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Taking AN ADULT child with a disability to a brothel

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DowagersHump · 12/06/2012 10:26

They are talking about this on Women's Hour now. I wonder if parents with a daughter feel that she needs to be taken to a sex worker? Or is it only male children that 'need' sex?

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TheHouseOnTheCorner · 12/06/2012 12:08

Disability does not make the using of women's bodies for sex into an acceptable thing. That is all.

timetoask · 12/06/2012 12:06

Leithlurker: In answer to your question, I would feel disappointed. I don't believe in paying for sex. I wouldn't want a daughter, son, nephew, niece to work in that industry, therefore I would never condone using someone who works in that industry.

Pagwatch · 12/06/2012 12:03

Leithlurker
I am not sure I understand your question.
I was posting about my son. My sadness about his future life was not the point of my posting. I am not sure I am obliged to cover all my own emotional bases to meet other peoples expectations. If you want to ask how I feel about it by all means do but it sounded a tad like you were rather telling me how I should feel.

I saw that advertised Marysa but didn't watch. Ds2 is so severely impaired this woukd not be an option for him tbh.

EatsBrainsAndLeaves · 12/06/2012 11:39

I think sex does matter. But I don't think exploiting women is acceptable and being disabled does not excuse exploitation.

Leithlurker · 12/06/2012 11:08

timetoask. If your son was to grow up and as an adult you found out that he had paid a male or female sexowrker becouse he said exactly what you just did, that he was lonely, felt unloved, was trying to find his own answers to how important sex is, what kind of response would you give him.

timetoask · 12/06/2012 10:49

My son is only 7 (with special needs), I worry about what he will feel as a teenager and adult, but my concerns are about whether or not he will be able to form a meaningful friendship/relationship. Sex is not that in important in the grand scheme of things. Companionship and not feeling lonely is more so.

ReallyTired · 12/06/2012 10:44

Its weird that many parents go to great lengths to avoid daughters with learning difficulties having sexual relationships because of the risk of pregnancy, STDs and exploitaiton.

MarySA · 12/06/2012 10:40

Pagwatch I watched a programme recently about dating introductions for people with a disability. I wasn't going to watch it, but I thought it was quite sensitively done. I think there was somebody with autism on it.

Leithlurker · 12/06/2012 10:39

Pagwatch, why do you say it is Sad for him, and not yourself? Do you not wish for a society that would allow your son, or daughter with any kind of physicle or emtional impairement to have the kind of relationship you enjoy?

Leithlurker · 12/06/2012 10:37

Doweger, your very nice apology is accepted.

DowagersHump · 12/06/2012 10:36

Pagwatch - I don't want this to descend into attacks on adult people with disability. I hope it doesn't.

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DowagersHump · 12/06/2012 10:33

I don't read either of those Leith, sorry to disappoint. Am trying (and failing, clearly!) to multitask.

I will ask MN to amend the title asap

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Pagwatch · 12/06/2012 10:33

Yes, i think it is talking about adult children.

And I don't think I will stay on here as I can't imagine that this thread will end up with anything other than distressing comments about my near adult male son - although I accept most subjects are covered well in this section.

Fwiw. No. Of course not. Although his desire for physical closeness is apparent and the fact that he will never have a loving physical relationship because of his autism is very sad for him. As I expect it would be for a dd with the same disability.

charitygirl · 12/06/2012 10:31

YY, without a doubt, this is related to male entitlement to sex, and to access to women's bodies. There may be nuances around disability, but entitlement is at the heart of it.

Leithlurker · 12/06/2012 10:31

I think the OP needs to stop reading the sun and or the Mail, her headline would make them both proud.

Prolesworth · 12/06/2012 10:30

ffs is there not going to be anyone on there challenging this shit?

DowagersHump · 12/06/2012 10:30

Sorry - I didn't mean children as such! They are adult children

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ToryLovell · 12/06/2012 10:29

What? Do you mean parents of adults?

Still not right

bejeezusWC · 12/06/2012 10:29

wwwWHHHHHAAAAAT??!!!

colditz · 12/06/2012 10:28

nochildshould be taken to a sex worker, disabled ornot,maleor female, it'san abuse of childhood!