May I, as probably one of MN's older posters, try and make a point in favour of optimism. I started work in 1962 in a job that was overwhelmingly male. There was no maternity pay, no maternity leave, few nurseries or playgroups, mortgages and loans all needed male guarantors, sexism was the norm, double standards were the norm and it was totally true that you had to be twice as good as your male colleagues and work twice as hard to get anywhere. Female directors were like snowballs in the Sahara, just going into a pub alone (which I did) invited all sorts of opprobrium, women were patronised through gallantry, yet bullied if they stepped out of their role. I could go on and on and on...but you get the picture.
In the last half century there has been a sea change - more change in 50 years than in 500.
Of course, we have a million miles still to go. I don't pretend any different.
But in answer to the OP all these changes have come about through and by women, through feminism, determination and a sense of justice and fair play.
Victims don't change things. If women were victims (in the sense I think the OP means it) things would never have changed. And they have. And they will.
Never, ever be a victim. Never give a damn what people think or men (and some women) say. Do what feels right for you and for your loved ones.
And never give up.