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"When a woman says no she means maybe" Come and support those in chat who aren't happy about this sign in a shop

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MrsMushroom · 25/02/2013 23:05

here is the thread

A MNr began the thread when she came across This monstrosity

Someone else googled and found it in this shop.

Please can you lot email the shop? I have sent an email explaining why they need to remove it from their stock. Can you lot too?

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LittleAbruzzenBear · 22/04/2013 11:55

Good luck Rodent and well done for taking a stand.

RodentOfUnusualSize · 22/04/2013 11:30

I know Little, that comment was beyond the pale.

Thank you also Jacq, Mary and Slug for taking the time to respond. What I've decided to do is to write formally to the manager of the store and ask her to remove the product from stock. I have also obtained the name of the wholesaler and I will be contacting them too.

I'll let you know how I get on.

LittleAbruzzenBear · 22/04/2013 10:55

How anyone can think this is ok is beyond me. That last comment that woman made to you Rodent, wtf!

slug · 22/04/2013 10:49

You could try the Retail Association and complain under the Sexual Harassment provisions in the Human Rights act.

MaryRobinson · 22/04/2013 09:45

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JacqueslePeacock · 22/04/2013 08:09

Tell us which shop, and we can all write and complain?

RodentOfUnusualSize · 21/04/2013 23:40

I should add, the manager was a 50 year old woman, if that makes any difference.

RodentOfUnusualSize · 21/04/2013 23:39

Hello, I'm bumping this thread as I've just seen this horrid sign in a garden shop here in NZ. I approached the manager to complain, here is an abridged version of our coversation:

Me - I find this sign very offensive.
Manager - Oh those signs? We just buy them from the importer, I don't even read them.
Me - That's not really an excuse. You are stocking these offensive items and they are associated with your image and your brand.
Manager - I think that they are just funny.
Me - I don't find jokes about rape funny. And anyway, I thought you hadn't read the sign?
Manager - I've just read it now. I don't think that it is offensive. People find it funny.
Me - You seriously think that it is acceptable to have jokes about rape on a sign?
Manager - I can't withdraw all products that people complain about. I have people in here all the time complaining because I sell buddhas.
Me - That is not the same thing. Sexual assualt is a crime.
Manager - Are you sure that you are not being oversensitive because of your personal experience?

I was completely speechless at this last remark. I was so angry, I had to leave before saying something I regretted.

Does anyone have any thoughts on what I could do next? I could write a letter, but I don't think that it will make any difference.

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RowanMumsnet · 05/03/2013 17:59

Hello there

You'll see we have removed Sophie's post, as we don't allow organisations to post as 'themselves' on Mumsnet. We've offered to post up a statement by the company on its behalf.

We've also, at their request, removed the post quoting email responses from Hill Interiors and Baytree Interiors.

Floweryhat · 04/03/2013 21:27

Never pass up an opportunity to generate new business eh Sophie?

After all, all publicity is good publicity Hmm. Sigh.

TheDinnerWitch · 04/03/2013 20:11

Hopefully Shop of Dreams will reply soon.

TheDinnerWitch · 04/03/2013 20:09

Sophie we don't want any money or discounts from you, we just wanted you to remove the plaque, which you have done, so thank you. I hope you use better judgement next time when purchasing merchandise for your store, no matter how 'profound' or 'pretty' something may be. Hmm

EduCated · 04/03/2013 18:27

So how did YOU view the plaque, Sophie?

Darkesteyes · 04/03/2013 17:55

Profound PROFOUND!

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MrsMushroom · 04/03/2013 17:30

Sophie keep my 20% to put towards removing all of the surplus stock from your store.

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HoneyKate · 04/03/2013 17:14

I have emailed Hill Interiors and A Shop of Dreams who both seem to still have this hideous item available for sale or at least it is still appearing on their websites.

BubblegumPie · 04/03/2013 17:11

YES! this is still being sold.

ElephantsAndMiasmas · 04/03/2013 17:06

Just wanted to say that you lot are excellent! Is there anything I can help with?

slug · 04/03/2013 16:55

Seriously? What on earth did you think it was saying then?

INeverSaidThat · 04/03/2013 16:38

SophieTaylor Thanks for the response. I am glad you are not stocking the sign. I have to say I did find it quite offensive.

FairyJen · 04/03/2013 16:31

sophie keep your 20% I wouldn't shop with you if it was free!

MajaBiene · 04/03/2013 16:29

What did you think it meant, Sophie?

BubblegumPie · 04/03/2013 16:26

Um... no thanks, maybe you should put the money towards something more useful like a rape survivors charity rather than handing out an empty gesture like this.

SophieTaylor1 · 04/03/2013 16:06

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BinarySolo · 04/03/2013 15:10

As you are obviously aware, this is a famous saying, not something we have come up with.

Is it? I'd not heard it before. Lame excuse anyway, I could use the same argument to make plaques with hitler quotes.

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