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Pokes head in wonders if she's going to get flambeed ... I'm floundering with this one it's thrown me a bit

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hathorisaskingaquestion · 05/07/2012 20:09

Not a fred about a fred.

Well it is, sort of.

There's a thread at the minute about how some woman dumped a guy because he had a small dick.

I try to impress on DDs (and DSs) that they are what they are and that they shouldn't conform to society's ideals of how they should look, the size of boobs/bums/willys doesn't matter.

How do others deal with this? Is it a feminist issue if it's all about the menz Wink

But it feels like a double standard on the thread to me what feminist links can I quote to show how ridiculous it is? Whether male or female or intersex or anything to be judged on the size of any appendage?

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Whatmeworry · 05/07/2012 22:25

Isn't this one of those "its not you, its me" white lie moments?

Treating others as you would be treated, I don't think its a Feminist thing per se.

TeiTetua · 05/07/2012 22:13

How about this little speech, suitable for any audience:
"Sexual attraction, even physically having sex, is a subjective thing, and we can all be conditioned to expect some particular thing from a partner and believe it's important. If you want to see men being judged, here's an example. But it's far more often women being judged, or even more tragic, judging themselves, for what might be wrong with their body. I just think we ought to try and stop doing it, whoever the victim is."
Sip from glass of water. Sit down.

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hathorisaskingaquestion · 05/07/2012 21:23

All I can think is what chance is there for all the campaigns the feminists run (quite rightly in my opinion) about teaching girls not to conform to societal stereotypes and not worry about size of boobs/waxing/shaving legs and stuff if we, as women, are sending the message to men that all that matters is penis size.

As I said on the other thread, it smells like double standards to me.

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EclecticShock · 05/07/2012 21:18

I agree hath, dumping someone you are compatible in every other way with is crazy.

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hathorisaskingaquestion · 05/07/2012 21:12

I posted

"hathorisaskingaquestion Thu 05-Jul-12 17:48:08
How would any of you feel if it was your son being written about like this?

Or a man was posting "AIBU to dump a woman for having a fanny like a bucket"

Blush not very cultured I'm afraid

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EclecticShock · 05/07/2012 21:05

What about as you have kids and get older, your pelvic muscles can weaken... Isn't that comparable?

minipie · 05/07/2012 21:03

I haven't read the thread but I would have though penis size preference is usually not really about how the man looks - it's more about sexual satisfaction. Many women find size doesn't matter but some only enjoy (or say they only enjoy) sex with medium to large penis'd men.

So I don't think it's really a full parallel with breast size or bum size which are aesthetic preferences rather than having any "function" iyswim.

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hathorisaskingaquestion · 05/07/2012 20:41

The thread is here

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EclecticShock · 05/07/2012 20:27

It is ridiculous and double standards that people think its ok to not be sensitive and respectful about such a topic. People do dump people all the time due to their tastes in physical attractiveness. Some women don't like men who aren't tall, some men don't like women to be taller than them. Personal preference to a degree. Don't have any links but I'm sure someone will.