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Why ban page 3?

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jackburton · 12/02/2013 20:44

Hi, this is my first post, please be gentle :) . I'm looking for some thoughtful discussion on page 3 and the objectification of women, my wife suggested posting here. Any recommendations for good articles or feedback would be great.

My main issue with a lot of the traditional discussion on this issue is that there seems to be an implicit assumption of passivity and conformity in women that I can't really relate to as a man (or feel is present in many of the women in my life). I don't particularly worry about my son seeing body building or gay lifestyle magazines or other fetishised representations of men because I see them as part of a range of different types of lifestyle that he could adopt. I would think it quite alien that the occasional image of men in this way would significantly affect me (or him). In contrast, advertising and lifestyle magazines aimed at women seem to impose a very disturbing level of conformity and one that I feel would not be acceptable to most men. Frankly a lot of female targeted products seem to objectify (in the sense of judging purely by appearance) and be misogynist (in the sense of appearing to gain pleasure from and dwelling on the humiliation of women, particularly if their superficial appearance is non-conformist). In contrast most pornographic products aimed at men include a great diversity of female personality types, some are passive but many are not, Jordan being a classic example. They aren't treated as objects in the sense that their desire is critical to their appeal, sex dolls are relatively undesirable. While there is certainly some pornography and lifestyle discussions that appear to encourage pleasure in the suffering of women I feel this is in the minority with most magazines presenting their female models as stars who are the centre of attention and whose happiness and desire is an important part of their appeal.

My initial feelings about the campaign against page 3 is that these images are being judged assuming they were present in the kind of magazine targeted at women i.e. they are a conforming image and that they would lead to humiliation of those that didn't conform. I think the majority of male culture is not oppressive in that way. Personally I find mainstream female culture to be much more of a problem for women's liberation than these products. What am I missing?

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BubblesOfBliss · 13/02/2013 17:38

FastidiaBlueberry "I'm not surprised your wife sent you here, I bet she's bashing her head against the wall at your wilful blindness."

...off topic question.... Is that unsisterly? Despairingly admitting her husband is an ignorant plank - she sends him over to FWR for other women to sort out! Pretty under-handed behaviour Grin

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jackburton · 13/02/2013 17:32

"I'm not surprised your wife sent you here"

:) Please see this as an opportunity to put me right, I genuinely want to understand. (I did the bins yesterday :) )

When I read my wife's glamour magazine it often has sections obsessing over how to please your husband in bed and what men secretly think etc. So I can understand why a woman might get the impression that they should be trying to gain their partners approval. Frankly such articles scare the hell out of me due to their submissive tone. Although I don't know why men wouldn't find that sort of article acceptable and women would be attracted to it, other than because that is what is being presented as normal by other women.

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BubblesOfBliss · 13/02/2013 17:30

" I have not experienced any women fighting for my approval."

Jack you enjoy the benefits of women fighting for approval of 'men as a group'

FastidiaBlueberry · 13/02/2013 17:27

"I honestly don't think men have a monopoly on unpleasant status hierarchies"

They have a monopoly on the status hierarchies that matter, that have POWER in society

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jackburton · 13/02/2013 17:27

"How many of those girls who take Jordan as a role model are going to end up running blue chip companies? Passing legislation? Becoming experts in their fields? Living a life free of the necessity to accomodate a man less capable and brilliant than they are"

I think this is a very important point. I certainly am not advocating Jordan as the only female role model. I think a very important project is the creation of more female role models. Your point about the Bechdel test is very important. I think that needs to be a focus of campaigns similar to how racist depictions in media have been campaigned against. In terms of addressing oppression of women I actually find Kate Middleton to be a much more harmful role model than Jordan, not a view that mainstream journalism seems to embrace (but that might be getting off the point a little).

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FastidiaBlueberry · 13/02/2013 17:23

jackburton, you really need to do the reading.

Seriously, you do.

You are utterly unaware of your privilege. When women fight for your approval, they don't even realise they're doing so, neither do you.

I'm not surprised your wife sent you here, I bet she's bashing her head against the wall at your wilful blindness.

Go and do something useful like put the bins out, will you.

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jackburton · 13/02/2013 17:21

"This is patriarchy. This is the "influence from others" - other men, who are buying into patriarchal values."

I honestly don't think men have a monopoly on unpleasant status hierarchies.

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FastidiaBlueberry · 13/02/2013 17:20

How many of those girls who take Jordan as a role model are going to end up running blue chip companies? Passing legislation? Becoming experts in their fields? Living a life free of the necessity to accomodate a man less capable and brilliant than they are, because society has been structured to enable him to function and them not to except as a supporting part in his life?

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jackburton · 13/02/2013 17:19

"Wrong. Women oppress women in the context of living in a patriarchy, where men are seen as the default human, women are seen as the "other" and they fight for the crumbs from men's tables and fight for male approval."

Perhaps there is a specific group of men you are thinking of. I have not experienced any women fighting for my approval.

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FastidiaBlueberry · 13/02/2013 17:17

Do the Bechdel test every time you go to the cinema:

There are 2 women in the film
They talk to each other
The conversation is not about a man.

You would be shocked to see how many films don't even pass this basic test of portraying women at all, let alone as fully rounded characters the way they portray men.

Men are growing up in that culture. Page 3 is part of it.

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jackburton · 13/02/2013 17:16

Here is an interesting piece advocating her as a role model.

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2167327/Why-I-admire-Katie-Price-Former-glamour-model-Jordan-Womans-Hour-presenter-JENNI-MURRAY-normally-detests--So-changed-mind.html

I realise it doesn't quite hit the point I was trying to make, which unfortunately I have second hand from a friend of my wife who is an English teacher and whose female students primarily choose her autobiography as the first book they read for class. These students seem assertive but I realise it is hard to tell the difference between insecure defensive behaviour and assertive behaviour.

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FastidiaBlueberry · 13/02/2013 17:12

"I think women oppressing women is understandable without there needing to be a causal link from men."

Wrong. Women oppress women in the context of living in a patriarchy, where men are seen as the default human, women are seen as the "other" and they fight for the crumbs from men's tables and fight for male approval.

"Men bully men and impose oppressive and humiliating status hierarchies on each other without the need for influence from others."

This is patriarchy. This is the "influence from others" - other men, who are buying into patriarchal values.

"Perhaps women oppressing women has more to do with an oppressive status based culture that to some extent western male culture does not feel as strongly any more."

Wrong again, I think. The oppressive status based culture is patriarchy and though it may not be expresses as explicitly as before, it's absolutely amazing to think that anyone can possibly believe status doesn't matter anymore. Tell that to the young men who kill each other because they're infringing on each other's patch in gangs.

"Such a culture has certainly defined male interactions in the past." It is still defining it now, sometimes very obviously, as in gangs, sometimes in a less raw form such as in the boardroom, at parties, clubs etc. where men jockey for position.

"In this way I think such a culture is both natural and changeable and a much greater cause of female suffering than the actions of men, at least relatively young men (middle aged on down) who have never known a society without women's rights being legally protected and advocated."

Sorry but you're falling into the trap that every society has fallen into of believing that just because women have won some rights (from an unbelievably low base) we're all pretty much equal now and the problems have gone away.

1 in 4 women get raped or sexually assaulted. 1 in 4 live with chronic domestic violence. 1 in 3 men under the age of 25, agree when asked in surveys, that rape victims are partly responsible for their own rape if they were drunk or flirting with their rapist earlier on in the evening. Most men under 25 have accessed porn, most of which is violent and misogynistic. 1 in 3 girls experience sexual harassment at school (not from the teachers, from their fellow pupils). Do you really think that young men are any less sexist than older ones? I don't think so.

FastidiaBlueberry · 13/02/2013 17:01

"I've given the example of Jordan who does not seem oppressed and seems to encourage assertive behaviour in those who emulate her."

Have you got any evidence for this?

FastidiaBlueberry · 13/02/2013 17:00

"I view pornography as being primarily about men finding women sexually desirable which I think is broadly positive (it certainly beats viewing them as disgusting)."

That's where I'd disagree with you.

Most porn nowadays is not about men finding women sexually desirable. Most porn is deeply imbued with horrific misogyny. If you turn off all your filters and simply google "porn", just check out the first 10 entries that come up - they're all full of really horrifically sexist, misogynist porn which assumes that women are sluts and fucking is some kind of punishment.

Given that most men nowadays access porn via the internet and google is the most popular search engine, it is utterly naieve to think that porn is primarily about finding women sexually desirable. Unless you assume that desirable = hateful, worthless slut.

Gail Dines' book, Pornland has masses of information about this.

As to the claim that women's mags are more misogynistic, I think you're missing the structural issue here: who owns the women's magazines? Who finances them? Who makes the decisions regarding whether advertisements will appear in them? In all patriarchies, men often wash their hands of the dirty work of oppressing women and get other women to do it. Hence the reason the women of the family broke and bound the feet of the little girls in China at about aged 7 or so, the reason FGM is carried out by women in many present day societies etc. Men can claim that it's nothing to do with them, it's women doing it to themselves and each other, while presiding over the system that does this to women - men would refuse to marry women who had healthy feet, they still refuse to marry women who have not been genitally mutilated, they won't finance magazines which don't specialise in telling us we're too fat/ too shit etc.

Right Wing Women by Andrea Dworkins discusses aspects of this. (One day I will read it. Smile)

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jackburton · 13/02/2013 16:59

I am sorry you feel that way, thanks for your comments.

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YouMakeMeWannaLaLa · 13/02/2013 16:58

I also don't see how pornography necessarily leads to increased objectification and misogynistic treatment of women

'kin 'ell, Jack I'm not a fan of the term 'lost cause', but you may well be a candidate. I'll leave it to someone more patient than I.

Fare thee well.

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jackburton · 13/02/2013 16:51

I'm sorry if I don't get what you're saying. I'm clearly missing the point that is being made.

My impression is that you feel that women oppress women because men oppress women and that pornography is a form of oppression of women that has a causal link to women oppressing women.

I don't think the argument that pornography is oppressing to women is clear to me. For example, I've given the example of Jordan who does not seem oppressed and seems to encourage assertive behaviour in those who emulate her.
I also don't see how pornography necessarily leads to increased objectification and misogynistic treatment of women as I think most men are not confused by women's interest in them or in the illegitimate nature of advances towards them. I think those actions are abusive and their cause is entertainment and cultures which encourage abuse.

I think women oppressing women is understandable without there needing to be a causal link from men. Men bully men and impose oppressive and humiliating status hierarchies on each other without the need for influence from others. Men often do so with the threat of violence, when that is not socially acceptable psychological methods are used that are often very similar to the kind of oppressive objectification and humiliation present in female targeted journalism. Perhaps women oppressing women has more to do with an oppressive status based culture that to some extent western male culture does not feel as strongly any more. Such a culture has certainly defined male interactions in the past. In this way I think such a culture is both natural and changeable and a much greater cause of female suffering than the actions of men, at least relatively young men (middle aged on down) who have never known a society without women's rights being legally protected and advocated.

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YouMakeMeWannaLaLa · 13/02/2013 16:31

jack Yes, women oppress women...but WHY do you think that is (clue: other posters have already mentioned it on this thread).

Seriously, you don't see the problem, the connection?

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jackburton · 13/02/2013 16:23

"I have to say - the OP makes me want to weep"

:) Ok I'll bite.

In some cultures it is considered disgusting when a woman appears as sexually desirable. Completely taboo to have an appearance that exaggerates sexual characteristics, like high heels, visible cleavage etc. I find this attitude oppressive and disturbing and wouldn't want these kind of moralistic restrictions on behaviour. I think without a strong harm based argument the same should be said for restricting the actions and opinions of men.

I view pornography as being primarily about men finding women sexually desirable which I think is broadly positive (it certainly beats viewing them as disgusting). I think most men are aware of women's level of interest in them and if they choose to ignore that most men are aware they are doing something illegitimate, and something taken so seriously by men that it could well lead to violence against them. I think these actions are akin to bullying or physical abuse between men, very different from thinking that women will or should consent to sexual advances, and clearly misogynistic. I feel the male equivalent of cat calls is abusive insults directed at men by similar groups, designed to intimidate and humiliate.

My main point is that mainstream female journalism appears explicitly objectifying and misogynist and much more harmful to how women view themselves. While many of the posters find it disgusting that a man might casually view an image designed to arouse him, I find it more disgusting that people would so casually take pleasure from the humiliation of others and have entertainment products that so explicitly emphasise conformist behaviour.

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YouMakeMeWannaLaLa · 13/02/2013 16:06

Although the Op and namechangeguy are coming across as nice people, there is the implication in your posts that theres 'not really a problem' and 'if you think about it properly, you're all wrong, it's a fuss about nothing, 'it's not a feminist issue'.

I'm certain you will refute this but that's how it seems to me.

WhentheRed · 13/02/2013 15:49

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SplitHeadGirl · 13/02/2013 15:45

I was in the maternity dept at my local hospital (I'm 30 weeks pregnant) and the man beside me was there with his little daughter and his wife/partner. Anyway, he was 'reading' the Sun and he opened it to page three for quite a long time.

I always hated page 3, just how it normalises women's objectification and makes men's wants and likes oh-so important, but for a man to sit and think nothing of looking at it in a maternity dept, with his little girl beside him, just told me that so many men don't have a clue. Or else they just don't care about the women around them and how we feel.

BubblesOfBliss · 13/02/2013 14:56

"I just don't want to be confronted with sexualised naked tits in public while going about my business really, or for some guy next to me on the train to be openly leching at them. Does it require any further explanation?"

Unfortunately Fillyjonk75, while most men have delusions that if the roles were reversed they would have loads of 'hot' women perving over pictures of random naked men in unexpected places - beyond being able to imagine a mild sense of jealousy about the six-packs (which would be balanced up by their mental picture of being surrounded by hot women gagging for sex all the time)- they are generally incapable of picturing anything negative, let alone sexist about it, so it really does require a huuuuuge amount of further explanation.

Fillyjonk75 · 13/02/2013 14:26

I just don't want to be confronted with sexualised naked tits in public while going about my business really, or for some guy next to me on the train to be openly leching at them. Does it require any further explanation?

FastidiaBlueberry · 13/02/2013 14:08

Call me a fuddy duddy but a mag which claims that one of the reasons for its existence is to tell women all about shopping opportunities, isn't a mag I'd expect to have thoughtful political views tbh.

"They claim to be all about women."

Yeah, well. All about women in a patriarchal society as defined by patriarchal values.