Small things that make you angry and you feel you can't mention elsewhere

I had big meetings with Microsoft recently and was heartened that the women in the room outnumbered the blokes for once. I love the world of IT

A colleague refered to me and his boss as 'girls' today. To a potential CLIENT.

The worst of it was i didn't say anything. Because i didn't want to make a fuss.

Porto

Well work normally trumps social in our house and we are flexible. I could get a babysitter. But normally on a brownie night I leave work early - 4pm, collect her from school at 4.45 - and drop her off for 5pm. Dh leaves work normal time ie 6pm and collects her at 6.30. I get home 5.30 and work to make up the time. I planned to have dinner ready for her and go out at 7. Now I would not get home til then....as it is not worth me driving home if I have to wait to collect dd. grr.

Email from colleague:
Hi Girls.
and

He's not going is he Portofino? Your thing was in the diary first! Or else he organises a babysitter (this is not necessarily how things work in our house, it's just how it should work!).

And yes to the swearing at work thing! It happens a lot less now, perhaps because I'm wrinkly and have a couple of children so people assume I've used a few swear words in my time, but when I was younger I used to get that a lot - men apologising to me for swearing. Fuck off mate!

Am I the only one who read that link and thought what a load of tosh ?

The only thing missing was the tagline that feminism is about choice.

Like button scone !

We both work ft by the way.

Dh had a team/working dinner to go to tonight. It was in the diary. No problem. He came home instead. When I asked he said it had been postponed a couple of weeks. He never mentioned this previously but now it apparently falls on a night where I have organised something - food with a big group of friends. I pointed this out. His comment? "I don't know what to say." This has given me the rage, as it a night where he normally collects dd from brownies, so this involves me changing my routine even if I wasn't planning to go out. And what pisses me off the most is that he gives it no thought whatsoever.

The food thing really annoys me. I remember a few years ago hearing about some restaurant that did a his and hers valentines menu - fish for the woman and steak for the man. It made me so mad.

LOVE IT Scone

working women being referred to as 'career girls'.
sad old loser men telling you they just haven't met a 'good woman' and that is why they have so many problems.
'male nurses'.

Ha! Scone, that needs a 'like' button

"Feminism is about choice"

No it isn't, feminism is about women having equal rights to men. Consumerism is about choice.

I have been waiting for an opportunity to post this:

From the Onion

Having to wear make up to work. I don't wear make up very often at all out of work, I think of it as "special occasion" - weddings, Christmas parties etc but there is an unwritten code at work that says make up is part of "smart business dress." Why?? Why do women have to change their faces to appear smart?

lady role-clearly-viewed-as-male, e.g. lady doctor, lady driver

drives me mad - make my skin itch when used about me.

Don't know if anyone has mentioned this yet but there's an advert on the radio that really gets my goat - some dental implant place, with some woman saying how they had one satisfied customer who was proposed to by her boyfriend after some dental work because "otherwise someone else will snap you up now that you look so good". It gives me the rage.

As an aside it came on yesterday when I was in the car with kids. I turned it off and DS1 asked why. So I told him about person becoming vastly more popular when he/she (not gender-specific in my language) became better looking. He rolled his eyes.

We did the allocated days thing when we both worked, it worked quite well.

Just heard that FIL had been very pleased to hear that our DC1 (not born yet) and his first grandchild is a boy. His comment had been "Ah! A heir!".
So if it was a girl, he'd leave his stuff to the dog shelter or something?

Glitzpig that?s not ok. I?d definitely do a couple of spontaneous nights out after work if I were you.

I know a few couples where each parent gets two default days ie days that he/she is expected to definitely be home in time for bath and bed. On your default day you can?t work late or make plans etc without specific permission from the other. On your non default day, if you have to work a bit later or go for a last minute drink, that?s broadly okay. Seems to work quite well. DH is SAHD but I have set days that I am definitely home promptly to do bath and bed. On other days, if I don?t have a specific plan already agreed, if I land up being a bit late, that?s fine. But I generally try not to. Similarly, if something comes up last minute that DH wants to do, he?ll text me and ask if I can get home promptly so he can zip out.

Well, I?m clearly a bolshy old bra-burning feminist because most of the examples on here don?t seem too minor to me and when they happen I?m likely to say something or at the very least roll my eyes!

I had never thought about the food one though, and that?s very interesting. DH is a vegetarian and almost never eats wheat. So when we?re out at somewhere like pizza express, he?ll almost always order a salad while I?m tucking into a salami-laden pizza with DS. The waiters do tend to start giving me the salad and DH the pizza but I have always felt slightly embarrassed ? like I?m the big fat woman eating inappropriately. I hadn?t even realised there is a gender stereotype going on there. Arrgh, and I thought I was on top of all these little things.