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"uni lad" and lad culture

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cinnamonnut · 08/04/2012 14:08

There was a big furore recently about the "uni lad" magazine advocating rape. They closed their website to "clean up their act" but their facebook page is still so misogynistic :(
This popped up in the activity feed on my facebook the other day. I got involved but ended up having more sexist comments fired at me and in the end deleted my comments to avoid becoming a target.
www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=381942055162193&set=a.352663588090040.76923.146505212039213&type=1&theater
Fortunately it never reached 15,000 likes but this type of behaviour is becoming more and more accepted.

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BertieBotts · 08/04/2012 17:15

I've noticed things like this at my uni as well. Last Christmas I was sent an email about an event called "Love Xmas/Fuck Xmas" - the image on the first half was a scantily clad woman in santa type underwear, and the image on the second was a sleeping drunk, overweight older man dressed as santa. Nice.

FallenCaryatid · 08/04/2012 17:10

'Bet there's more than one MNer's offspring on there. They must be so proud.'

How old are your children, AyeRobot?
I would feel ashamed if either my son or my daughter appeared like any of those on that site, and wonder what had gone wrong and how I could change it.
Rather than feeling proud.

ArtexMonkey · 08/04/2012 17:01

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cinnamonnut · 08/04/2012 16:57

The same wanker got angry at a girl for not getting off with him - "wtf? I've been nice to you for like two fucking weeks."

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messyisthenewtidy · 08/04/2012 16:53

Vivian, yes I agree that it probably starts with the imitating. The question is, what are they imitating? IMO, they're imitating what they believe to be manly behavior, which is the root problem. Most boys will at some point in their journey into manhood come across the attitude that to be a man is to put down women.

And most girls will come across the attitude that if you want a boyfriend you'd better not object too strongly for fear of being ridiculed.

cinnamonnut [buwink] Hell hath no fury like a wanker told to stop perving on women!

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cinnamonnut · 08/04/2012 16:50

AyeRobot definitely!

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AyeRobot · 08/04/2012 16:39

Bet there's more than one MNer's offspring on there. They must be so proud.

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cinnamonnut · 08/04/2012 16:36

What's nice to read the comments on the "someone give this guy a medal" post from both men and women attacking it as sexual abuse.

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KellyKettle · 08/04/2012 16:29

He has 145.5k likes for his page?

The most shocking thing for me is the comments from women supporting what he does or slating other women.

KellyKettle · 08/04/2012 16:26

Thanks cinnamon

KellyKettle · 08/04/2012 16:26
Shock

I reported for hate speech. May try again for nudity.

GnocchiGnocchiWhosThere · 08/04/2012 16:25

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TunipTheVegemal · 08/04/2012 16:24

' I can't begin to think what can be done about it except for a LOUD OBJECTION from female students'

University authorities could be supportive, for a start. They weren't when I was there but it would be so easy to put a stop to stuff like soft porn images on posters on campus.

Obviously they do not control the social media students use but they can have firm anti-bullying policies in place and include sexist bullying in that and be as strict on it as they would (one hopes) on racist bullying.

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cinnamonnut · 08/04/2012 16:22

messyisthenewtidy I can identify with that completely. A few months ago I was at a party, and a girl had drunk herself into a terrible state. She was sort of lolling around with her toga (fancy dress) falling off and a guy started taking photos and shouting "GAGGING FOR IT ISN'T SHE".

I essentially told him to stop being such a wanker and got so many insults thrown my way, mostly appearance-related, which culminated in the guy telling my boyfriend "you need to keep your girlfriend on a leash."

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WidowWadman · 08/04/2012 16:21

I was contemplating reporting it as hate speech, but reported as nudity. There should be an "other" with a comment box.

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cinnamonnut · 08/04/2012 16:20

Just "Uni Lad" KellyKettle

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KellyKettle · 08/04/2012 16:19

What's his FB page called? I can't find it via my phone.

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cinnamonnut · 08/04/2012 16:18

I reported it as nudity too, WidowWadman, but I think it would probably have been more appropriately reported as hate speech or something along those lines.

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messyisthenewtidy · 08/04/2012 16:16

But, Vivian, I think it's deeper than just "idiotic monkeying" around by adolescent boys that will stop when girls stand up and say "no". Because the girls ARE standing up and saying "no" and they get shot down.

And shot down with a ready made range of insults (humorless, lesbian, ugly and really just wants a shag, etc) that seem specifically designed to make that objecting girl feel as she's on her own and isolated from other women. It feels like a tactic, a clever tactic of divide and conquer. I'm not saying it is a conspiracy but you've been on the receiving end of a barrage of insults from guys acting in unison against you, it sure as hell feels like one.

WidowWadman · 08/04/2012 16:16

FB will only delete pictures if they know about them, hence the report function. (Which I used). I'm not so much offended by the nudity, but by the implication that it is being published without the woman's knowledge or consent.

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cinnamonnut · 08/04/2012 16:15

I agree VivianDarkBloom - if you can get them to listen and understand the damage these attitudes cause, you can sometimes change their minds. My boyfriend is genuinely shocked when I mention certain statistics to him (e.g. 75% of women in porn sexually abused as children) and I think there's a general prevailing culture of ignorance here, which is slowly turning into genuine hate and vitriol for women who dare to speak out.

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JosephineCD · 08/04/2012 16:13

I don't think the rise in porn has anything to do with women's rights. It's because of technology making it more easily available.

KellyKettle · 08/04/2012 16:11

Sorry tying slowly & error-laden posts from my phone.

KellyKettle · 08/04/2012 16:09

You're right Vivian I remember finding these attitudes at Uni, feeling uncomfortable but thinking it was because I was prudish and should be more open minded. I recall a friend dumping a guy because he liked porn and it was a deal deal breaker for her. We all thought she was narrow minded & tolerated housemates watching porn, or turning it on to make us watch. It made me so uncomfortable but I accepted the culture. I wish I could go back 10 years and tell her well done.

flippinada · 08/04/2012 16:08

I reckon there's something in that messy. Women know your place kind of thing.

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