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Bills in man's name

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Jan49 · 14/04/2013 02:37

Has anyone else come across this? Amongst people I know, one single elderly female has her phone bill in her father's name even though he's been dead for 40 years. It appears that she kept the phone number after moving house and has never changed the name to hers. Another elderly female friend has her phone bill in her late father's name. He died years ago and she lived with her mum so it should have been changed to her mum's name and then eventually to my friend's name. I can't figure out how that's even possible as companies often won't speak to anyone but the named person and ask lots of security questions. When I've dealt with a death in the family, changing the names on things like gas bills is one of the things I'd expect to do within months.

The people I've mentioned are elderly but I also realised not long ago that during the years I lived with my partner/husband (now divorced), the bills I'd set up for things like utilities were in joint names and the ones he'd set up were in his sole name. I thought at first it reflected him feeling very negatively towards me in the few years before we split up, but I still had bills relating to previous properties we'd lived in and he'd done the same at those! Why? We're both in our 50s. Do couples usually have utility bills in joint names? I'm just wondering how my mindset is different from my ex's so that when he was phoning and asked what name he just gave his own, whereas I gave both our names as joint owners and would never think of just giving my own name.

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tribpot · 14/04/2013 09:56

Yes, a number of bills are in my name only because the company (it's usually telecoms more than utilities) wouldn't set it up in joint names. Most bills are joint even though I always deal with them, because then either of us can do it and the bills are useful as a form of ID.

Keeping the bills in the name of a dead person is potentially fraudulent, although I appreciate that your elderly friend means no harm and is in no danger of being taken off to prison for it!

Shouldn't the name of the bill essentially indicate responsibility for paying the bill?

AuntieStella · 14/04/2013 09:56

My father was dangerously ill for some time, and everything was changed to Mum's name at that point (much easier when the named person is around to do it) except one joint bank account.

Given the longevity stats, it always seemed the more sensible way round anyhow.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 14/04/2013 09:51

Ours are mixed, I think (in our thirties), depending who set what up. Also, sometimes they want to speak to the first named (eg joint credit card, which is me) regardless.

sashh · 14/04/2013 09:46

For the elderly people this is a safety thing. Some rumour in about 1910 that single women would be targeted by, well I don't know who.

GiraffesAndButterflies · 14/04/2013 04:53

Some companies actually can be a pain about having joint names. I set ours up and iirc it was either water or electricity who wouldn't do joint names and didn't want to add a second accountholder till I insisted.

SavoyCabbage · 14/04/2013 04:15

All ours are in dh's name. He set them all up. If I'd have done it, I would have put them in my name.

tigerdriverII · 14/04/2013 03:07

Ours are mixed. Some are in my name, none are in joint names, some, like the phone bill are in DH'S name because he had his own phone before I did.

It's not a big deal IMO

Jan49 · 14/04/2013 02:51

What I suppose I'm trying to say is, do many men have a kind of mindset like my ex seems to have had where they just think of their own name automatically?

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