For all those who have wondered why mansplaining is even a thing

Hierarchy - can be; tends to be more in work settings than in home settings IME.

It would probably be more productive to actually say to the boorish man, 'Hang on a sec, I was just about to say xyz....', or start every conversation with 'I'm a very intelligent woman, so please don't interrupt me with your meaningless man words'.

Maybe these 'mansplainers' only home in on shrinking violets who will only ever talk to other shrinking violets in the ladies loos, or online.

I do believe I could be described as a 'personsplainer'. I irritate both genders.

Do these rude men only talk over women? Do they defer to other mansplainers? If so, how? Is there a hierarchy?

I have two boys and I very much hope they won't grow up to be mansplainers as so many men do.

A lot of them to grow into it in middle age - I am observing it now in many male friends and husbands of friends who appear to be losing their ability to listen to women. Conversations at mealtimes that used to be quite evenly balanced in terms of male/female participation (or rather, the men did occupy most of the speech but not by so much) now consist of the men taking it in turns to hold forth while the women who are just as intelligent and interesting get interrupted when they try to put their view.

I heard a very good evocation of mansplaining from someone describing what it was like on the high table at then almost totally male-dominated Cambridge colleges - someone would ask you a question then answer it for you. The woman in question worked at the British Antarctic Survey and was always getting people who had never met anyone who worked there before telling her what it must be like for her.

Actually I think Fraude is about right probably because I am thinking of my two boys

Driven off? I must have missed that one.

Btw, you're not allowed to discuss that.

wow, even after almost all the self-confessed radical feminists have been driven off this board, they're still getting bashed all the time.

Amazing.

Indeed.

Well, it really does depend on your POV, which is subjective, naturally. What you consider odd, I consider pretty accurate.

The radfem's version of society strikes me as discriminating against and demonising my sons and all men odd.

Horses for courses eh?

You think it's RadFem vs AllOtherWomen then sigmund? How odd.

It's an article about boorish men. Meh.

My favourite 'splaining' is 'radsplaining'.

Rad 'women want '

Women 'No we don't'

Rad 'Yes you do, you just don't know it because the patriarchy brainwashes you and your thoughts are not your own'.

Women: 'Bullshit'

Rad: 'Handmaiden, MRA, man etc...........................'

Is this about men who only have this tendency towards women? Do people think that men like the boor in the article only have this attitude towards women, or that he would ride roughshod over anybody within hearing range, female or male?

I looked the term up on Urban Dictionary, which got to the point:

"To explain in a patronizing manner, assuming total ignorance on the part of those listening. The mansplainer is often shocked and hurt when their mansplanation is not taken as absolute fact, criticized or even rejected altogether."

Right, I'm far more open to that. Although I can't see why anything in there can't apply to women also. Do we also need a 'femsplain', 'gaysplain', 'transplain', 'Tory-splain', 'Marx-splain', etc?

Didn't really get much from that article, to be honest. Seems like a bunch of anecdotes about how she was talked over at a dinner party, or someone bluffed that he'd read a book when he's only read a review. I think it's just bad luck meeting some boorish know-it-alls, and some heavy confirmation bias.

That's very good. Thanks for linking.