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Is the term 'Angry Fucking' potentially offensive to some women?

236 replies

Ohsiena · 31/10/2012 12:25

Ok I said I wouldn't start this, but I've been challenged to do so enough times, so I'm giving in.

It's about this thread - To think you should stay out of other people's bedrooms (378 Posts) 1This thread.

A very few of us understood why the term angry fucking was offensive to MrsC originally.

Most thought she had no sense of humour and just didn't get the joke.

Discussion was widened as a poster thught it was worse as used by a man. This has been attacked as sexist.

I stated on there that I'd like to see what some of the more feminist minded posters would make of this discussion.

I didn't want to start this, I've felt like a bit of a lone voice on there at times and need to do some RL stuff, but I've been called again and again to do so, so I have.

You'll see the phrase pearl clutching a lot....

OP posts:
McKayz · 31/10/2012 13:04

I have no problem with 'angry fucking' at all in the context it was used. It was very clearly a joke about the Incredible Hulk. Not about oppressing women.

InSPsFanjoNoOneHearsYouScream · 31/10/2012 13:04

Mrs it wasn't a joke about angry fucking it was a joke about a hulk strap only been used for that due to the hulk been an angry huge man. He didn't say he used a hulk strap to angrily fuck people.

It's all about finding things to be offended about tbh. A hulk strap on as nothing to do with women suffering sexual violence tbh

SHRIIIEEEKPoolingBearBlood · 31/10/2012 13:03

was that to me?

ISeeDeadFairies · 31/10/2012 13:03

Jog on. Next?

SHRIIIEEEKPoolingBearBlood · 31/10/2012 13:02

and that if you don't like the term "fuck" you prefer "babydance". Come on!

ISeeDeadFairies · 31/10/2012 13:02

"pass it off as something fictional" is the hulk real then?

MrsCantSayAnything · 31/10/2012 13:02

I am leaving the thread again. I hope someone who is more articulate than I am comes along.

MrsCantSayAnything · 31/10/2012 13:01

And don't tell me there's no comparison. Women have been oppressed for centuries and have and still are suffering from sexual violence every day.

InSPsFanjoNoOneHearsYouScream · 31/10/2012 13:00

I agree with chub OP is trying to goad yet has failed as people see what the context really was.

I really do hope she wasn't trying to say a poster was in same league as JS too.

MrsCantSayAnything · 31/10/2012 13:00

Fanjo if I were to tell a joke about "funny lynching", on a site where black people were present but tried to pass it off as a joke in relation to something fictional.

I would get quashed.

Women are also a minority and one which has suffered due to sexual violence....therefore a joke about angry fucking isn't good imo.

MrsCantSayAnything · 31/10/2012 12:58

Chub I think the problem was this.

A joke was made about the hulk's strap on. FINE

ANother joke came in response and this spoke of angry fucking

I said "I don't like that term"

And was leaped upon by loads of people who said I was uptight and pathetic for voicing my thoughts.

InSPsFanjoNoOneHearsYouScream · 31/10/2012 12:57

It does not have rape connotations!

It's about a strap on that would be reserved for "angry fucking" seen as its a hulk one!

I don't see the issue tbh. I don't see where rape or sexual violence comes into it, I really don't.

PickledFanjoCat · 31/10/2012 12:57

He did apologise mrs c, you must missed it. In the interest of fairness he made other jokes then - but you had said you got what it meant already and you didn't seem overall offended just to say it wasn't to your tastes.

To be honest it was another female poster that argued with you more about it.

MrsCantSayAnything · 31/10/2012 12:57

Tiny no there is not. Anger is a precuser to violence. Sex and anger have no place together.

Chubfuddler · 31/10/2012 12:56

The op of this thread completely divorces the term from the context in which it was used on that thread. It was a comment about the incredible hulk's penis. It was a silly, mildly amusing comment in the context in which it was written.

MrsCantSayAnything · 31/10/2012 12:56

DeadFairies no...it was a male who said "angry fucking". And a female who said about the strap on in the first place.

Fanjo I don't think the title is wrong. It's just a question.

MrsCantSayAnything · 31/10/2012 12:55

Fairies you have not clearly put it in context at all. One poster (not me) commented on the man's sex. I did not...and it was me who raised the issue.

All I said was that the term angry fucking was not nice and made me uncomfortable as it came out of nowhere on an innocuous thread. Ok someone DID mention the Hulks strap on...and the poster in question then said it ould be used for angry fucking.

I don't like that term...I don't think it is funny and has rape connotations so I flagged it. FWIW I never saw the poster apologise once. He continued to make sniggery jokes in fact.

TinyDancingHoofer · 31/10/2012 12:55

Also there is a big difference between angry and violent. I like angry fucking. I don't like violent fucking.

YouSeveredHead · 31/10/2012 12:54

How the hell does a thread go from I laws going in someone's room to this ?

Vege · 31/10/2012 12:54

I've lived in the UK nearly 43 years and have never heard of such a phrase. Has it been washed in with the huge immigration population growth in the past few years?

PickledFanjoCat · 31/10/2012 12:53

Hi mrs c,

I thought a new thread would move it on from the incredible hulk, and stop it being personal to particular posters.

The way this has been worded is a sheer goad.

ISeeDeadFairies · 31/10/2012 12:53

Note this was in response to a comment made by a female poster

TinyDancingHoofer · 31/10/2012 12:52

It's all about context. I don't find it offensive in the previous thread.

SHRIIIEEEKPoolingBearBlood · 31/10/2012 12:52

fuck sounds aggressive to me. I don't prefer twee terms and think that's a bit patronising tbh

ISeeDeadFairies · 31/10/2012 12:52

rips I think an incredible hulk strap on would be green and probably reserved for angry fucking.

This is the original comment which sparked this debate.

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