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Small things that make you angry and you feel you can't mention elsewhere

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MalenkyRusskyDrakonchik · 11/06/2013 17:08

I was thinking that maybe we need one of those threads that reminds us we all have much more in common with each other, than any of us does with the misogynistic bigots. Smile

I don't know what the feministy equivalent of 'first world problem' is, but I bet there are loads of things you've been itching to point out annoy you, but don't start an AIBU about, or don't moan to your colleague/DH/mates about because it feels insignificant.

Maybe we can all have a good moan here - and maybe back each other up that these things typically aren't so small and insignificant really!

I will go first. I noticed the other day how, when I'm walking down a pavement, I automatically move to the side out of the way of busy men striding along with briefcases. Even when I'm busy. Confused Why do I do that? And how come I feel rude - and do get funny looks - when I don't do that?

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WuzzleMonkey · 11/06/2013 19:04

Judginess about housework/lack thereof ALWAYS directed at women.

My Mum is very good at this - complaining about the state of someone's house and saying it's because the wife does no housework (and it's always about people where both partners work full time).

Blistory · 11/06/2013 19:01

Veet is the work of the devil. Why would I want to put such toxic crap on my legs just to be rid of some harmless hair ? Do I really want to incur chemical burns just so my pits are deemed inoffensive ?

When logic is applied, there really is no justification for removing body hair but even knowing that, I still cringe if I haven't shaved my legs and need to expose them for some reason and yet, I don't think twice about seeing another woman's hairy bits.

Hmm, I might be a feminist but I'm obviously far from being a brave feminist.

TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 11/06/2013 18:54

A really trivial thing I noticed on last fm. When they play tracks they have a photomontage of the artist/band instead of video iyswim. When they play male artists they stick to long shots or close ups. But with female artists there are long lingering swoops and pans along their body and particularly resting on their tits, crotch and arse. I noticed this on. Destiny's Child track (yes I know Blush) where there were hardly any images of their faces !

This may not be scientific.

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MalenkyRusskyDrakonchik · 11/06/2013 18:52

YY.

The adverts for veet and similar where she smoothes the cream onto her hairless legs ... WTF? Confused

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ProfYaffle · 11/06/2013 18:35

yy, the driving thing drives me mad. Dh and I went out one evening, I was driving, him drinking. Next day Dh was telling pil that he'd had too much to drink was feeling rough, they were amazed. "You had too much to drink?!", "Yes", "Shock but you were driving home!", "No, Prof drove". They turn to me "Shock Shock you?!! Shock oh well done." Me:

mignonette · 11/06/2013 18:31

The constant lascivious loitering of the camera over the semi naked bodies of brutalised/terrorised women in too many films.

The even more rampant sexism seen in Christmas ad campaigns. They are littered with it.

The extinction of female body hair in print and on screen.

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MalenkyRusskyDrakonchik · 11/06/2013 18:27
Grin

Oh, my lord, yes.

DH can't drive but people still assume it must be his car. Bless him, he hasn't the foggiest.

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Blistory · 11/06/2013 18:24

Driving.

It's my car, I haven't suddenly lost the ability to drive because a man with a penis is now sitting in it so please don't expect me to hand over my keys. Equally, it's okay for me to get rip roaringly drunk so just because I have a vagina does not mean that I get to be the designated driver. How about taking it in turns ?

but you're still never getting the keys to my pride and joy