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"When a woman says no she means maybe" Come and support those in chat who aren't happy about this sign in a shop

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MrsMushroom · 25/02/2013 23:05

here is the thread

A MNr began the thread when she came across This monstrosity

Someone else googled and found it in this shop.

Please can you lot email the shop? I have sent an email explaining why they need to remove it from their stock. Can you lot too?

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LittleBoxes · 27/02/2013 11:01

MrsMushroom, I don't think it's made by the Homeworks people you linked to. It looks mass-produced to me. I suspect the ebay person is right.

PromQueenWithin · 27/02/2013 10:55

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Greythorne · 27/02/2013 10:54

We've given them
A chance to respond...
Isn't it now time to go public on FB?

(On my signal, unleash hell)

PromQueenWithin · 27/02/2013 08:31

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sashh · 27/02/2013 03:37

They have removed my post from their facebook page. But they also appear to have removed the plaque from their website.

Anyone got any answers?

MusicalEndorphins · 27/02/2013 01:34

It is off their facebook page now.

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MrsMushroom · 26/02/2013 11:27

Prom could it be This collective of female designers and artists

They're called Homeworks. They have a wide collection of work by a group of women who appear to trade together under one umbrella...lots of craft fairs etc.

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MrsMushroom · 26/02/2013 11:18

No response yet PromQUeenWIthin

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PromQueenWithin · 26/02/2013 11:01

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FastidiaBlueberry · 26/02/2013 10:53

Bet they wouldn't sell lovely nostalgic racism

Arseholes.

PromQueenWithin · 26/02/2013 10:46

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LineRunner · 26/02/2013 09:20

Yes, the sign appears to be saying if you involved in a sexual situation and you aren't being raped then you must be a slut.

TheDoctrineOfSciAndNatureClub · 26/02/2013 09:02

Rape apologise and slut shaming in one cutesy item? Yuck.

Greythorne · 26/02/2013 07:26

I just emailed this:

Are you pro-rape?

No means no.

No does not mean perhaps.

Stop selling rape-enabling tat

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MrsMushroom · 26/02/2013 07:21

We were going to give them a chance to respond to the emails before posting on their FB page...just to give us a weapon in case they refused to remove the sign.

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sashh · 26/02/2013 04:56

www.facebook.com/daisyinteriors

This is their facebook page, I post there.

Darkesteyes · 26/02/2013 01:07

What a disgustiing sign Agree with Cardinal and Startail. It contains a nasty rape apologist message AND the myth that women shouldnt enjoy or like sex. So two nasty messages there for the price of one.

Did anyone see those nasty Valentine cards that Paperchase did Charming messages like Your Hole is My Goal.
I meant to start a thread on here at the time but got caught up in RL.

SirBoobAlot · 26/02/2013 00:56

Fucking hell, furious at reading that! Complaints email going off in the morning. GAH.

Startail · 26/02/2013 00:52

WTF, I can't think where on earth you could display that!

I think I find the 'ladies' don't enjoy sex more insulting than the first bit and the first bit is dangerous trash.

CardinalRichelieu · 26/02/2013 00:24

One of the many things that pisses me off when people say/imply that no doesn't always mean no re sex is the fact that it is down in black and white, in law, that it in fact does. It isn't up for argument.

This sign manages to be offensive on at least two levels: firstly, the one we've been discussing (implying that women don't mean what they say re consent to sex) and secondly that only 'ladies' (meaning nice girls) pretend not to enjoy sex. Because actually wanting to have sex with your partner is clearly the behaviour of a complete slapper, isn't it? How perfectly charming.

And putting an offensive statement in cutesy 1950s format does not make it 'OK' or 'ironic', whatever they may have intended.

LuisGarcia · 25/02/2013 23:47

Email sent with Cardinals line in it.

gallicgirl · 25/02/2013 23:28

sent.

whoever checks emails in the morning will wonder what the hell has been happening!

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MrsMushroom · 25/02/2013 23:25

I like that Cardinal! Please say that in the email!

I just looked at their FB and it's very unprofessional. Not much activity...only 88 likes and pics of small local craft fairs they've participated in so my bet is that this is a small, newish business. Loads of women in the pics..browsing their goods for sale...makes me BOIL that they probably get 90% of their business from women and yet ram this shit on their shelves without a thought.

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gallicgirl · 25/02/2013 23:21

Very pithy. I am very tempted to use that exact phrase.