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Fifty Shades

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neveravictim · 23/06/2012 22:09

I know this has been talked about alot but just wanted some advice. As a victim of rape the idea of submissive sex makes me feel very uncomfortable but all my friends are reading this. So do you think it is a book I should read too. Is t really about women's empowerment? Have nc btw. Thank you x

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catgirl1976 · 24/06/2012 08:50

I've heard it's shite but will no doubt read it myself anyway

Expect it is along the lines of Dan Brown in that its total dross that goes mega for a bit then a few years later no one will admit to liking it in the first place

itsthequietones · 24/06/2012 08:00

It's a complete pile of sh*t. Badly written and definitely not about women being empowered.

Funny though, a friend posted a comment on facebook about it (she hasn't read it), I said not to bother and one of her friends replied that it was wonderful and she wanted to be Ana..... worrying really.

Cloudbase · 23/06/2012 23:15

To be honest, as a rape survivor myself, I wouldn't read it. I have read similar stuff and found it incredibly triggering. Honestly, it's not worth it just to engage with the zeitgeist - you should do what's best for you, and take care of yourself. Besides, what excerpts I've read were incredibly badly written...

BertieBotts · 23/06/2012 23:15

I read the description on amazon, and it sounds like it's describing an abusive relationship to me - what I thought at the time was "Oh not another Twilight - it's attractive to many women in the same way that Twilight is; because the main character acts exactly as an abuser does in that reeling-in period."

Have since found out that the book started life as Twilight fanfiction, which would explain that connection, but ugh.

It's intoxicating because that's what an abusive relationship is like - literally addictive. (I may start referring people to 50 shades/twilight next time they start a smug thread saying "Well I don't see why anyone would ever get into an abusive relationship, it must be obvious!")

It is also likely to be massively triggering as AF says and not empowering at all. Steer well clear :)

AnyFucker · 23/06/2012 22:40

no, don't

don't succumb to the hype

it's shite fiction

and shite for people who might be triggered

don't feel obliged to do anything, just because the masses do it

BlackOutTheSun · 23/06/2012 22:37

I have read it and no plans too. It sound like a load if shite

Selks · 23/06/2012 22:28

I haven't read it because it sounds dire on many levels.

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neveravictim · 23/06/2012 22:26

That makes me feel a bit better. Was starting to feel that I was the only one who hadn't read it. Had heard it was shit too but I can be a bit of a sheep IYKWIM

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ThatGhastlyWoman · 23/06/2012 22:20

On no account should anyone read it. It's sh*t. Are your friends a bit dim? The only people I've encountered who could force themselves to read more than a few pages were.