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do you believe in the patriarchy?

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bejeezusWC · 08/06/2012 07:47

A poster on another thread said she views feminism as the struggle against patriarchy. That is how I view it too. I believe that is considered the rad fem stance?

Another poster said she didn't believe in patriarchy

I don't geddit

Why/how are women so unequal if not for patriarchal societies? WHO has been oppressing us?

Please tell me what you think, if you don't believe in patriarchy

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bejeezusWC · 11/06/2012 10:09

sorry-only just been able to come back to this thread-it is too large and unwieldly to access from my phone! Smile

I need to digest some of the finer points, but I have a question for those that dont 'believe in the patriarchy'-or a few actiually;

  1. is it that you agree that society is patriarchal, but just dont think that is to blame for all inequalities between women and men or the abuse and oppression of women?

(BTW I use patriarchal as an adjective and society as the noun)

  1. If you think society is not patriarchal-do you think the oppressions/systemic and widespread abuse/ inequalities are all stand alone problems, not inter connected or related to each other?

  2. what do you think are the reasons for abuse/oppressions/inequalities, if not patriarchy?

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EclecticShock · 11/06/2012 10:08

Not sure how that's relevant?

EclecticShock · 11/06/2012 10:07

What does the term pinnacles mean? Not come across it in this context before.

swallowedAfly · 11/06/2012 10:04

what was your degree subject eclectic?

EclecticShock · 11/06/2012 10:04

Studying a topic, allows you to understand it but it doesn't mean the theories you have studied are the only ones that can offer an explanation of the world. They are still arguments and theories. That's the point about studying usually, understanding how much we don't know about these complex topics.

swallowedAfly · 11/06/2012 10:01

and to twist what i've said and attempt to make out i don't understand the basics of something i got a damn first in is just bizarre and offensive to be honest. i'm finding you really rude and disingenuous.

and i think i'm done with this thread. Grin

swallowedAfly · 11/06/2012 09:59

and YES i feel a bit of a twat for bringing my degree into it but you know i spent three years in depth studying the subject matter you are mangling.

swallowedAfly · 11/06/2012 09:57

what??? my point was that what you are arguing is making the same mistake as those victorian ideas! you are applying a biological term and process to non biological 'things'. and yes they'll win nobel prizes for theories that support the idea of the status quo being natural and good and some evolved state ffs. who do you think doles out these prizes and grants and accolades???

i don't believe in pinnacles. i mean - i'm actually at a loss of how to respond to you because you are just lying about what i think and say which is baffling and the motivation is disturbing to contemplate.

but hey himalaya i only have a degree in this stuff so you know maybe i'm a bit thick and your selective googling is obviously far more credible Biscuit

HotheadPaisan · 11/06/2012 09:33

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Himalaya · 11/06/2012 09:17

Beachcomber -

"Could you stop speaking for feminists with patronising strawfeminist phrases like this"

I can't very well engage with people and ideas without saying what I understand them to be. I can resort to lots of direct quotes but it looks a bit legalistic, nit picky and more antagonistic than I intend to be.

But ok, if you insist

You: "'patriarchy' is used to describe the current global status quo in which women have lower status than men."

Me: "the idea of "the patriarchy" as the singular explanation to everything about the relations between men and women, and society's institutions"

You: no one has argued this.

I cannot see the material distinction between 'global status quo' in the status of men and women and 'everything about the relationship between men and women' (are there some bits that are exempt from the influence of the patriarchy?)

Me: "... seems to close down on feminists ability to engage with modern biology, behavioral economics etc.. because it is built an a foundation which sees human beings as not part of nature."

You - this is false

You: "Feminists refuse to engage in bullshit about social constructs being confused with a natural order."

How do you know what is bullshit at the borders between social construct and biological underpinnings if you refuse to engage with it?

I don't think you are stupid. But I don't think anyone can tell bullshit from credible research without engaging with it.

Himalaya · 11/06/2012 09:06

Beachcomber

What you said "The natural order argument against feminism, is that the current state of affairs is a natural order, and not one influenced by human laws or intervention.

It is the natural order that men have higher status than women.

The natural order is neither fair nor unfair. It just is.

'Fair' and 'unfair' are human constructs.

It is contradictory to argue that the current state of affairs is the natural order, but concede that it is unfair.
er, and not one influenced by human laws or intervention.

It is the natural order that men have higher status than women.

The natural order is neither fair nor unfair. It just is.

'Fair' and 'unfair' are human constructs.

It is contradictory to argue that the current state of affairs is the natural order, but concede that it is unfair."

I.e you pull up the sexists' argument because you say there is a contradiction in seeing unfairness if there are natural causes.

My point is that the sexists' argument falls apart much earlier. There is no such thing as a "natural order" uninfluenced by human customs, laws or interventions.

Himalaya · 11/06/2012 08:59

Er, because I don't think that and it would be rude.

Beachcomber · 11/06/2012 08:47

Himalaya, why didn't you just write;

You; bit thick and simple.

Me; clever and sophisticated.

? Hmm

Beachcomber · 11/06/2012 08:45

You: (if you will allow me to try to summarise) Nature is morally neutral. Patriarchy is wrong. Therefore patriarchy can't be part of nature. Therefore any attempt to describe it in natural terms are attempts to make it appear morally neutral.

What the actual fuck?

You are really pissing me off now.

See above for what my argument actually is.

Biscuit
Beachcomber · 11/06/2012 08:40

My argument is that patriarchy (male dominated society/male supremacy/female oppression) exists.

Because I can see it. I can observe it. I can count the number of women damaged and killed by it. I can see with my own eyes how women are killed, maimed, imprisoned, pimped, trafficked, exploited, bought, sold, beaten, assaulted, raped, harassed, subjugated and considered lower status.

And I'm against that. Feminism is against that.

That's all.

Himalaya · 11/06/2012 08:28

Beachcomber (this is response to your previous post... Just catching up)

  1. I don't mean to cause offence. I was using the analogy to describe how this conversation feels to me, and why we seem to be at an utter loss to understand each other, despite not bring in opposition IMO.

  2. See response to SAF

  3. For a definition of 'evolve' i would go with - "A process that results in heritable changes in a population spread over many generations." (NB good discussion here on how many dictionary definitions are wrong).

It primarily refers to biological evolution where the unit of selection is the gene, but there are good arguments for parallels in the gradual changes in technologies, business models, ways of organising, language, ideas etc...that make up society.

By natural I mean everything really - I don't think there is s clear dividing line where 'nature' stops and an independent domain called 'man-made' takes over.

Having said that I don't think in terms of "the natural order" which has connotations that natural means unchangeable and predetermined. Your definition "natural order - the physical universe considered as an orderly system subject to natural (not human or supernatural) laws." reflects this. Yes the physical universe is orderly at the level of atoms, and we can talk about laws of physics. But at the level of organisms, ecosystems and societies it is much messier and to talk about natural laws as being analogous to human laws or supernatural laws is misleading.

How can you be so sure that the capacity for a lion to kill an antelope is an evolutionary adaptation, but the capacity for a person to kill another person (for resources, for pride, for sexual jealousy whatever) isn't? For things to be evolutionary adaptations doesn't mean everyone has to do them all the time (not sure if this was your reason why not?)

  1. Not disenguous. I take a question about political representation to be about political representation, not the representativeness of politicians in respect to the make-up of overall population (both are important questions). I wouldn't say the male population in a dictatorship where the dictator is a man have political representation. Similarly if he dies and his wife takes over I wouldn't say the women gain political representation.

There's all the definitions done.

I think at the core of the disagreement is the different approached to thinking about nature and therefore the logic line that flows from that

You: (if you will allow me to try to summarise) Nature is morally neutral. Patriarchy is wrong. Therefore patriarchy can't be part of nature. Therefore any attempt to describe it in natural terms are attempts to make it appear morally neutral.

Me: There are injustices, suffering and wasted potential in the world. Not every bad outcome is the result of simple oppression and victimhood. Understanding where things have complex causes, including elements of human nature does not justify doing nothing about then but is crucial to better address them.

EclecticShock · 11/06/2012 08:19

Himalaya, I think your posts make perfect sense.

Beachcomber · 11/06/2012 08:08

Same here.

Your argument is all over the place Himalaya. Could you stop speaking for feminists with patronising strawfeminist phrases like this;

It saddens me that feminists buy that argument, rather than understanding evolution and knocking it down.

And stuff like this;

In contrast the idea of "the patriarchy" as the singular explanation to everything about the relations between men and women, and society's institutions seems to close down on feminists ability to engage with modern biology, behavioral economics etc.. because it is built an a foundation which sees human beings as not part of nature.

a) Nobody has argued the first bit.

b) Therefore second bit is false.

Basically your argument seems to come down to "feminists are a bit thick and cling to a belief in the existence of male dominated society despite evidence and theories which show the contrary". except they don't

Too much cognitive dissonance for me I'm afraid. I just go by the body count.

Feminists refuse to engage in bullshit about social constructs being confused with a natural order. That doesn't mean we are so thick as to think that humans are not part of nature.

Sheesh.

Himalaya · 11/06/2012 07:45

SAF - gaslighting? That is a new term to me. Wikipedia says "Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in which false information is presented with the intent of making a victim doubt his or her own memory and perception."

Psychological abuse? WTF?

You said: it's not contentious or anything other than a statement of fact to say that societies and economics do not 'evolve'.

My response: this is not true, there is mainstream research and books about how economies can be understood as evolving. You can disagree with then of course, but your perception of uncontentious fact is wrong.

You said: development of societies and economies are all about choices and arrangements and ways of organising that are chosen - there is no natural process involved in them.

My response: there are people getting Nobel prizes for studying the natural basis of decision making and choices. This is not a fringe idea. Again, you can disagree, but thinking this is a crazy-arsed fringe idea is a mistake.

You described ideas of evolution and society (which you counter) in terms of "evolutionary purpose", "seeing societies on an evolutionary scale", " seeing Western Society as the pinnacle of evolution", "a line of evolutionary progress", " society as on a straight line going from a to z."

I agree, all these ideas are nonsense on stilts. But if you think they are descriptions of concepts in evolution in modern science (progress, pinnacle, purpose, straight line of development etc..) you are mistaken. They are ideas from Victorian social Darwinism and the folk idea of evolution.

swallowedAfly · 10/06/2012 23:31

i really don't know what to say in response to you responding to something i did not say at all Confused

it's like gaslighting 101 in here.

Himalaya · 10/06/2012 22:59

SAF -

I get a bit bored with these discussions too, but I also get Sad that feminism seems to be built on an analysis so divorced from modern biology.

Your arguments are based on an idea of evolution which owes more to Victorian social Darwinism than modern science.

Just about every statement you have made about evolution has been a misunderstanding. Evolution doesn't have a purpose, there is no such thing as "less evolved", there is no such thing as an evolutionary line of progress, there is no evolutionary scale, it doesn't go from A to Z etc...

You are arguing against a folk idea of evolution this one?. (which is the same folk idea of evolution which is used to promote the argument that if sexist patterns of thinking and action have a basis in evolution they must be justified because "evolution = progress" (it doesn't))

It saddens me that feminists buy that argument, rather than understanding evolution and knocking it down.

If you are interested in ideas on how economies evolve I really recommend the book "The Origin of Wealth" by Eric Beinhocker review which summarises a lot of recent research very well. At the very least you should note that it is not a basic and noncontroversial "statement of fact" that economies do not 'evolve'.

Similarly the work of psychologist Daniel Kahneman (Thinking Fast and Slow) who got the Nobel Prize for Economics, which looks at how our economic choices (often irrational ones) are related to natural cognative processes.

The books i mentioned are not fringe ideas, and they are not focused on distinctions or relations between men and women. But they do highlight new fields of work that are uncovering surprising conclusions about how human nature, society and economics interact (which is hugely important for designing policies to meet feminist goals and address injustice, poverty etc..)

In contrast the idea of "the patriarchy" as the singular explanation to everything about the relations between men and women, and society's institutions seems to close down on feminists ability to engage with modern biology, behavioral economics etc.. because it is built an a foundation which sees human beings as not part of nature.

swallowedAfly · 10/06/2012 10:13

it's not contentious or anything other than a statement of fact to say that societies and economics do not 'evolve'. you are comparing apples and oranges which was a mistake made a lot by early hijackers of evolutionary theory.

evolution is a biological process. development of societies and economies are all about choices and arrangements and ways of organising that are chosen - there is no natural process involved in them - it's all man made and therefore none of it is fixed. resistance to change is about power, not nature.

also 'murderous' is not an evolutionary trait - it may well be a social trait connected to the choices made in development/organisation. the only 'natural', 'evolved' element is the flight or flight instinct - a survival response triggered by perceived, immediate danger. wars and genocides are not about an instinct or evolutionary purpose they are about power and choices in the social arrangement.

tbh himalaya it would take writing an essay to look at your questions and it's an essay i wrote many times over as an undergraduate and i'm not being rude when i say i can't be bothered to write it again - i'm just stating a fact because i don't have time to write essays on mn that i'm not gaining ucas points for Grin and i did my first degree in the time of floppy discs so it's not like i can copy and paste Grin

the mistake of seeing societies as evolving or as placed on an evolutionary scale with was a kind of cultural imperialism - a hijacking of evolutionary theory which only applies to biological phenomena to try and say that victorian western society was at the pinnacle of evolution and smaller, 'other' societies were less evolved or 'savage' or 'primitive'. it was an early version of the kind of crappy evo-science crap we see now that tries to naturalise phenomena by applying crazy arsed mis-theory to it.

i don't believe in a golden era when things were wonderful, i don't see us as on a line of evolutionary progress or regression in social terms. i see a set of power relations that then mould social reality to benefit those in power with the status quo. i don't see society as on a straight line going from a to z - it's wiggled and swirled all over the place in whatever way suited those who were benefiting and had the power to steer it.

this isn't about evolution it's about power.

Beachcomber · 10/06/2012 09:52

OK, lots of points, will try to be clear and logical.

  1. Himalaya, 'patriarchy' is used to describe the current global status quo in which women have lower status than men. How this status quo manifests, varies from culture to culture and over history. However what remains a constant, is women's lower status, male exploitation of women, male control, male power holding and male violence. This is what patriarchy refers to - I prefer the term 'male supremacy' myself because I think it is more descriptive.

Now you may not recognise this state of affairs, or you may think patriarchy is a silly word to describe it. Fair enough. However what makes you think that you can then declare that anyone who politically analyses the current status quo, and has developed a term to describe it, as being comparable to someone who believes in god?

A person who believes in god has abstract faith. A person who recognises the existence of patriarchal society, is doing so based on concrete observation of real women's lived experience. Again, this is unbelievably rude of you to speak of others in this way just because you don't understand. You have had it explained to you over and over again that patriarchy = male dominated society. I'm at an utter loss as to why that is such an abstract and airy fairy concept for you, that the only 'comprehension handle' you have for it is; 'what a bit like god?'. No, it isn't like god when women are being raped, assaulted, mutilated, beaten, killed, imprisoned, trafficked, prostituted, pornified, exploited, oppressed, paid less, enslaved, sexually exploited, taught to submit to male will, under-represented in power structures, etc.

It is a huge fucking human rights travesty.

It is absolutely concrete, physical reality. There is nothing abstract or godlike about the word used to describe this sorry state of affairs. Patriarchy, male supremacy, female oppression, call it what you will. Patriarchy is when girls' feet are bound in China, when girls are genetically mutilated in Africa and the UK, when girls and women are murdered for 'honour' in the UK, Pakistan, India, etc, when rape victims are stoned in Saudi Arabia, when a woman can't get an abortion despite PIV being mandatory, when women are raped, beaten, killed and prostituted the world over. Patriarchy is rape culture, domestic violence, the objectification of women, women as less than human, women working when they are needed for an industrial revolution and becoming Stepford 50s wives when their 'workforce in reserve' is surplus to requirements.

To compare having observed this pattern of human behaviour, and having a word to it, to believing in god, is very very offensive. (No offence to spiritual people - I think it is a pretty offensive comparison to you folks too.)

  1. I used patriarchy as encompassing how humans evolve. I think bad punctuation probably meant it read as societies and economies evolve too. IMO societies and economies develop. (Important difference.)

  2. Himalaya, I'm confused as to how you are defining 'evolve', 'natural', for the purposes of this discussion. I have already said on this thread, the natural order is neither fair nor unfair - it just is. Your example of humans murdering other humans is not an example of a natural order. An example of natural order would be a lion killing an antelope for the purposes of survival - the killing of the antelope is neither fair nor unfair, neither right nor wrong, it simply is.

Here is the definition of natural order that I use;

natural order - the physical universe considered as an orderly system subject to natural (not human or supernatural) laws.

  1. Your answer about political representation is either utterly naive or disingenuous.
dittany · 10/06/2012 09:37

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Himalaya · 10/06/2012 09:25

So what is the problem with a naturalistic analysis? Why are you pulling me up for talking about a loaded word?