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This has made me really uneasy I'd like your thoughts

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hathorkicksass · 30/04/2012 08:35

im on my phone so can't link butwas driving and heard an ad on the radio for the Belfast telegraph. I'm hoping some of you can link and if not I will get the Paper later and scan it in.

Can you tell from looking at a woman how many sexual partners she has had. Who has slept with only one man who is saving herself and who has had 15 partners.

What do you think?

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Nyac · 03/05/2012 10:17

Paying women for sex is controlling women.

The Swedish laws are about controlling men's destructive sexual behaviour. Prostituted people are decriminalised in Sweden. Nobody is stopping them having sex with anybody.

MsAnnTeak · 02/05/2012 11:34

This doesn't come as any suprise to me, over recent years there has been a push in Ireland to implement the laws Sweden has as part of their drive to abolish prostitution in Ireland. All part of controlling women and how they conduct themselves sexually.
Most disgusting is part of the funding has come from those who were responsible for the Magdeleine Laundries, responsible for the enslavement and rape of thousands of Irish women for decades.

Nyac · 01/05/2012 18:37

If you send a letter to the editor it will be seen. They won't pay much attention to comments from the internet.

You get all sorts of nutters posting. Grin

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hathorkicksass · 01/05/2012 17:13

I've made an account but how do I comment? I can reply, but how do I write my own comment iyswim?

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hathorkicksass · 01/05/2012 17:09

I'm so glad you all agree - I actually thought I might be over-reacting a bit when I heard the ad on the radio yesterday. But the article has made me so so angry.

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carernotasaint · 01/05/2012 17:08

This is fucking disgusting. Its 2012 FFS. And men will be reading it. Its a subliminal, no a direct message that women are property not people.
This is why i turned my back on the church (though i was brought up catholic ) when i was 19 never to return.

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hathorkicksass · 01/05/2012 16:56

fantastic.

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CrunchyFrog · 01/05/2012 16:53

I'm sending them a message on FB - what do you think of this?

Contacting to express my disgust at the article you ran yesterday: www.belfasttelegraph.co.uk/woman/sex-love/how-many-sexual-partners-should-a-woman-have-had-16152412.html?ino=2#wcol

Not only exceptionally biased towards religion, also misogynistic, sexist and infuriatingly simplistic.

The stereotyping is laughable. It's voyeuristic, titillating "non news."

As to the religious angle - Christianity is in large part responsible for the ridiculous whore/ madonna complex so many women are battling. Do you know what? Women are allowed to enjoy sex (GASPS OF HORROR!) What's more, they are not property to be "saved" for a handover from one man (father) to the next (husband.) There is nothing dirty, shameful or disgusting about consensual sex between two adults, whatever their gender or marital status.

WDYT?

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hathorkicksass · 01/05/2012 16:50

I replied to you (well I think it's you lol)

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hathorkicksass · 01/05/2012 16:46

It is shit isn't it?

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hathorkicksass · 01/05/2012 16:46

How do I comment?

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CrunchyFrog · 01/05/2012 16:45

Commented then shared it on my facebook. Might go harass the BT's page now.

(Having read the patronising shit properly, I am now Very Cross as opposed to the Quite Rankled I was earlier!)

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hathorkicksass · 01/05/2012 16:43

Oh you can comment online I forgot ....

Grin
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CrunchyFrog · 01/05/2012 16:41

Oh, I commented. Grin bet you can't guess which one is me...

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hathorkicksass · 01/05/2012 16:33

Crunchy - Thank you - I couldn't find it online yesterday!

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CrunchyFrog · 01/05/2012 16:31

Here's a clicky link to the offending piece of bollocks.

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hathorkicksass · 01/05/2012 16:27

Well, since I'm already going to hell for not staying married to my ex I'm hardly bothered about that one Grin

And it was two women who wrote it.

And how stereotypical that the tattooed pierced girl is the bi-sexual with the most partners.

I'm spitting bullets.

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Nyac · 01/05/2012 16:26

It's just really vile.

They have stupid articles like this in women's magazines, but at least only women will see them. For men to be reading about and judging these women in a newspaper is pretty sick, especially given the sexual double standard.

You could also mention that christianity (of both brands) is responsible for the virgin/whore dichotomy, but that might get you into trouble with everybody in NI.

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hathorkicksass · 01/05/2012 16:13

Thank you.

I can't believe how angry I am about it.

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Nyac · 01/05/2012 16:11

"prurient", "sexist", "voyeuristic"

are words you could use.

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hathorkicksass · 01/05/2012 13:03

So who would like to help me compose my letter of complaint?

I'm still fuming about it.

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blackcurrants · 01/05/2012 12:39

Urrrgh. No, you're not overreacting to be uneasy. I'm uneasy. And fucking raging. What is this, the nineteenth century?

CrunchyFrog · 01/05/2012 11:35

FFS.

FFFFFS.

Most people here would see nothing wrong with it though, good ol' Norn Iron and it's Christian-based patriarchy.

I know women who have never orgasmed and see nothing wrong with it, who have no idea how their own bodies work because sex, even within marriage, is so shameful...

It makes me feel ill.

Signed, a filthy little tart. (I've slept with more than 10 men. Sometimes I even enjoyed it.)

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hathorkicksass · 30/04/2012 14:41

www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=122646647870074&set=a.122592731208799.21733.100003742192034&type=1&theater

Again, hope that works - that's the actual article - the whole left hand page is the virgin/only slept with husbands brigade (all Christians) and the two wee tiny bits on the left are the two girls who have had more experiences.

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hathorkicksass · 30/04/2012 14:36

And who the fuck (pardon the pun Wink) are they to decree how many partners I or any other WOMAN (capitals courtesy of the BelTel) should have?

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