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Is the term 'Angry Fucking' potentially offensive to some women?

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Ohsiena · 31/10/2012 12:25

Ok I said I wouldn't start this, but I've been challenged to do so enough times, so I'm giving in.

It's about this thread - To think you should stay out of other people's bedrooms (378 Posts) 1This thread.

A very few of us understood why the term angry fucking was offensive to MrsC originally.

Most thought she had no sense of humour and just didn't get the joke.

Discussion was widened as a poster thught it was worse as used by a man. This has been attacked as sexist.

I stated on there that I'd like to see what some of the more feminist minded posters would make of this discussion.

I didn't want to start this, I've felt like a bit of a lone voice on there at times and need to do some RL stuff, but I've been called again and again to do so, so I have.

You'll see the phrase pearl clutching a lot....

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ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 31/10/2012 13:16

Ooh. That took me ages to type.

SHRIIIEEEKPoolingBearBlood · 31/10/2012 13:16

"I'm going to fuck you/I enjoy fucking you" - I can't imagine that being said in anything other than a nasty way, ranging from slightly controlling to downright sinister.

InSPsFanjoNoOneHearsYouScream · 31/10/2012 13:15

blood angry babydancing Grin

MrsCantSayAnything · 31/10/2012 13:15

Fanjo fine. I'm not going to alter my perception so why are you still here?

Tiny nothing wrong with fucking at all.

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 31/10/2012 13:14

It is all subjective, though, Shriek. I personally don't find the term 'fucking' unpleasant or offensive. It's just another descriptive slang word, like shag or bonk or whatever. The word has been somewhat diluted. It can be used in an unpleasant way, I suppose, if you mean it to be. But I think that can be true of most words. I also thought 'angry fucking' (Hulk context excused) would describe the kind of sex you have when you've had a row and are still a bit pissed off with each other.

InSPsFanjoNoOneHearsYouScream · 31/10/2012 13:14

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PickledFanjoCat · 31/10/2012 13:14

Wow mrs can't that's supremely unfair!

TinyDancingHoofer · 31/10/2012 13:14

What's wrong with fucking though?

SHRIIIEEEKPoolingBearBlood · 31/10/2012 13:14

maybe. My opinion still stands.

MrsCantSayAnything · 31/10/2012 13:14

Again Joy I have no problem with the word fucking.

MrsCantSayAnything · 31/10/2012 13:14

It doesn't matter Tiny...fucking is fucking.

24joy · 31/10/2012 13:14

I dont mind being 'fucked' by my partner. Quite like it actually

TinyDancingHoofer · 31/10/2012 13:13

If anyone was going to be angrily fucked by a strap on wouldn't it be a man anyway?

SHRIIIEEEKPoolingBearBlood · 31/10/2012 13:13

that's interesting. I'd have had no problem with "angry sex" or "angry shagging" or "angry babydancing" :o

MrsCantSayAnything · 31/10/2012 13:12

But you're right PolarBear...it IS very Oh I'm so cool about sex and shit that you could smack me round the head with your angry dildo and I would laugh

MrsCantSayAnything · 31/10/2012 13:11

I actually have no problem with the word fuck. It was only when it was used along with angry that I took offence.

SHRIIIEEEKPoolingBearBlood · 31/10/2012 13:09

I'm finding this whole thread a bit shit tbh. All very superior and competitive non-offendedness.
The word fuck is an unpleasant word to use about sex. Add in angry and the unpleasantness becomes implied violence. Few people want to be "fucked" by their partner. Do you want your children to grow up and be fucked? I certainly don't - the word to me implies both feel disdain and a lack of respect for each other.

InSPsFanjoNoOneHearsYouScream · 31/10/2012 13:09

Well listen. If you are all happy with the "joke" why don't YOU jog on and let people who were not, talk about WHY they weren't.

Piss off back to the other thread and row among yourselves.

That's because no one is agreeing with your loony idea that hulk strap ons represent women been repressed for centuries.

People who weren't on the original thread have also said the context it was in wasn't offensive and they don't see the comparison

TinyDancingHoofer · 31/10/2012 13:09

Anger is a precuser to violence
No, it is not. I am perfectly capable at being raging with anger without being violent. Anger is sometimes a precursor to violence.

SolidGoldYESBROKEMYSPACEBAR · 31/10/2012 13:08

Just about everything is offensive to someone, somewhere. I haven't read the other thread yet but IMO the term 'angry fucking' would imply people having sex after a row and finding it additionally exciting, which some people do. It's not always blindingly healthy but it's not all that terrible, either.

PickledFanjoCat · 31/10/2012 13:07

Mrs c

I can only speak for myself but I at no point thought you were pathetic etc. I felt that you had every right to your feelings however I didn't like and still don't the way that beardy is getting portrayed over it.

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 31/10/2012 13:06

When I was at school, sex ed was called 'Human Copulation'. It came complete with a diagram which resembled a ham slicer at a deli.

ISeeDeadFairies · 31/10/2012 13:05

No no it was to mrs sorry! Blush

MrsCantSayAnything · 31/10/2012 13:05

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InSPsFanjoNoOneHearsYouScream · 31/10/2012 13:05

blood babydance Grin that's a bit creepy ain't it. Grin

Fornicating is a better word