why do women get their meals paid for on a date and chairs pulled out for them and doors opened? and the majority of women are not offended by this.
I don't really know how to respond to someone who thinks this is the blanket status quo, and feels that this is accepted, right, appropriate and that 'the majority of women are not offended by it'.
For starters - I, as a woman, hold doors open for anyone coming through them at the same time as me. Most people I encounter do the same thing. It's basic manners and I don't discriminate based on gender.
The only time anyone pulls a chair out for me is when I'm in a posh restaurant and it's a (paid) waiter doing the pulling. He pulls the chair out for the men as well.
As for paying for meals - this is an antiquated practice which happens less and less. I cannot imagine assuming anyone would pay for my meal and would always offer to pay for myself. The only reason I might not do so was if the person I was with (man or woman, if with a friend) was absolutely insistent, and I didn't want to cause an unnecessary scene. But I'd make sure I paid the next time. I met up with a male friend for lunch recently and I paid (since I invited him out, and since I'm a grown up, salaried individual).
The reason some women might be perfectly willing to be paid for might be because they're a bit tight - or poor - and are happy for someone else to take the financial hit. I'm sure there are many men who would likewise be happy to be paid for, if someone was offering. Not gender-specific.