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right so am now having to colour code dd because if I don't she's going to get bloody confused.

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unrulysun · 15/11/2012 21:06

Dd is 2.5 and mostly wears nice hard-wearing jeans and tops with animals on. Mostly bought in the boys section because of the pink thing. But not overtly 'boys' clothes. She has quite short hair 'cos it's practical. Again not very very short, just not in her eyes.

And now other children at playgroups have started saying things like 'You can't play with THAT you're a BOY'.

So I now feel like I need to put a hairgrip in her hair or give her pink socks or a T-shirt with a frigging cupcake on or something so that she doesn't get massively confused about her gender.

Fuck's sake. Am really really Angry about this shit.

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D0oinMeCleanin · 15/11/2012 21:16

I've never witnessed this phenomena in real life. All the little boys I know sometimes play with dolls and dress as fairies and all the little girls I know like trains and cars etc.

Maybe it is a regional thing?

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unrulysun · 15/11/2012 21:15

Dooin - I seriously struggle to find girls clothes that aren't pink or have overly flowery, lovey, hearts, cupcakes etc on. Haven't tried Tesco...

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unrulysun · 15/11/2012 21:13

It's playgroups rather than a nursery. And I say to the children concerned, 'No, she's a girl'. It's not their fault they're brainwashed is it? But I don't want her to have to fight a gender battle (on my behalf?) everytime she leaves the house. Especially not since the whole point of not pinkifying her is that she be a confident person who isn't shoehorned into some kind of gender role.

Just very frustrated that I can't make choices for her without society biting back and saying 'no, she's a girl, SHE MUST BE PINK'

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D0oinMeCleanin · 15/11/2012 21:10

Mine have always had lots of girls clothes that are not pink. I'm not sure dd2 actually owns anything pink. Lots of reds, purples, yellows, not much pink, actually I lie she has pink t-shirt with a Meerkat on because she loves Meerkats.

We shop mainly at Tesco, Debenhams and Next.

sleepyhead · 15/11/2012 21:09

Can you not just teach her to say "Don't be silly. I'm a girl!".

I don't believe for one second they think she's a boy btw. I'd have a word with the nursery staff. For one, the children shouldn't be telling anyone they can't play with something because of their gender (so bloody what if she was a boy and wanted to play with a doll??), and for another, it doesn't sound like they're being very nice to her.

I know they're only little (assuming the other children are only 2/3) but this needs to be squashed.