Is the term 'Angry Fucking' potentially offensive to some women?

Um, late to this but fwiw.. No, angry fucking shouldn't be offensive.

Fucking is a crude word for sex, sex is consensual. Rape is not consensual.

If the person who was offended based on her past says it was because she was on the receiving end of angry fucking.. she was raped. Two totally different things. Either she wanted to do it do she shouldn't be offended, or she was raped and the fact the her attacker was angry isn't really important, he would have done it either way. I'm probably not saying that well. Hope you can figure out what I am trying to say. .

I don't mean to be unkind I feel for the poster. But she seems to be confusing the two things. I say fucking and quite enjoy a bit of angry fucking but it's because I am in control and in no way of being coersed

Hoiked

And somewhere on the thread there was a reference to 'double teaming' or something similar. I hooked my judgey pants at that too.

And yes, a man making those comments is more offensive, not least because I conjure an image of him doing the deed...be it angry fucking or double teaming or whatever the term was. All seemed a bit degrading, somewhat aggressive and definitely unnecessary

I found the term unnecessary and distasteful. It was a bit aggressive...enough for me to look at the poster name.

What was more awful, though, was the chorus of dismissive comments to the posters who said they were uncomfortable with the term.

I think putting words in other peoples mouths was the whole point of this thread. It seems to be an attempt to get as many feminists as possible to fight the op's corner.

Cant say as im impressed with someone trying to manipulate me into doing their bidding but im not gonna fret over it. the word fucking dosent offend me either in general use or in relation to sex. (sometimes I want to make love, other times I want sex and sometimes .... shock horror I like to fuck)

lot of putting words in other people's mouths here...

Of course, to be fair, could have said girl scouts....have no wish to get flamed for THAT mistake..

at racialist.

It's good to see some actual, reasonable views coming to the thread now, to counter all the "most sexual predators are men and should not be allowed on mumsnet in case they accidentally offend anyone"

TO a great many people, the word 'fucking' when used specifically to refer to sexual penetration (trying to be inclusive here, penetration could be of a male or of a female, with a penis, a strap on, or a vegetable for all I care) is not offensive, scary or revolting. If you find it a distressing word, it's fine to communicate this to anyone you might be having sex with. However, you don't get to imply to other people that their choice of a word to describe a sexual activity means they are involved in a violent relationship or are themselves sexually violent.

That just makes you sound like the sort of prat who overhears a waiter saying 'Black or white coffee' and starts screaming that the waiter Must Be a RACIALIST, WAAAAAAAH!

Checked the thread mentioned and it didn't offend me in the slightest. Would prob have been if someone said it to my children, but as far as I know they are not on MN.

There seems to be a lot of anguished hand-wringing all over the place at the moment.

No skim!

'My arguement was that people think men cant joke about anything remotely sexual as they are all obviously sexual predators which is not the case at all. '

Is that what the problem was?

Christ, I certainly don't think that at all.

But like someone said, (I think?) if a joke was being made involving use of the word 'Nigger' among black people, it would be quite different to it being made by a white person in the middle of a room full of black people.

Not that I know if 'Nigger' is acceptable to use among black people but I have heard it is.

It's certainly not acceptable to use among white people.

This is what I think I mean.

So long as you're not a man

I don't know what I am.

Oh I am a feminist but I never post on the boards (I think that's possible) so it isn't an official point of view

It was designed to start an argument.

Thankfully it failed.

Skim to be honest I think there was a load of twisting going on to involve people from the feminist board.

I'm really pleased it didn't happen, it was almost like let's summon the flying monkeys.

I did say if I was a mn feminist poster I would be offended.

And it's really good to see on the whole this thread is not really turning into the bun fight it could have. It was a goady one.

I'm mainly offended that someone (can't be arsed to remember who) suggested getting in the feminist essentially to tell us all what to think. Offended on behalf of 'the feminists' that is who have a bad enough press on mn as it is.

Oh I thought I did mention the green sex (I think you might have to trawl thru pages of righteous indignation to go back to my original mention!!)

A friend upchucked all over new man after getting down and dirty with him. Hence green sex, as in "green around the gills" or looking ill. She did have acold, so what she brought up was literally green!!