Is it ok that women have to change their names when they become parents?

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TheSpokenNerd · 23/06/2012 21:47

An angry thread in chat...or maybe AIBU just kicked off when a woman came on to discuss her choice of teaching her 15 month old to call her by name and not "mummy"

I know...thread about a thread...but need to hear your opinions from a Feminist pov

Why do you think some people get so angry about a woman not wanting the title?

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enimmead · 23/06/2012 22:10

Alternatives - "Parent, I'm hungry"?

Not quite the same, is it?

EdithWeston · 23/06/2012 22:07

Men also become "daddy", but that wasn't in the other thread because it was from the pov of an individual parent.

Mummy and Daddy (or variants thereof) are deeply engrained as the terms that children use to refer to their parents. It is unusual for a parent to depart from this, and I suppose it isn't surprising that people comment on it.

There is much more to being a parent than nomenclature.

madwomanintheattic · 23/06/2012 22:05

(that's not to say the role of mother isn't problematic, but the name itself is no more problematic than 'father'. Just the connotations....)

madwomanintheattic · 23/06/2012 22:04

Surely mummies and daddies have to change their name (or choose to) when they become parents?

I don't think the terms mummy and daddy are problematic in themselves, but society's expectations of the roles according to the gender of the parent....

The name itself is more to with individual identity for men and women, Nowt to do with just women changing their names likes they can choose to do on marriage.

oiwheresthecoffee · 23/06/2012 21:51

I ve no idea. I knew someone who called his mum by his name. Its up to the family surely ?

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