Am I wrong to tell DD she is beautiful?

I tell my DS he is beautiful every day. He is. I tell my DD the same. She also is. I don't tell them that they are beautiful because of what they look like. I don't compliment them on their pretty faces or perfect skin, I tell them they are beautiful because when I look at them they make my heart sing and that, to me, is what beauty is.

So, no. No problem with that at all.

No, I think that it's important to try and help them to feel happy (well, comfortable at least) in their own skin.

I don't think that there is anything wrong with telling a child that they are beautiful. I tell my DDs that they are beautiful every day, because they are.

You would be wrong not to. I am not beautiful, but my DDs are - i am very proud of them both. There is a difference between beauty and piling on the slap and being vain.

No. My Dad has always called me beautiful and even though I know he is biased hearing 'you're beautiful' on a regular basis has actually reinforced my self-esteem. I have struggled with an eating disorder and depression over the years and he has pretty much been a constant voice of love and reassurance (DM has been there too but isn't into vocal affection).

Dad can be sexist and I am a bit of a strident feminist but his opinion is (like yours) wrapped up in parental pride. Whatever outdated opinions he may have about women, when it comes to me and DSis he thinks we can kick anyone's arse (literally and metaphorically ) and that is the spirit in which I take his comments. I am a bit sleep-deprived but I hope that made some sense :)

I think it's important to tell your children they are beautiful, inside and out. It is only when physical beauty is the only thing people are valued for it becomes an issue.

I admit to being very shocked at DDs leaving ceremony when the children's qualities were being praised and one girl was praised for always being well dressed and having nice hair. If that had been my child I would have been really annoyed, but the mother of the child (also always immaculate) seemed pleased. My inner feminist had a cats bum mouth but I bit my tongue (until I got home then told DH all about it).

Pretty much what other people have said.

I have DSs and a DD - if I complimented DD solely on her looks and DSs on their talents/character then there would be issues. I do both instead, and then I balance it out by reminding them that they're evil little buggers monsters on occasion too

I tell DS he is beautiful. Along with kind, brave, friendly, funny, caring, loving, gentle, polite and various other things that are just how he is. So no, I don't think you're wrong :)

Id say its fine. Its only worrying if it is bring emphasised over every other quality your child has I think.

I say the same to ds, so I would say it's fine