AIBU to treat male and female posters differently on feminism threads?

Women and men aren't in the same position of course. So treating everybody "equally" will generally mean that women will lose out, because women are already in a disadvantaged position to men.

Men are trained to dominate and expect their voices to be listened to and heard, and they can get very shirty and sometimes even vengeful if it doesn't happen. I've seen it happen on here sometimes.

Brain Smith is a man because - women don't have brains??

I was nodding to Pride's post - I would be very unhappy if someone refused to recognise or engage with my opinion just because I am a woman.

I have the same problem ThePieSmuggler.One of the basics of my feminist beliefs is that people should be treated equally regardless of gender,and while I know it can be more complicated than this,I would be furious if posters wouldn't discuss certain topics with me because I was a woman,so I can't justify doing that to a man.It makes me feel hypocritical
I know not everyone feels like this,though.

I think you're better addressing the opinion rather than the person's sex.

Although there are male posters who come on here displaying a great deal of male privilege and entitlement and obviously only want to get in the way of the feminism. But then again, that's behaviour that needs to be addressed rather than someone's sex.

The thing is Thepie, men often dominate conversations in real life, this has actually been proven in research. This forum and feminist discussions in general are an opportunity for women to dominate and itis important that they do because it is easy for men NOT to understand our point of view because they don't experience institutional sexism first hand and also because women are the ones leading the fight as we have the most vested interest and we need to do this for ourselves. It's nice if they can support the cause but they should not dominate or derail. There are plenty of resources for them to access to learn. Some people are cagey about men having a big part in a feminist discussion as it can be seen as muscling in and unfortunately because many men argue againstequality because they perceive it to threaten their advantage.

Would second Takver's point, also having been accused of hairy-handed tendencies.

It can be a very effective way to silence other women who simply don't agree with you.

To me, as a first time poster on feminism (gulp!) what strikes me is that perhaps I don't understand the difference between equality and feminism. In my opinion OP your behaviour is sexist- you treat a poster differently purely because of their sex. I understand your reasoning and don't mean to sound critical, but this is how it appears to me. I'll watch this thread with interest and see what others have to say.

X post with Pride.

I do definitely agree that ignoring the intentional de-railers is the way to go wherever possible, though.

How do you know who is a man, though unless they say so?

Genuine question - a couple of times people have thought I'm a man (not on feminism threads, and it wasn't relevant to the discussion, only 'there's a bloke on here who says X' sort of thing). I did point out I'm an enthusiastic Mooncup user (as per my posting history), but I was still a bit bemused by it . . .

I think that the attitude to someone who genuinely doesn't understand feminism and is asking,or whose arguments are contradictory,should be the same whether the poster is a man or a woman.
I can see the advantage in women being able to discuss feminism in a feminist space,but I also think 50% of society is male and if you are not going to debate and explain your beliefs to with and to a large group of people however defined you are not going to get far.( I know about the trolling and derailing but that doesn't change my opinion on this.)
I don't see why posting to a man that he doesn't understand feminism should make you feel guilty though!
By the way,how are you going to tell if we are men or not,to decide whether to ignore us?

Rightly or wrongly, I feel the same way.

The skill of ignoring men is underrated, in my opinion.