in my former life, and left. I am tempted to out myself, but then again not sure.

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BoffinMum · 18/06/2013 16:38

Bico I used to teach the offspring of those families and there was at least one situation where a peer of the realm beat the fuck out of his wife and children, another where a parent smashed his sons in the face in the Bentley in front of another kid who was on a play date, and another where a QC verbally humiliated his wife and children in front of the teachers.

Disgusting.

FWIW I think Saatchi is a total smuck and he must think we are idiots if he is passing that off as a tiff. Except of course he does think the little people are idiots.

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nauticant · 18/06/2013 13:46

Good contributions by MadBusLady and AprilFoolishness on this thread.

Saatchi will be looking to get Lawson publicly back on side over this, otherwise it's complete defeat, and so his tactics appear to be to present a "a bit of bother but things will be back to normal soon" story. This gives Lawson the "easy" option of going along with it or the difficult and unpleasant one of being forced to go on the offence.

MarshaBrady · 18/06/2013 13:36

I dearly hope she has left him. There's no 'we' are doing this if she has left.

fubbsy · 18/06/2013 13:32

I think it is strategic Rolf. However she may feel, Nigella must have advice from her publicists, PRs and so forth.

Rolf · 18/06/2013 13:22

AprilFoolishness great post. It's really interesting isn't it?
Good apology from Greenslade.
I think Nigella's silence is the smartest and most eloquent strategy she could go for. I hope it is strategic, and not stemming from a position of foetal duvet-hugging paralysis.

Chubfuddler · 18/06/2013 13:16

She has permitted her publicist to confirm she and the children have left the family home. She has said nothing to back up his claims. I think the position is probably pretty clear.

I hope she is divorce lawyer shopping as I type.

fubbsy · 18/06/2013 13:14

He accepted a caution because he did not want it to go to court. It's obviously a tactical decision.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 18/06/2013 13:10

Spot on, MadBusLady.

MadBusLady · 18/06/2013 13:06

I call complete bullshit on this. Unless and until she makes a supporting statement, I am going to assume he is just like any other abuser - desperately denying, minimising and bullshitting in whatever way it takes to maintain his self-image.

PoppyAmex · 18/06/2013 13:02

April, how nasty is that?

I had written to the Evening Standard two days ago asking if they were going to cease listing him as a columnist. No answer, unsurprisingly.

AprilFoolishness · 18/06/2013 12:59

I haven't seen the Standard for years Poppy.

Just l looked online and OHMYFUCKINGGOD

'hanging over ALL of us' ?!?!?!

Words completley fail me.

ProphetOfDoom · 18/06/2013 12:58

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PoppyAmex · 18/06/2013 12:56

April and the Evening Standard publishes his ridiculous statement (and probably continues to employ him as a columnist).

AprilFoolishness · 18/06/2013 12:52

God, not only is this an awful story for all involved - and I feel desperately uncomfortable for NL's children the more I learn of her and CS's relationship - but it has proved absolutely fascinating how the media have handled it.

The People splash it, the Telegraph get it right first (then oh so wrong..), the Guardian completely stuff it up, the Express, or all places, publish some incisive comment. I don't know if it's because of who it involves, two people who are so utterly central to the British media establishment, but it's like all the usual rules have been torn up and every editor is handling it alone rather than in a pack mentality. Very odd, and very revealing.

youngblowfish · 18/06/2013 12:49

Apart from acknowledging the public outrage, what I think also comes through in Greenslade's piece is an understanding of having failed a vulnerable friend. How his reluctance to judge too quickly actually leaves an assaulted victim alone.

I wish more friends and family members of victims were able to spot abuse and call it for what it is. DV would be far less common a phenomenon if we all judged the perpetrators more and the victims less.

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